I have found guy and we'd like to be JO buddies, but have figured out that we live only a few miles apart. Is it wise to continue this relationship, or should we stop for the sake of discretion. We both have families living close and it would be devastating to be caught. Any opinions, or experiences would be appreciated.

I don't have any advice to offer, but have wondered about the same thing. Have found many cl posts for guys in my town and have been hesitant to answer. If I knew them it might be easier as we would be able to have trust about being discreet. I would be apprehensive about someone I didn't know. Trust about being discreet would be the key for me. Good luck and keep posting updates as you go!

If you live near or can get to Kingston. Ontario then email me. discretion assured

I wonder the same thing. I am always looking for someone. That is one reason I cum here. I live in a small city in NW Ontario and would love to meet someone in person. Straight male but curious, or female. For sexual (perverted??) "fun". But I am worried about the consequences.

Go for it! Both of you want the same thing, and being close makes it easy.

I too need to be super discrete so I have not followed up on possible meets that are close to my own town. I am in northern massachusetts. Would definitely consider meeting with another guy who needed to be very discrete for mutual JO.

Sounds like you haven't done the deed yet. Have you met in person to discuss? The reason I ask is because I was in a VERY similar situation here. Met a great guy at this site, we kept a long running e mail relationship and got to know each other quite well. We found a level of comfort and discussed the many things that we both wanted to experience and there were many M2M sex ideas that we were open to. We are from the same small town and that led to a bit of apprehension on both ends. We came close to meeting in person for a face to face "cup of coffee" to see if we might take the next step. Both of us nervous as Hell, he got cold feet the first time around. No prob as I could fully understand as I was nearly shitting myself. A few months later he contacted me and once again we worked toward meeting. It seems we were getting close to nailing down a date, with both of us discussing possible times that our wives might be out of town, where we might meet, etc....... Then he disappeared. Again I understand. This is a difficult thing for some, especially the first time around, multiplied by the fact that you live so close to each other and could likely bump into your new "friend" AND his wife while out and about around town, at a social function or out to dinner. Of course there is the idea of "what if we know each other?" Does that make it easier or more difficult?

Anyway, great thread and I would love to read from others with similar experiences. By the way.....still looking for my first. Western MA here. Curiousone, check your Jackinmail

Pete

Ditto here in Kingston On but I have no difficulty in meeting at a neutral spot.