hi guys gals please indulge alittle self introspection......i`m a single guy heading for 50.......only had 2 short relationships.....my last sexual experience was nearly 25yrs ago........i`m horny as hell ...and wank off at least once nearly every day........i luv listening to next doors moans of ecstacy and rythmic spring creaking.........i luv to wank and fantasise that they know i`m listening....in fact they must know i can hear.........all my fantasies seem to be watching people having sex or teasing me as i wank......in normal life i`m a little shy,but act and talk perfectly naturally in the company of women.......it just never occurs to me to chat them up........i`ve visited swinger internet sites and there are loads
of couples looking for single guys to watch and wank.......the idea really turns me on......questions?
1 are there any guys out there brave enough to admit to similar lack of experience
2 is there a cut off point when you should buy a fleshlight and admit you will never experiense sex and that in fact you are a wanker
3 are there any any exhibitionists out there? whats the attraction?
4 is there something evolutionary going on ie.THE DOMINANT MALE GETS THE SEX THE OTHER MALES GET TO WATCH

hope this isn`t too confused ,but believe it or not i`m getting horny just discussing it

Hi Tosser,

During my first year of college in 1970 many of us young pups used to sit around the dorm room and discuss many different ways to pick up chicks and get laid. A more experienced guy from Manhatten, NY named "Weasel" put in his own two cents. It's good advice for any type of businessperson persuing any goal. Weasel told us, "Man, all you have to do is walk down a busy street, go up to any good looking lady and say 'Wanna fuck?'. Sometimes you get slapped, most of the time she'll just walk away, but usually, after about 45 minites and asking about 20 to 30 chicks, you'll get laid!"

Good luck!

Hell yeah man. Just take a direct, no-nonsense, you-know-what-I-want-and-you know-I-know-you-want-it-too approach as a lot of folks appreciate that (just with a little class; the "wanna fuck" may not fly so well just anywhere - lol! You'll go thru sexual droughts and sexual floods, but enjoy all you can when you can. Good luck guy.

thanks guys.....i really appreciate the advice.....i`m not sure i`m in the market for a relationship or a fuck at the moment....maybe later(the cry of the prochrastinater/masturbater)......i seem to find myself drawn towards the idea of being teased....i like porn where the model seems to enjoy making you jack off......i dont get off watching people have sex.... thats it! the model needs
to look out of the screen or photo, and communicate with the viewer......and since one cant have sex with the model......the easiest communication is to tease you with the face/eyes /tongue etc.......to display the breasts,ass pussy in a blatantly sexual manner........the turn on is that you cant touch.....its the deliciously frustrating build up and the wank that is so addictive...........i suppose i`m saying i`m addicted......but at the moment i quite like it

hello again guys
i`ve had another think about this, and why i posted the subject......obviously you stumble onto a site like this,hand on cock looking for inspiration........but also on another level to understand oneself and others..........looking back over previous posts...its obvious i`m hooked on the idea of being teased,made to jack off by a woman who really enjoys the frustration she is causing......i think this fantasy is a psycological crutch
to cope with lack of real sexual release.......yesterday i described my lack of experience.........the fact is that was an exageration........frankly i`ve never really experienced sex with a woman(or man).......yet despite this, i sort of feel happy.....i`m not lonely,though i tend to avoid social situations where attendence in a couple is more usual.....there is a feeling of shame/failure/frustration.......but i have kind of adapted those feelings to help me in my wanking experience.....it turns me on........i think ihave finally accepted my position in life.....perhaps i will never have the experience of sliding mi cock into a soft moist pussy......but if i have to be a wanker then i`ll bloody well enjoy it.....i`d luv to hear from guys with similar experiences.......
1.are there other 4o+yrs old virgins out there.....i cant believe all fleshlight are purchased by guys in relationships
needing occasional alternative release
2.have you come to terms with the situation or do you still hope to "break the duck"
3.what coping stratagies do you have....is it possible to accept and even celebrate being a wanker
4.what do you think of life in general

1. Me, although not nearly as severe.

2. Giving up on sexual intercourse is a seriously mentally unhealthy move. Sex with another person is useful not just for getting your rocks off, it's part of the normal human condition; people are naturally gregarious, we want and need the company of other humans. Emotional involvement is just as important, if not more important, than sexual contact. Find a person you like, admire, and trust, and generally love hanging out with; and if he or she is willing to screw your brains out, consider it icing on the cake. I suggest instead that you just seek emotional/romantic company, and let the sex thing happen naturally. The American TV show Gilmore Girls reduced it quite nicely: "People just want someone cool to hang out with until they keel over." Amusing and true.

You're of an age where you might be able to appreciate women (or men, whatever you're into) as more than sex objects. And people your age will appreciate that, I think.


3. Showing off. Sharing.

4. You're confusing aggression and assertiveness, a common mistake. It's not necessary to be ultra-macho and "dominant" in order to find a partner. Confidence does not require arogance.

I'd also like to add the point that being a "wanker" does not preclude being sexually active. I'm a masturbator even when I'm in a serious relationship.

thankyou VickSecret_JO
i`ll ponder your wise words

1 me
2 I considered visiting whores, but sex is not only about lust. so, no, I have not completely come to terms and I still hope things change
3 I visit sites like this and sites where woman show off and masturbate on cam (paysites)
4 I'm not happy and I'm not unhappy. I need to come to terms with my unhappy youth, and that will probably take the rest of my life. I have undergone cardiac surgery during first class of primary school, and I was harrassed by my classmates for 6 full years. I was the ideal victim, because I didn't have the strength (because of my heart) to hit back.

cant think of much to say........thankyou for sharing.....wish you well in the future

Hi There,

Thought I would have my little say here.I am 38 and have never really been in a relationship,not so much because women think I am unattractive.Because there have been some lovely girls in the past, but I just dont seem to have the confidence to chat to them and out of their knickers.
This is largely due to being a severe masturbater and doing it at least once a day since the age of about 13,and now have it in my head that no woman is going to want to be with a man who does this.
Equally I am happy with my life,and feel that a relationship is not everything.But masturbation will never stop for me I think!!

Hope this makes some sort of sense.

The few relationships(?) I have had were very short-lived. Women are attracted to me casually, but not sexually. "It's not you, really"...I've heard that enough times. What did I do wrong? The saying must be true, "nice guys don't get laid". To my detriment, I am a nice guy.

You can't even get through to women on the internet because they are already turned off by all the stupid guys pestering them. Is this why so many women claim to be lesbian?

I don't try to get laid anymore (on, or off the internet); it's just not worth it. It is so much easier to masturbate. At least it is relaxing, just not as emotionally fulfilling, I suppose. How would I know the difference?

I suspect that a high percentage of married people don't have sex either. They masturbate in private. How relaxing or fulfilling is that?

i have a similar history hothand....but i wonder.....does wanking affect my interaction with women ie being a bit tongue tied etc........or does it affect the way they react to me?.........but how could they know i`m into wanking......or do i make a subconcious assumption that they would thnk i`m a wanker..........cos i`ve never been seen with a woman........my suspicion is that it is a vicious circle.........you get hooked on jacking........you tend to perceive women as sex objects .........this affects your reactions to them........your reactions affect the way they react to you........result mr confident gets the ladies+more confidence+more pussie.......we(at least i )end up sticking more pages together.........like you i am reasonably happy without a relationship.........but truly i cant even imagine having a relationship .....and as i say my
wank fantasies tend to be voyeuristic.......ie the lady in the pic never says "fuck me" its always "pretend to fuck me you wanker"........i haven`t quite given up..........but i feel `on the road to perpetual wankdom`

i am 38 and i have never had sex with a man or woman. i have been wanking since 12 at least once a day for the most part. i have also given up trying and have come to the conclusion that i am to be a virgin forever. like u i find myself unable to talk to girls in an intimate way. i get very scared. i love being teased, humiliated and denied. i like to fantasize about young girls laughing and poking fun at me while i stroke. i am not unattractive and i also am not socially inept. i have a very small penis. it is almost 4 inches when fully erect. im not a tall guy but my penis is comparatively tiny. i fantasize about girls teasing me about my little guy. i barely pump my hand up and down. my whole unit can hide in my own hand.