As a woman I never look at the shoes to get an idea of cock size. I always look at the hands/fingers. Longish slim finger "tend" to mean a longer slim hard cock, and short stubby fingers "tend" to mean a shorter meater cock. As I stated this is a tendency not a sure and fast method but I've found it is more accurate than inaccurate.

Love watching vids of men jacking off, and pics of beautiful cocks

Boy oh boy this topic sure did seem to get off the subject. But maybe it's because I'm older than all the other posters on this subject. First, pedophelia has been a concern in ALL the countries mentioned (including those practicing sharia law) since before I was born. My mother recounted to me how her mother's mother recounted to her that she (my great grandmother) was to watch out for a certain farmer in the area (northern rural Michigan in the later 1800s) as he was known "to do not nice things to little girls". There was a "neighbor" man I was warned about, and a family (husband and wife and their friends) that I warned my kids about.
Secondly, I have traveled to many countries in Europe (not Austrialia which is a continent in itself and the oposite direction). In all cases parents tell their children the same things we tell ours "Don't talk to strangers". Unfortunately, I have gotten some kids into trouble by speaking to them but have spoken to the parents and explained I was just being friendly and then chatted with them.

Third, sometimes when we critize a government the citizens feel critized too. The French do not take kindly to WWII jokes, the Brits were upset if people critized Churchil in the 40s, and Pierre Trudeau comments did not endear Candanians to many people. Just because "you" don't like a particular offical doesn't mean that someone else doesn't. I never did like Bill Clinton but many of my friends did. But I would never be rude enough to tell them they voted for a man who couldn't keep his cock in his pants and thought more often with it than his brain which was the size of an unfertilized egg. I may think that but just wouldn't tell that to them.

Back to the point: Chatting with minors in the US or on a US site is ILLEGAL and MUST be reported. Minor is defined as any human being under the age of 18. Both Ben and Anna have stated the methods for reporting minors, in addition moderators are listed in RED at the top of the user list. When I have come across a minor they have dealt swiftly with the individual.

What I have found Secret is that as I have gotten older (as has my husband) we've both become less inhibited. Ten years ago there is no way I would ever have come to a site like this, let alone tell my husband about, or ask him to join it, and come on it with me. We're trying new positions, engaged in online 3-ways (something that isn't going to happen in real life), and exploring new ideas to spice up our marital sex life (after 29 yrs it does need a little sprucing up )

There have been times Secret when I get jealous of the younger women on here. It's usually a temporary thing and I think it's just natural if you get a connection going with the people you chat with. My chats aren't limited simply cyber-sex. Many don't include discussions of sex at all. Sometimes I just listen to what someone has to say in a non-judgemental fashion. That's the way I'm made, I do the same thing in real life relationships. As long as the feeling goes away I know I'm still grounded in reality and that I know this is a chat room and people have lives that don't include those that are here.

As we have seen, people come and people go, for a variety of reasons. It is possible that women are more prone to developing something more than the equivalent of a "one-night" stand online than many (but certainly not All) men.

I have my special friends on here, some I see often, some not so often. Whether they want to chat with me or not is their decision and if I'm no longer inclined to chat with someone I'll politely let them know too.

As a woman responding the verbal intercourse between Perkin-Aus and Jason_Cyber: I have to agree with Perkin that somewhere Jason jumped to a conclusion that I did not see in the initial post. I was confused by the reference to MacCarthism because that was a man pulling the names of people he didn't like and who disagreed with him politically out of a hat for prosecution. The "sting" operations that are made (not the contrived ones like what was on NBC/MSNBC) usually involve law enforcement agents going to known web sites where men who engage or troll for underage kids are most likely to converge. They may or may not come to this site. They pose as teens or children and wait and see what happens. True operations have to be careful not to be leading, the decoy must act like the person they are trying to portray (not as an adult would).

In the past year or so several women (all teachers) have been arrested for having sexual intercourse with students. They were all married and in one case had children older than their victim. So much for the "homosexual male" theory.

Police look for the places where NAMBA associates lurk and many NAMBA associates are your neighbors - they look like normal heterosexual males with a wife and kids in the suburbs. Pedophiles can not be stereotyped as they cross genders and sexual orientation. Their vicitims are related to their orientation.

As Ben said, it is OUR DUTY to report any suspected underage users ASAP to a moderator. This is a good site don't let it be shut down because of a minor trying to act like a big shot.

And as Anna would say: "Let's all play nice in the sand box."

I know this is for the guys but while you are all out this weekend you can think of your friend TigerLilly laying back in the woods rubbing her clit uder the trees. I'll be the only one in the campgroung so I'll have lots and lots of fun outdoors.

I just thought of another one that another guy reminded me of "Wanna fuck?" That was the absolute worst.

Tonight to start a chat one guy pvtd with "I want to pee on you, let me please" that called for a quick ignore.

If you were younger I would say you were sucumbing to peer presure and the "in" thing to do and be. But you are in college and 20 so you are at an age where being "in" shouldn't be a major concern to you. One of the things I like about the younger generations is that you can freely experiment with your sexuality and make an informed choice about what you truly feel.

My advice is to listen to Perkin-AUS. The worst thing you can do is to convince yourself you are "straight" when you aren't. When you do that you can end up wrecking many lives. I have seen too many marriages between "straight" people end up in divorce after 10 or more years because one partner has discovered they are "gay". In almost all of these cases there were children involved and they bore the brunt of their parents decision. Just as kids get teased if one parent leaves the other for someone of the opposite sex it can sometimes be worse if it is for someone of the same sex because young kids just don't have the capacity to understand the deep sexual issues involved.

So experiment now not later.

I'm trying to understand the likes and dislikes of men in general from the various posts on this topic. Some of you I've chatted with and have gotten an idea of what you like in a woman (the flesh and blood type not the cyber type).

What I wonder is for those that say the smile and eyes are important - if you saw a woman from the neck up only and she had that special smile and that slightly devilish look in her eyes that got you interested and hot would you be turned off if she turned out to be one of the following:

a.) really thin with no bust line and no ass
b.) overweight but healthy

"I like large older women, especially in bed." Not a good way to make a woman feel good about herself or to get her into your bed. I certainly would never use the reverse on a man. Other equally bad lines: "I love to suck on small tits", "Small tits = Tight pussy, and I'd luv to get me some"

Funniest - "You smell like sex"

Only once did someone tell me what to do. At first it was fine but then it started to get a bit out of line and made me uncomfortable.

I prefer to give pleasure by telling my cyber partner what I am doing to them, and having them just lay back and use their imagination and feel the words on their body. If you're good at visualization this can be just like having the person there with you.