Afraid to say but my friend your lady friend is pretty much made up in her mind the things of her desires and what she will or won't do. That just a female for you. They are all so different in the way to look at things and in the ways they feel about things. I call it bring fickle minded.
Now I have been with a few girls over the past years, my sex life started Kate in my life, but believe me they each come with much different outlooks.
You really have to work you ass off to pleasure them just as much as you want pleasuring back. They need lots or oral sex and the fondling and petting and rubbing all the right places, it takes them much longer times to get their engines fired up to start their horniness they don't get a quick response like us guys to. Their excitement level is slower but not all are this way.
I have been around younger ones that fire up at much younger ages and never do get enough, they are like horny 24/7!!
Just a case of being in the right place at the right time, but there are those out there that are cock/dick worshiper big time!!
Hope this helps you out some!!

If she has done one before it may have been an unpleasant experience. Dirty cock of sour tasting cum. Some foods like dairy types do that. If so she might not want to repeat it.

I'm sure some woman out there has written a feminist article on sucking cock being empowering for a woman, try to track some down if she's against it for ideological reasons

And this is the difference in sex with other guys or sex with a woman.....

You really have to work you ass off to pleasure them just as much as you want pleasuring back. They need lots or oral sex and the fondling and petting and rubbing all the right places, it takes them much longer times to get their engines fired up to start their horniness they don't get a quick response like us guys to. Their excitement level is slower but not all are this way.

In my bisexual experiences with men - this "work" doesn't exist. It's pure, raw, rugged - two men knowing what they want and just going after it together. We have to decide then, is the sex with a woman who doesn't like sucking cock really worth the work it'll take to get it done and get my needs met (after working my ass off to make her happy) If that answer is yes, then great. If not, you have some decisions to make. I really hope this works out for you man.

Been married for 24 years. Wife will suck my cock but doesn't really get into it. Says her jaw hurts. Also doesn't like cum. 24 years and it hasn't changed. My advice is to move on. You're young enough, and assuming the GF is similar age, that you should not settle for a relationship that is lacking an important aspect of sex. Yes it's important because later on you will want to have oral and she still won't want to do it.

$.02 from an experienced guy.

Well, since she doesn't want to, and won't, ask her if you can bring home friend that will :-)

What to do..? Love her. Treat her with respect. Don't make her do something she does not want to do. Concentrate on what you both enjoy. Not hang up on BJ making her feel inadequate and hurt. Buy a FleshJack Or move on. Thing is getting the right combination You'r girl may come around. Or she may not. Tottally up to you. I'd rather bond than rely on sergeons to stitch it back on because well this girl get carried away because she didnt suddenly like this.. BTW there's teeth in that area..

Futurepornstud, I can see that you have to weigh several pros and cons with your girl. If she does want to blow you even tho she knows you would enjoy it, it's probably not going to change in your favor after marriage. Then if you can't live with it then it's going to cost a lot to trade her in. Al Green said it best in a song titled just stroke it. "It's cheaper to keep her".

Do like I do....get a guy to suck your cock. They are the best!!

For me, in reading your post the first red flag was "staunch feminist". I've known several and without fail, everyone turned out to be atomic cunts. Not saying your girl is but that has been my experience. And then she thinks it is demeaning? What is demeaning about pleasuring the person you supposedly love with your mouth?

Maybe a little harsh but my advice to you would be to dump her and find a woman without any sexual hang-ups to share yourself with.

How important are BJ's to you? Just be honest and explain things to her. If getting head is something you absolutely need, tell her.

If she's opposed to head on ideological grounds, explain how you like feeling under her control when she goes down on you, how she has all the power.

Get a new girlfriend.

Eat her out like a free buffet and once you feel she is enjoying it, slowly switch to a 69 position and see what she does.

Totally the truth. My wife is totally anti-feminist and holds the philosophy that the feminist movement is largely responsible for the current lack of real maleness in our society along with the general dissolution of America's confident place in the world. In essence we got turned into pussies. I'd tell this chick she's going to have to get into it or get lost.

If the relationship is great and she is a great match for you, then I'd say it's harder to find a good match than a girl who gives a bj. There is always a possibility that she might give it a try for you if she really cares. But though I love a good sex and jacking to things, I think a good relationship is very important. See how it goes. If the relationship doesn't go far, then you know it's not all that. But if it's a perfect relationship, you're saying that the sex is good so don't destroy it over a bj. Let her know how much you like it without forcing or pressuring her. Also, not saying that you aren't but be very clean down there. Some girls don't like it because either the guy doesn't take care of his cock very well (Not clean and things like that) or that it smells. Might not be a bad smell but some girls hate the cock smell. I mean, would you eat a pussy that smells like rotten oysters? I wouldn't and I have come across some like that unfortunately. So clean the cock and use edible fruit sprays on you cock to make it less difficult for her. She might be curious and tempted to give it another try if your cock looks clean and smells like cherries or citrus. Not kidding here.