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Show4U Novice Jackinchatter

48 posts since 2015-05-21
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My Question to all of you on this site is, "If your partner is done having sex in your relationship but the rest of your relationship is doing fine, should you be able to get yourself a fuck-buddy without feeling guilty? This goes for marriage, too.
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I'm married (separated right now actually) and I was in a similar situation and I say no unless she is ok with it, which obviously....well ya know. Porn is gonna have to do it buddy. Camming is ok methinks. Now me being separated and likely divorced soon, I need to rethink this. wink
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48 posts since 2015-05-21
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Yes, but if it is consensual, do you think it would have saved your marriage? I have had dealings with this for a long time...periods of no sex or really have to beg for sex and then it's 'maybe, we'll see', bullcrap. I love the woman but the sex department is locked and no one is getting in, it seems...at least her department is out of business...even for me. sigh. And my problem is that I have a high testosterone and I masturbate at least 2 to 3 times a day...this makes it just that much worse as to not want other women..but doesn't seem to help much...I still want intercourse.
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55 posts since 2011-07-06
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Yup, u have sexual needs that she doesn't !! Its only fair to u !!
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SloStroker Omnipitant Jackinchatter

7249 posts since 2006-08-21
52 year old bisexual male from Nashville, TN
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My wife seldom fucks me. Once a month at best. She knows I want more and is fine with me looking at porn and jerking off. She doesn't like me interacting with people, online or otherwise.

I've been trying to get her to fuck other men, which would turn me on like crazy and also break us out of the rut we've been in after 21 years together. I wish a young hung stud would wear her pussy out and get her excited about sex again. Then maybe she'd fuck me more or allow me to fuck other people.

We are both bi. She loves playing with women, so that would be fine too, but she isn't interested in having a GF either. I'd love it if she let me have a bud.
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178 posts since 2012-11-26
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Totally understand m44 no sex for 4 years now wank off lots like to skype when I get chance. Pm me if interested in skyping
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1108 posts since 2014-12-11
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SloStroker said:
My wife seldom fucks me. Once a month at best. She knows I want more and is fine with me looking at porn and jerking off. She doesn't like me interacting with people, online or otherwise.

I've been trying to get her to fuck other men, which would turn me on like crazy and also break us out of the rut we've been in after 21 years together. I wish a young hung stud would wear her pussy out and get her excited about sex again. Then maybe she'd fuck me more or allow me to fuck other people.

We are both bi. She loves playing with women, so that would be fine too, but she isn't interested in having a GF either. I'd love it if she let me have a bud.
I have one question here. If your wife loves to play with women why no interest in finding one to play with ? I think it's much more exciting when a spouse encourages it.
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Show4U Novice Jackinchatter

48 posts since 2015-05-21
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No...I am sure she is not cheating...she just hasn't been interested for the last 10 or so years. It's killing me and I have a high level of testosterone. (that little factoid came straight from my Dr.) Sooooo that makes my sexual urges even more strong and basically all I can do is masturbate A LOT! I love to show on web cams. It gets me off...know someone is watching me...but it still does not compare to the real thing. sigh.
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35 posts since 2014-03-01
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224 posts since 2015-01-29
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Yep that's what's happens after marriage 90% of the time
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Sithon Novice Jackinchatter

68 posts since 2013-12-14
66 year old curious from southern US
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JOLUVR said:
I have one question here. If your wife loves to play with women why no interest in finding one to play with ? ...


You weren't asking me, but let me insert this anyway.

It makes no sense, you're correct, that the wife loves to play with women but has no interest in finding one.

But how often do any of us find that what women do, say, and think makes no sense at all? They are creatures governed by their emotions; they are governed by their feelings toward or against someone or something. Whatever they think or feel doesn't have to make sense to them, and they are perfectly comfortable with that. And if and when we try to right them and point out "But ... but ... that doesn't make sense," sometimes we only make things worse.
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SmershUK Novice Jackinchatter

67 posts since 2010-11-29
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Wise words and well worth acting on... more guys should take the 'red pill' (look it up if its a new term to you..) and stop putting women on a plinth. It also begs the question...why do men marry anyway? ... Seems there is often very little in it for them in the long run?

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68 posts since 2013-12-14
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Show4U said:
My Question to all of you on this site is, "If your partner is done having sex in your relationship but the rest of your relationship is doing fine, should you be able to get yourself a fuck-buddy without feeling guilty? This goes for marriage, too.


The short answer for most is probably no, it's not okay for the man in a marriage, if his mate is done having sex, to find himself a partner outside the marriage.

It makes sense to the man and to most men, yes. But as I said in another post, it doesn't have to make sense to the woman or women in general. And it may make sense to the woman and she *still* would not be okay with it.

Finding myself in such a situation years back, I put this same question, pretty much, to a female friend. Her suggestion was to go to my wife and say:

"I love you. I want to make love to you and with you. I have a need to, a drive to. But this isn't anything you want to do, or it isn't anything you want to do as much and with as much need as I have. Because you don't want or need to and I do want and need to, will you be offended and angry if I find someone, a woman in a situation like mine with a partner who doesn't want or need to with her, to satisfy myself? I will protect our health always. I will be discreet. I promise not to embarrass you or us by being open and public, to flaunt it in your face or hurt you with it. It's just that I have a want and need that I'm not able to satisfy with you, and I need that to be satisfied. Take some time. Think about it. Because this has its advantages for both of us."

I suppose at the "will you be offended" point, a man could word it to ask her or to tell her, either "Do you mind if I" or "Because you don't want to with me, I'm going to." Every relationship is going to be different as to -- pardon the pun -- it gets put to the wife.

And there is that emotion thing again with a woman. All the above is perfectly logical and reasoned. But with women, logic and reason may be completely out the window. Doesn't have to be, but be under no illusion that it very well may be. Any of us who go this route would need to choose our words with extreme care and detail.
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You should definitely look for a buddy.
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