I enjoy anal play while alone in the shower with a nice selection of dildos I've accumulated but am afraid to let my girlfriend know. Do you care? Think it must mean gay or strange/inappropriate? Or no big deal?

Would you want to participate? Use a strap on with your man?

My wife doesn't care. I will sometimes jack off with a butt plug or dildo inside me. She understands the male anatomy and knows prostate stimulation is very pleasurable.

Hi, my gf actually puts the butt plug in. We do a lot of anal play. In no way does liking anal make you gay.

I didn't think it made me gay but wondered about the female mindset on doing it. Would you/have you had her use a strap on?

I have always had fantasies of having a girl do me with a strap on. Something about that always turned me on even though I had never tried anal and didn't think I would actually like it.
My ex wife and I bought the first sex toys either of us had ever owned together before we got married and discovered we both loved toys.
It was probably a couple of years or more after that when she was trying to relax me by playing with my dick when I was really tired and stressed one day.She wasn't really so much masturbating me as much as just softly and gently rubbing me to calm and relax me and it felt awesome. She rubbed my balls and then under my balls in between my legs which felt really great. She saw that I was loving it and slowly kept going further back and before I knew it she was rubbing my ass with one hand and rubbing around my asshole with her fingers with her other hand. She kept that up for several minutes and then she surprised me when she decided to put one of her fingers in my ass and started fingering my ass. This was something new for both of us, but it was feeling incredibly awesome. She kept it up and while it took a while to achieve, I did have my first orgasm anally and it was totally mind blowing!!!!
So it was quite by accident that I discovered I loved the feeling of anal play. Soon after I bought an anal invader kit, a basic vibrator with a few attachments specifically for anal enjoyment. I really only used one attachment, which was a very long, but only about as round as a pencil, which is a great one, but I got adventurous enough to try the vibrator itself without any attachments and I loved it. It was an avaerage C-battery size vibe. I later got one that was a AA battery size vibe and that is now the one I use most, but I have bought a few dildos and other toys along the way as well.
I still have not had a girl fuck me with a strap on, although a few have said they would, just never got around to buying one of those, but I have had girls use my vibes and dildos on me.
I have only had one girl freak out over me having those types of toys. I had told her about having toys and she asked me what kind. I told her about some of the ones I use on my cock and she was okay with that, but when I talked about having a few toys for anal, she started with the "so are you gay? would you rather be with a guy?" questions. She then asked me if they were plain vibes or is any of them looked like a penis. Again she freaks out that I told her that some of them look like a penis. She eventually became okay with it and figured out that I wasn't gay or bi.

Most of my girlfriends since I divorced were not only okay with it, but turned on by it. I did have a couple that were okay with it, but when we had an ugly break up they tried to throw that in my face to use against me....to transfer their guilt because in both cases they were cheating on me. So yeah, now I must be gay. lol Nope! No attraction to men whatsoever here, but if I was I would not be ashamed to admit it and I have plenty of gay friends, a few of which who have went out of their way to let me know that if I ever wanted to cross over, they would love to break me in, so I know I wouldn't have a problem finding a man if I ever wanted that.

I say just be honest. I don't think it's good to hide things and keep secrets, but it is great when you can share them with your wife/girlfriend, or at the very least she knows so it's not a shock or a problem if she later finds out by walking in on you while you're using them. I think you'll find most women these days are very open minded about such things.
Oh, and the girl who freaked out about me having anal toys....one day surprised the hell out of me. Curiosity finally got the better of her and she asked me to use a toy in her ass. She had me fuck her pussy doggie style while using a vibrating dildo in her ass. When we got done she told me "Now I totally understand why you love this!!!" and thanked me for opening her up to something so new and wonderful.

We are looking to get a strap on, she enjoys the feeling of being in control. She has used a dildo on me before and her fingers. I my fave thing is to be fingered while having a bj it's amazing.

Yes, Love a girl fingering my ass while giving me a blowjob. Especially when I'm not expecting it.