Sounds like SAAAAME scenario as with me, but even less frequent sex. :-(

this is a societal problem that came about due to a number of changes in the last 100 years. women used to be less liberated, when she married her property went to her husband. In essense women had to give in sexually because the cost of not doing so was too great. Now they don't give a damn. Even though my wife depended totally on me for her livelyhood, she still would stand in the middle of the bed room, stomp her feet, and say "I don't want to!" we seperated and reconciled three times and I ultimately lost. My wife, on a scale of 1 to 10 is a 15 in some areas. The only meaningful area where she failed was sexually. To this day it is not a priority. She sees it as an unnecessary adjunct to her life. She hurt me beyond belief and she doesn't think she did anything wrong. thats the worst part of the whole thing, she doesn't believe she was wrong, she has no regret. Once i came accross a bible quotation (I corinthians 7;4) and she started throwing furniture! if I were on my death bed she would stay by me 24 hours a day and weep gallons of tears, but she wouldn't dare spread her legs for me without me begging. I am amazed at her frigidity!

There're millions of women just like her where sex was for the most part highly desired for pro-creative purposes but in the years afterward their flame died out. It's a combination of many factors, emotion, aging, hormonal changes, religious backgrounds and yes to some extent societal as well.
In my part of the country girls are still taught sex is for creation first and throngs of religious leaders warn against lust and desire most especially if you're single !
There's little we can do about this since by the time we get our age the die is cast as they say.

I am personally convinced that very few men over the age of about 55 or 60 have any sexual intercourse with menopausal wives. Exceptions I know but few.

Like me, they revert to the 'schoolboy option' until they die.
In my case, 22 years so far.

My wife has regressed even more sexually. We haven't fucked in nearly 3 months.

Would have to agree

Pretty sure this is a big reason why so many married, older men become "curious".

That would describe most of my marriage. Intellectually she understands that sex is important, but she has no interest in it herself. She's started making a token effort on her part to try and change that, but I think the damage is done.

I agree!! I haven't had sex with my wife in over 3 yrs. My sex life is only looking at porn and jerking off. That's why we begin to become curious.

if you are not getting sex from your wife divorce her and marry a guy. at least you'll have someone to fish and drink beer with. and watch all the sports you want.

Am I one of the only ones that thinks that when two partners are incompatible sexually and a compromise cannot be made, that it can actually become a detrimental/abusive situation where one's self-worth is at the whim of constant intimacy rejection... Of course it depends on why the intimacy dried up, how much real interest there is in rekindling, and where one feels one has a right to set boundaries.

Ffs, value your sex drive and establish communication with spouses; also value their responses, perhaps there are things your are doing to make them disinterested too, and figuring out their particular language to help them feel sexy again is always a good and more positive approach than just 'why don't you want me?' or some other harsh or needy thing.

I know it's a j/o board but I've just talked to so many people on here who can't be honest with their partners that it is disturbing.

I haven't gone the curious route yet, but I never thought I'd spend as much time as I do chatting with men about women. It's the only release this married guy ever gets. Strokin and porn every free minute. What I need now is sleep...but damn it feels good.

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