Question for the ladies... In life I am a naturally dominant male. I manage others; ive always been first pick as leader of any team I am on; and I am 6'4'', 250 lbs and decently hung. But what I want more than anything is to submit myself entirely to my wife. She is naturally dominant too, but in the bedroom its as if she is scared to take charge.

My favorite position is on my knees worshiping her feet, pussy and ass. Or on my back with her riding my face. Hell, I am satisfied not even putting my cock in, especially when, after I get her off she makes me jack off and then lay there all night covered in cum.

The problem is that she likes to be somewhat passively dominant. In other words, she says she wants me to be in charge but then tells me what to do and when to do it. Eventhough it gets her off faster than anything to ride my face or for me to rim her while stroking her clit, she acts embarassed to do either.

How do I get her to come out of her shell and assume the dominant role that she really wants? How do I get her to accept being the object of my worship?

She has an old fashion view of male-female roles thats been hard for me to overcome. On the few occasions where she has become dominant, we had mind blowing sex, her to the point of nearly passing out. Then later she would apoligize as if she had done something wrong by dominating me.

Honestly, in the bedroom i belong to her. I would do anything she wanted, even if she brought home another man and cuckold me. Or told me to bend over and take it in the ass. Not that I am into men, but if she wanted it she could have it and I would be happy to please her.

We are nearly the same, except I'm not hung.

My wife is very passive. The only times she has taken control is when she was a little drunk. Not wasted, but two or three beers. Just relaxed.

Same here, we are both submissive in sex and therefore we've never done things that we want because neither of us will initiate it. So it goes without saying, we have a very dull almost non existent sex life, therefore I masturbate frequently, not a problem for me, but is for wife.

For the ladies to comment I know, but maybe the male perspective is pertinent. No one who knows us would imagine how deeply submissive I am sexually. Fortunately, my wife is just as dominant as I am submissive, and it's our deepest secret. It would be frustrating if she did not have her take-charge attitude, and wasn't willing to use my kinks and fetishes to control me. My wife brought a strapon along on the honeymoon and her closest friend saw it. She still kids me about it and some of the other things she knows about. I wonder if dominant women like to share the secret as part of the fun?

I could deal with it if my wife was sub. I am used to being dominant in life, i could be dominant in bed. Would not be as much fun, but I could adjust. Problem is that she is dom, but wont step up and take charge. So instead of being dom in bed it almost comes across as nagging. She tries to call the shots while playing the sub role, and it doesnt work well.

I know there are some ladies on here, any advice?

Not a woman, but can tell you my wife and I have always switched roles around - sometimes she is dom and sometimes I am. She is an assertive woman outside the bedroom and I love it.

Not a woman, but can tell you my wife and I have always switched roles around - sometimes she is dom and sometimes I am. She is an assertive woman outside the bedroom and I love it.

I would be fine with that, because in past relationships ive always been dom. I just dont know how to get her to let go of her ideal of male/female roles. If I can drag floor play out and keep teasing her, eventually that will bring her out. Once after about two hours of messaging, caressing her nipples and going down like i was going to eat her, but never quite getting there, she flipped me on my back straddled my face and told me to "eat my f***ing pussy".

Later she got on her knees and made me worship her ass while i fingered her pussy and rubbed her clit. It was awesome. Afterwards she got so apoligetic i thought she was going to cry.

You could try what my boyfriend did. Just kept bugging me about it until I decided, "OK You really want to be a little bitch?" You got it buddy. lol

Lucky man! Trust me, there is no feeling in the world like giving yourself so completely to the person you love. I really would do anything she wanted. I guess i will keep trying then.

My hubby and I are about 50-50 in taking the sexual lead. When he initiates the sex, he’s in total control. He picks the positions and sets the pace. It can be a little rough, which I like. He may slap my butt if I’m not quite in the position he wants. He may spank me. But when I initiate the sex, I call the shots. And if I’m occasionally in a serious domination mood, I may put him in restraints and do some face sitting. Then he becomes very sub and femme, and I may even put some sissy underwear on him. He looks great in a bra and panties. This works for us and has a role playing aspect to it. If a person is just not inclined in one direction or another, I’m not sure how you can get them to change, beyond just talking to them about your desires.

Had my wife tie my spread-eagled and blindfolded to the bed and tease me with a feather duster as she told some bold filthy stories and my mind raced and my cock dripped pre-cum. This torture went on till she finally took my cock into her mouth and sucked and jacked me off. I t was a wonderful experience being totally submissive to her.