Hey everyone,

I am curious to know, if you are willing to share that is, if you have ever cheated on your spouse. I am currently thinking about it and would like to hear some of your experiences, good and the bad. The lead up, the planning, the secrets, keep it going or one shot deal...whats everyone's story?

Never cheated in the eighteen years that I was married.

Don't do it.

I have a few times and the wife only knows about one that I was planning. I'm fighting for my marriage of 16 years now. Plus we have three kids and the kids are the loser in the divorce because daddy couldn't keep his dick in his pants and hands out of her blouse.

Is connecting cyber cheating?? This includes pics, yahoo,Skype phone calls and emails....??

It's something I think about. I have a girlfriend. I have and do think about other girls when masturbating, not always. I do enjoy porn, which is something my girlfriend is okay with - just okay.

I've thought about ther women a lot, going off with them, having fun with them. My girlfriend wouldn't be the most sexual adventurous, I am. So I find that I have much I want to try and explore but can't. I honestly don't know if I could cheat on her. I can usually just rub one out and these feelings and thoughts leave my system, but being a very sexual person in love with a very non sexual person, I find it hard at times. The temptation is there but as much as I'm hard right now thinking about it, I don't know if I could do it.

Being single I had an affair w/ a married man for 3 years. The sex was great, but it hurt like hell not to be w/ him on weekends or to wake up w/ him everyday. I did make a bad decision. However he didn't wear a wedding ring and flirted like hell until I fell for him and right before anything happened, when the sexual chemistry was off the charts he then told me.

I do believe in wedding rings if you're in a traditional marriage; not open. I don't care if they're tatooed on; people do that. However if you don't and you have a fabulous relationship with your spouse, your heart and sexual actions (not fantasizes) are geared to her. Rings or not there is no doubt that you're married. Alone or together.

IT DID NOT END WELL!!!

No, I don't think being here on JC is cheating. Actually it's theraputic. I have several friends here who met my adventurous kinky needs. My bf knows I'm on here. I do NOT play off this site. This is a mutual agreement we both made.

I do believe skyping is a form of cheating. I'm not immune. K? Before I met my bf I was "seeing" a guy on this site while he was at work and we'd both bate to one another. I had to stop it before it got worse. Seriously. There were emotions involved.

Bc of my past experience w/ my ex who I loved who cheated on his wife. (Mind you I was NOT the first) And it was so serious that my ex said if he didn't have his two young sons he'd already be divorced and we'd be married. That's a big deal.

I'm currently anonymous friends here w/ a guy who is into everything I'm into. He's married and loves his wife and is very attracted to her. We play on here. On here only. And have a lot of fun here. And that's it. Granted our pms are hotter than hell, but that's where it stops.

I do NOT recommend cheating on your wife. You may want to rekindle your relationship any way you can.
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Thanks to those that shared their stories and experiences. I think for alot of people cheating is a grey area and for others its black and white. but i agree partly with anal as communication is key. Openess and honesty are the best ways to go. Sorry to hear of the family breakups because of it but that is the gamble we make when we make those choices. Its totally a risky move but i guess if you got the balls and guts to do it...good luck..

To be honest i never intended to cheat on my wife it just sorta happened she was a few years older than me and after 3 kids in 8yrs she lost all interest in sex it just got less and less
I was only 38 when it became a sexless marriage i was in my prime and horny but she would have none of it told me there was some thing wrong with me i turned to masturbation more and more but i wanted intimacy of another female the excitment
Enter my new secretary hot young 28 in her own bad marriage omg i held out for 2weeks and we went for drinks after work thats all it took we got on really well i mean really well
So one night we stayed at work till everybody had left the building and she came into my office i cant recall all the words but she looked on fire and i told her to strip for me i know lol and we went at it for hours this went on for over a year till i got transferred and even then it did not stop we would meet at motels 2 or 3 times aweek just for sex
I finally found out i was followed by a pi i sorta suspected it i kept seeing this same car put 1&1 together pi
I dont recommend it really best if you can work it out together but like my situation there was nothing i loved my kids and it cost me around $125,000 in support over 10yrs and that started about 20yrs ago
All i can say if you cheat think about the price tag and is it really worth it------

I made a commitment when I got married, and I honor that. We are both human...we like looking at other people...even fantasizing about them. We both like to masturbate. Those are all okay. But sex with another person is not. If that's what we wanted...we wouldn't have made the commitment...and if it what we want now...we would be honest with each other and end it.

I think communication and honesty is the key. Nothing wrong with looking at stuff and jackin or jillin...and we both agree with that. For some people they might not...so you have to be honest about it. And some people believe in an open marriage...we don't..but we both know where we stand.

pmont has the perfect answer and he's on here!
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First marriage I cheated a bunch. Sometimes it was really fun, other times it wasn't. There are some crazy fucking people out there, so if you're gonna cheat, do your "homework" and make sure you know as much about the other person as possible.

I had one shot deals and ongoing things. Both can be fun, but both are full of potential problems as well. I think it really comes down to your willingness to take some risks (possibly having your wife find out or ending up with someone that's batshit crazy) in order to have sex with someone different. I won't lie--if you find the "right" person, it's exciting as hell. Some of the best sex I've had was when I was cheating.

Now I'm remarried to a great woman that I actually met when I was cheating on my first wife. She and I have phenomenal sex and so I'm not at all interested in cheating. But, truthfully, I don't regret cheating the first time around. If the first wife had found out, I'd probably feel differently.

Bottom line--be sure it's something you want to do, choose your partner very carefully, cover your tracks, and if she suspects, deny deny deny.

Okay, first it was my wife who cheated on me. In my neighborhood, we had a guy who preyed on unhappy married women. You all know the type. I was working too much over time, not giving her the attention she needed and bang, one night she confessed to me that she was in love with this guy and had been screwing him for 3 years. I knew something was up, but could never pin her down. I had to wait until she was sick of the lies. I can tell you that it almost killed me. Her sexual infidelity was bad enough, but the lies hurt the most, but, she realized she was just another one of his conquests and our marriage survived.
Several years later, I met this amazing woman at work. It was instant attraction for both of us. We had the same interests, her marriage was in the dumper, and one day while in her office, she kissed me, and that's all it took. I fell deeply in love with this lady, but was unwilling to leave my wife and so after 3 months of the hottest sex and intense emotions, we parted. That's been 22 years ago, she has remarried, my wife has forgiven me, but I'm still grieving the loss of this spectacular woman. I'm still in love with her, and I know it will never end and all I have left is heartache, for the rest of my life. My experiences with cheating have left me very much informed as to whether it's a good thing or not. DON'T DO IT!!!

I havebeen with a few marriedmen . It's just sex, I mean they are with me becuse i love sex and they aren't getting any. It may not be right but hey women ,have sex and they won't be with me.

I have to admitt ive cheated to before, twice. The first time "started" 2 1/2 yrs ago with a very good women friend of mine she was my age 42 then, we were party/camping/hang out buddies, see ive always had way more friends that were girls all my life and never did anything with them before. Well this friend started the process of going through a devorce because of problems her and her husband were going through and one afternoon I was over just watching tv and she totally came on to me. I mean string on bikini top and bottoms she pulled right in font of me and it was on like donkey kong for over a year had the most amazing porn sex ive ever had in my life. So then last year my friends daughter came to live with us "for a little while". She was 24. Me and her have always been best buddies all her life up to her being an adult. I hadnt seen her for a few yrs and she needed a place to stay to get on her feet and get a job and stuff. WELL, the more and more we hung out the closer and closer we became, she was very prtective of me and me of her and we cared VERY deeply for each other. Well one night out partying at the neighbors we came back home and ended up kissing and then sleeping together. We taked about it and knew it was wrong but just seemed to get closer,I fell madly in love with her and this all went on for about a month and a half. Well my wife ended up finding out about us, the girl moved out,wife left me for a while, while we worked things out. The girl wanted to move back since wife was gone and she wanted to take her place. This is gona sound bad but if we wouldnt have worked things out I would have moved her in. So now thing are back good as far as that between me and my wife. I love my wife and she is perfect in many ways, sex and affection is not one of those ways but she is the best thing for me other than that. I am messed up in the head from those two cheatings. Now im like why is just sex looked at as so bad? Im not doing anything different or lacking anything twords my wifes needs at all. Me and my wife are so different in 2 ways. I like to socialize and I like crazy wild sex, and she dis likes both, but for what we are to each other I dont feel I would want to ever leave her. But I know if the chance came up again I would have fun time sex, but only with people I know and that are safe and discreat. I have learned that women can be just as horney and just want to fuck just like guys, LOL or maybe I just found two wild horny chicks.

Been a widower since 97 I am free to fool around. I let my imagination roam but if I had my way i'd have one and one only