Does anyone know of any good chat and cam options for buds to meet and chat? I haven't found anything consistent unfortunately. New in my search.

I use whereby but its hit and miss now you have to have a host logged in to enter the room. I have my own room and often just turn the cam on and start jacking I have had a few people pop in and join me and I have had to boot people who won't have their cam on but that is rare.

I've been trying to find a good discord server as one options but haven't found one that fits me.

Did you try the jackinchat discord server?

Where can I find it?

On here click Boards > Index > About JackinChat > First Sticky thread in the list.
http://www.jackinchat.com/viewthread.php?tID=97124#11