Hey guys,

I used to edge over a long period of time but after I met my new girlfriend I stopped playing with myself. Because we had lots of sex or sexual activities which meant I was pretty much always satisfied.

After a few months her sexual lust isn't as strong a before. It's kind of normal I guess. But I'm always horny. So I started jacking and edging again. She really hates masturbation. I can't tell her about it cause she thinks I don't love her anymore. That of course is not true. I mean I really feel the urge to masturbate once or twice a day. Should I feel guilty cause I'm edging again?

We have nice sex or other great sexual activities twice a week. But on the other days I love to edge. I really love it. Should I be concerned?

Same for me. I have a great sex life with my gf but I still can't keep my hands off my dick. I masturbate alot and I know she doesn't like it. She has walked in on me and gotten really pissed. Still I love to beat off my oily meat.

As far as im concerned guys must masturbate in-between sex with their partner. I am 59 and have sex with my 45 yo girlfriend 3 times a week usually but I masturbate on the off times to keep my hornyness down. It seems guys being horny and needing to take care of themselves is normal. Some women dont understand that. My gf has no problem with it and she is very up front with me that when she is not with me she is doing the same. Seems selfish if they dont want u to be happy

I totally feel for you dude. I used to date a girl who had the same hangups about jerking off. She viewed it as "creepy and gross", with little understanding about why I was doing it. My guess is that your gf does not masturbate herself. One way to possibly ease her mind about your jo might be to incorporate a vibrator into your sex sessions with her, then encourage her to think of you and use it on her own when you're not around. If you help her become more understanding of her own body she will likely be more accepting of you enjoying yours.

I've edited KansasWood's reply because it fits in so well with my thoughts on the subject. Now your G/F is entitled to dislike masturbation, but as it isn't interfearing with your sex life, and your not asking her to do it, then perhaps she could be a little more tolerant of your needs? One thing you can be absolutely sure of is that if one Partner tries to change the other, then it's going to be disaster all round. I'd certainly try and discuss the issue with her and hope that she will at least understand your need to continue to masterbate. After all every relationship needs a fair amount of give and take to be successful.

My wife is not very sexual. We might have sex once every couple of weeks. I have been masturbating daily for the last 20 years (did it more before then) and on our second date we were making out pretty heavy and I had a boner. I told her when I dropped her off I was going to come back home and jack off. She asked me to do it in front of her, so I did. She'd never see a guy cum before. She was 19, I was 21 at the time.

Since then, she expects me to masturbate daily. I do it every morning while she gets ready for work. Sometimes she comes over and puts her boobs in my face to get me off, other times she ignores me and goes about her business.

I could never be in a relationship with someone who looked down on masturbation. Lucky for me, my wife enjoys masturbation too and will get her silver bullet out and get herself off on occasions. She masturbates maybe three of four times a month, but when she gets the urge, there is no stopping her. She might cum 5 or 6 times in a few minutes. Is awesome to watch her get herself off.

Should you feel guilty because you are breathing, and reducing usable oxygen for the rest of us?

No, because you were biologically created to need to breath.

As a healthy, functional male you were biologically created to need to have sex and orgasm.

Contrary to your girlfriend's seeming beliefs, your biological functions are not regulated by her whim.

It is fully within her right to chose to do whatever she wants with her own body. That includes abstaining from sex.

It is not within her rights to dictate your biological needs, nor what you chose to do with your body.

"My body, my choice" right? We live in an equal society (or at least we like to say we do), thus this phrase is on the table.

I'd use it.

If she can't deal, than that's her problem. Not yours.

The fact that she would use the "it means you don't love me" card reveals, to me, a very juvenile mindset reeking of manipulation and a nasty control complex. To try and control what a man does in privacy with his own body… can you imagine if the tables were reversed? I bet she’d call you 10 times of chauvinistic pig for daring to try to ‘control her body.’

Break the chains, bro. Jerk long and jerk strong.

Besides, your hand had you first.

Poor guys... there are plenty of us girls out there who think its totally hot tha our guys jerk off and love to catch and observe and join in as well... maybe the best advice is that you keep doing what you have to do and if she doesn't like it there are other fish in the sea. (p.s. we also can give you some blow your mind, toe-curling sex)

My Wife is fine with me Masturbating. As long as it does not Interfere with me giving it to her 3 times a week. That is what she likes. She even jokes around often and will ask if I "released" today.

I forgot to say that she hates porn the most. Maybe she would let me masturbate but not while watching other hot chicks in porn. Porn is a huge part of edging and jacking off for me. Is that also acceptable?

While I don't agree with it, I certainly get why she doesn't like you watching porn when you jerk off, because in a way it's like you lusting after and fantasizing about other women. It's easy to take something like that personally, especially if she doesn't get the fact that porn is a product that horny jackers consume for pleasure, and nothing more. You love your girlfriend; you (hopefully) don't love the porn stars you watch.

Take my girlfriend for instance: when we first started dating I was very reluctant to tell her how much porn I watch, and how often I jack off/edge, because I was afraid she'd get offended. But when I did tell her, she said she didn't care. She personally doesn't find porn stimulating (we've tried watching it together and it does nothing for her), but she understands that porn is essentially an aid that helps me get off. I'm not interacting with the women, I don't blab on constantly about how hot Alison Angel or Katie Fey is, so it's like my own private thing that I do when she's not around and I need release. So in that sense I got lucky, because I've had previous girlfriends that hated me watching it, like yours does.

So in your case, you have to do what works best for your situation. If it's straining your relationship, then you need to prioritize. But honestly, my advice is to keep edging and watching porn, and just don't tell her about it. Is there any way she'd find out? If you live together, that's a bit harder, but if you only see each other a few times a week then that's probably your best option.

Aside from one old girlfriend many years ago, I have yet to meet a woman as interested in sex/masturbating as me (or most guys). Something I'll never completely understand since both feel so good (so it's obviously different for women). My wife knows I masturbate between sex - though I try to be somewhat discrete. And even if I could have more sex, I would still enjoy masturbating on a fairly regular basis. I always thought it would be interesting to trade places for a month so I could understand what it's like to "not be in the mood"... or only have an interest in masturbating a couple or few times a month.

Hey you're not cheating on her or depriving her of her sexual satisfaction so I don't see her problem with you masturbating anytime that you want.

What gets me is why a woman would even care if her man is lusting or fantasizing about another woman... fact is.. it's lust and fantasy.. there are a lot of women that need to get over themselves and realize that her man getting off on his own without her.. really has nothing to do with her at all.. and visa versa.. Old saying stands true.. " You can look, but don't touch!"

Touch - and I hope the gal goes all Bobbitt on their cheating ass! Just sayin!

I suggest that you simply lay next to her on your back with a raging hard-on. Put her hand on your dick - she will jack it for a while. Put your hand close by and take over whenever she stops. After a while she will get used to the idea.