Just like the topic says, I had my first meet up with a guy in a long time recently. Not quite what I was hoping for, I guess. Not sure what I was hoping for exactly, but after a bit of oral play the guy came and then left. Didnt get a chance to cum, myself. It's understandable, I guess, but after the same thing happening twice with two different guys I'm just wondering what I should be doing differently.

I guess I like to be a giver, but if the other person gets theirs and leaves then it can be a bit hurtful after a while. I'm married and the sex life with the wife is pretty much the same, in the rare occasion that the wife does want sex. I dont know what the point of this post is. I guess I just hope that things get a bit better.

Thanks for reading.

In my experience you have to chat online for some while, maybe weeks or months. You need to establish what each wants and likes, effectively build up a friendship and a rapport. Otherwise you will have a "wham bham thank you sir" situation. So when you do meet and get past the initial nerves you should have a really HOT time together .

Unfortunately there are a lot guys (and girls) who are pretty selfish and are only in it to get their nut off. I don't know your situation, how you are meeting them, etc. The only way I can tell it is from my experience. All types of guys do this, you can't classify it as married, single, curious, bi or gay. You can figure in lack of experience, they may not be comfortable enough to venture any further than letting you get them off. They could just be lazy and want you to do all the work. Maybe they really just want to bust a nut at the time. Or there just narcissistic assholes and could care less about you enjoying yourself. I am sorry this has been so discouraging for you but don't give up on it. You might want to take on part where you are looking for a guy to satisfy you, don't promise anything else other than the guy is going to get to play with you and get you of. You know put the shoe on the other foot and be the guy that left you hanging. Like what was mentioned above , don't rush into it establish the communication and make sure both of your needs are clear and upfront. Or find you a gay guy, no one take offense I am gay, I don't know too many gay guys that wouldn't want to play with your dick as much as you want to play with theirs. Don't be discouraged it will happen and just look at the bright side at least you don't have to mess with those other guys again, could you imagine being one of their spouses? If their performance was that lackluster just think how it would be to have to sleep with them all the time, your better off. Just keep on looking

Yeah I think what you need is a "boyfriend" rather than occasional casual hookups with strangers. Get to know someone and then you'll most likely find what you're looking for.

I enjoy a good blow and go. I used to have a regular bud who just wanted his cock sucked. He never touched me, but would let me jack off after I swallowed his load. Didn't bother me a bit. I'd love to find a guy to service regularly.

I think some guys get freaked out after they cum. Don't know if it's guilt or they worry that they just turned gay. I like to be friends first so that you can get comfortable with each other then you both enjoy it. But it takes time!

If they wanted to suck your cock, they would have gone down on you bed ore they cam. if you want to do them again, let them feel quietly in the room.....have them take their pants and shoes off, have a drink ready for them and dont ask questions. Let the guy chil, watch the TV...this will slow them down. I'm sure they got horny again when they got into the car ao slow them down and be happy that you got them off.

Understand how you feel...I have been sucked off and as soon as I have given him my load he is ready to go...I also enjoy that downtime even if I'm the one getting blown...You just have to talk with a guy before meeting to let him know what turns you on and off...Listen to his replies and this will tell you whether he has patience...

Experienced guys will strive to satisfy you also in hopes of a return visit...

Thanks for all the responses. I definitely dont feel as discouraged after reading through these posts. Very helpful stuff!

Just keep sucking. and be safe

I prefer to pleasure the other person and then masturbate