I have a chick and don't want to leave her. But I was a buddy on the side. But don't want her to find out I'm playing around with a dude! Cause I live were I work. What would u guys do? And would u consider it cheating?

I don't understand what u are trying to say here ..

Is that I want to play with a dude but I have a chick and is that considered cheating? And would u at with a buddy if u had a chick?

If you were having sex with a woman on the side would you consider that cheating? Does gender choice really make a difference if you consider it cheating? Just wondering....

I agree about what difference would it make whether it was with another guy or a girl.
Most women would think you were gay or bi and not be able to handle you needing to do anything with a guy.
If she would leave you because of it...she would consider it cheating.
I was lucky...my wife accepted that side of me. She had seen stroke and suck a dick before we were married and was actually very turned on by it.

If you afraid of her finding out, then yes you already think you're cheating. Because you are.

If you are not afraid of her finding out, you are still cheating.

U don't feel like it. But I was wondering what other people though. I love her, but are sex life is where we have sex once a month and I want more than that.