I've had this fantasy for several years now. My wife and I are both 41 and we have been very happily married for 10 years though we've been together for a total of 15. Our sex life has it's ups and downs like anyone else's but generally it's been pretty great. Up until maybe 3-4 years or so ago the thought of seeing her with another man never occurred to me, but once it got into my head, the thought of it grew more and more exciting to me.

I'm not sure why but the thought of masturbating while I watch another man having sex with my wife is one of the hottest fantasies I have. I don't even think about joining in for a MMF.

And it's not a cuckolding thing either (I think) I have no desire to hear her scream what a pussy I am or how much bigger and better he is than me. I am aroused at the thought of her exploring her sexuality with someone else, enjoying the sensations, letting herself go and giving herself to another person for a short time while at the same time, the thought of him enjoying being with my wife, touching her, kissing her, pleasuring her and savoring her body and seeing the looks of pleasure on his face as he enjoys having sex with her is intensely erotic to me.

And yes, I HAVE told my wife about this fantasy. She was extremely understanding and it didn't disgust or insult her at all, but she made it clear that she is not comfortable with the idea of making it a reality. I respect that and I don't want to press the subject. However she does compromise by incorporating some RP of my fantasy into our sex sometimes which is so incredibly hot to me.

Very often I'll have her describe for me, in as much detail as she's comfortable with, her sexual encounters with other men before we met which is equally as arousing to me. I know it makes some men jealous but the knowledge that there are men out there in the world right now that have been intimate with my wife, seen her naked and her them, is a tremendous turn-on.

So I'm sure there are other guys here who have the same or similar fantasies. I'd like to hear your take on it and just exactly WHY a married guy would WANT to watch another man fucking his wife when that goes against everything we are supposed to believe.

I wanted my late wife to learn that sex was just sex, could be fun and not the end of the world. A Catholic upbringing did nothing to free her up to explore.

A virgin when we married - I didn't realize she would never learn to relax and enjoy.

A widower now I'm free to explore

Guys tend to be very visual. As with watching porn, we always try to imagine ourselves in whatever sexual situation we are observing.

Another guy may do something to your wife, or with her, that you don't do, or won't do - or she may want to do something with another guy that she won't do with you.

One possibility is that you are simply a voyeur, and your lovely wife is simply the object of your obsession at this point. Ask yourself if you would want to secretly watch her seduce a man and ride him in your bed without his (or maybe her) knowledge.

Totally agree. I have the same fantasy and it has nothing to do with any cuckold crap. My wife will fuck herself with her dildo which is hot but I want more than that. Once in a loooong while she will led me hold it while she rides it. I always imagine I am helping her fuck a stranger. I imagine her having a blindfold on so she never knew who it was and pretends not to like it but really does. I also imagine that she secretly drops hints that she wants to do it again and it becomes a regular thing. Like a date night! haha.
I have had some yahoo chat RP about this and have had some awesome orgasms. You should try it.

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I've done similar things with my wife. Once she let me tie her hands together up over her head to the headboard, and I actually did blindfold her. I'd touch her gently and randomly but all the while she was supposed to imagine that I was someone else. She'd moan his name, tell me where to touch her, then I'd either eat her out or start to fuck her with her vibrator. It was such a turn on hearing her cumming and groaning another guy's name, at which point i'd get on top of her and fuck her myself, keeping her blindfold on and having her rp that i was another man. Kind of amazes me after all that that at least the slightest curiosity about it doesn't cross her mind. Either way, it's hot that she does that for me sometimes.

It's my #1 fantasy to see a guy fuck my wife. I would love to see a hung young muscle stud drive her wild with ecstasy then shoot his cum deep inside her pussy after making her cum so many times she is exhausted.

Sex with my wife is good. She has a fantastic tight pussy. But we've been together 18 years, and I want to see a strange dick in that tight pussy.

I've begged her to fuck other men. Told her I don't even have to be there if she'll tell me about it while I fuck her fresh fucked count or masturbate.

Sadly, she has no interest in doing it.

Nothing wrong with that at all. Divorce her.

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My wife and i talked about doing this one night and we both ended up so turned on by it that we just had to try it once. I have to say that watching her with another man was sooo fucking hot. Loved watching her take his cock in her hand & stroke it before she looked at me, smiled and took it down her throat to suck on. she would look over at me while she sucked his cock and wink. OMG did that drive me nuts. After a while of sucking on his cock, she got on top of him & rode him like a crazy woman. Too see her face and know that she was enjoying his cock pleased me. It turned out that we both got what we wanted in the end. Her - some other man's cock to fuck her and for me - to just watch her have a good time in bed. We did this many times over the years and either of us ever cheated on the other. I like watching her having sex with other men and she loved having other men fuck her while i watched.

Sounds like exactly what I want. I want to watch my wife be sexually satisfied.

Here is a solution for you that no one seems to be bringing up… My wife and I are swingers, we think most vanilla (non-swingers) look at the lifestyle to be a free for all. everyone fucking everyone. WRONG! Swinging is what you make it out to be… and the scenarios are endless. Your fantasy is just one of many that is played out a lot in the lifestyle! You can make it out to be “any” thing you want it to be! As long as you both are comfortable and willing and the “trust” is there. (If either of you are jealous just to have someone look at your spouse… swinging won’t work for you!) if so… you are better off just keeping it a fantasy for yourself or one between you and your wife. BUT if you BOTH “really” want to spice up you sex life… I can’t began to tell you how it feel to watch your wife with another guy…. reach down and feel the guys wet cock sliding in and out of your wife pussy (if is he is not homophobic) . Me and my wife luv just masturbating and fantasizing together, we have also been with a single female, a single guy, and other couples… all just masturbating. So hot! The lifestyle is what you want it to be! and it sounds like you and your wife might be good candidates. BTY - in the lifestyle “no” means “no”…..no exception to the rule. No one does what they don’t want to do including coercing a spouse into what they don’t want to do. Believe me everyone will know if you are trying to make someone do something they don’t want to do. You and your spouse will be rejected and not invited back, either by a couple, single, or a club. Good luck and enjoy yourselves.

This describes my predicament almost exactly. I'm not intrested in being "cuckolded", but still like the idea of my wife being driven wild by a good-looking younger guy. But she doesn't seem to be interested.

To answer your question: "just exactly WHY a married guy would WANT to watch another man fucking his wife when that goes against everything we are supposed to believe." -- Well, you answered it yourself: this is what you think we are supposed to believe. Society has come up with all these rulse and strictures, but the true range of human attitudes, interests and turn-ons is far more diverse than the "normal" rules of society would lead you to believe.

And as you can see, you're far from alone in your fantasy. Everyone has their favorite reason why they think it's hot. I have several. For one thing, I love watching and listening to my wife get really, really turned on, let go, and enjoy herself. I also appreciate the male body (when I watch porn, I like the guys to be good-looking too, not scuzzy or beer-bellied). So, what better combination than watching my own wife star in live porn with a really well-built guy?

Also, alhough my wife denies it, deep down I think she likes guys to express sexual interest in her. It makes her feel like she still "has it" - which she does, in spades, but she is convinced that she doesn't. I find sexual confidence to be very attractive, so part of my fantasy is that her experiences with other guys transform her, even if just a little bit, by making her bolder, more willing to dress provocatively, more willing to demand what she wants in bed, and just plain more forceful in demanding sex from me.

In the end, who knows why. But here's a thought. Maybe thousands of years ago, in some hunter-gatherer tribes, women slept with multiple men every day, in the open. There was no concept of the nuclear family, or of a father having any idea who his kids are. In order for this to work, men can't be jealous of other men. So maybe what had to evolve was a sense of enjoyment in watching a woman you like to fuck be intimate with other men.

Just a thought.

Here's an idea no one has suggested that would be totally fun even if you didn't fulfill that specific fantasy. Go on a hedonism vacation. See others half or completely naked. Fuck her like there's no tomorrow. Maybe see if she's open to having another guy watch you two. You never know where hedonism will take you.

You obviously have to role play this and watch DVD's of this specifically. Of the real thing or something real close to it. See if she'd be open to just going to a topless beach and you rubbing some suntan lotion on her beautiful breasts. Just do this even on your bed w/ coconut scented lotion. Massage her whole body with it. If you can do it in the backyard. Massage her pussy and taint. Pleasure her tell she cums over and over again and be selfish making sure you don't fuck her.

You'll both get off on this even if it's not your first fantasy. You might want to have someone watch you. And possibly tape you w/ her consent. I'd do this after a romantic dinner out while she's a bit tipsy but no drunk. Then fuck at home and make her cum over and over again. You'll both love it regardless.
Sounds like your sex life needs some spicing up.

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Oh you can always pm me to chat.

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I also fantasize about my wife being fucked by some good looking guy or giving the guy a great blow job like she gives me. I don't know why it would turn me on. If my wife knew about this fantasy, she would think I was some sort of sicko