I don't know. She says she loves sex, but never wants it. She will masturbate with me fairly regularly and have several good orgasms, so I know she gets horny, she just doesn't ever want sex. There is always an excuse.

Thanks to all for their replies. A lot to digest and some really great ideas for me to mull over. If anyone else has anything to add, by all means...please do. I love reading everyone's comments.

That's odd to me really. I'm trying to understand how anybody can say they love sex but never want any ?
Trying to understand the female brain is a lost cause I think.

In a similar situation with my (male) partner. Not his fault - health problems involved, but it can be very frustrating. Thank heavens I love wanking!

Get her thyroid checked out. My wife ended up being diagnosed with hyperthyroidism, hence her lack of interest in sex for the past 10 years, along with all of the other symptoms we had never realized were all connected until now )(i.e. weight loss (she is a skinny girl) irritability, anger issues, short fuse, anxiety, insomnia, thinning hair).

I hear ya! My wife is a touch on the lazy side and over the years has put on weight. I think sex is too physically demanding for her and she is embarrassed by her body. I think she's beautiful and I tell her all the time how attracted I am to her and her response is usually, "I'm so fat, you're just saying that to be nice".

I think she'd sleep 20 hours a day if she could. She has been diagnosed with depression, but anti-depressants give her anxiety, which she says is worse.

When she was in better shape we had more sex, not as much as I'd like, but more than now. I think if she would work out and eat right she'd be back to the person I fell in love with. But she isn't motivated to do it and I'm sure as heck not gonna say anything to her.

Yes I get this perfectly. I've experienced this first hand. If a woman develops a negative self image it makes no difference whatsoever what we guys say to them , nor the way we say it we're only saying it to be nice and after all why would we say anything else? So in the end nothing we say makes any difference ! Do you have the feeling you'd like to step to the edge of the universe and scream at the top of your lungs for at least an hour without drawing a breath?

I can relate to the both of you. My wife has always had a weight problem her whole life. I married her because I loved her and I tell her she is pretty and her weight was never an issue. I love sex, I love having sex with her but I think she is embarrassed by her weight and always has been. Honestly, it really has never bothered me but She has self-esteem issues. sigh. Now, it's been over 2 years since we have had sex. She barely even touches me (I mean holds me, hugs me or any other gentle affection...It is me that usually does this to her just touch me back) This is one reason I get on this website. I need some excitement and I need to be seen. I get excited when people watch me stroke it and I can imagine they are masturbating to me. (especially women) Sorry guys, I am not gay but I don't have anything against it and I don't mind guys watching me jack off. Thanks for all of your helpful and interesting comments! I am on Chaturbate as MeatPopcycle if anyone wants to 'look me up'.

Women need a reason to have sex, men need a place

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Exactly, but women cannot understand us so I am told thus a gulf between us and we just have to accept it and put up with it or look for alternatives. Probably why gay sex is so widely practiced by guys who consider or considered themselves str8

we are in so rich a society that women can la around and send dumb guys off to work so they can come home later and jerk off alone. Guys are stupid

hi i feel thye same way your wife does but ive turned into a beautiful butterfly im not skinny but i love sex and love playing

Thanks for your reply. I hope my wife does the same. I do love her but I don't think she has any idea as to what hell I am going through as far as not having sex with her. It's this nearly uncontrollable urge and I have often thought about cheating on her. I really REALLY don't want to considering the fact that I still do love her. I just don't think it fair that I get nothing (affectionate or sexual) anymore. Jacking off is a bit of a pacifier but not the cure.

i so know how that was i was once married but no more and the best thing i did was get divorced