Anyone have advice. NJ here and cant seem to find anywhere or site to find a JO bud.

I need a regular online jack off bud myself

Yeah these are tough to find JP. I'm in CT and have the same issue

really hard to find, im in Oregon and have jerked off with a few guys but it never became a regular thing, im still looking

I have never had to look any further than my buddies.
If you and a buddy really are friends , it happens.
And you know the friends that will and the ones you know wouldn't.

True to a point. I have a best friend who talks all the talk, but won't jack off with me. He has watched me jerk off on several occasions, and freely admits he jerks off after I leave, but he won't take his cock out in front of me. It's not because he doesn't have a nice cock, he's much bigger than me (I've watched him fuck and seen him get out of the shower).

He has even asked me to watch porn with him and will rub his hard on through his pants, but won't take it out.

It is difficult to connect. I wish it was easier for us to identify each other out in the world. It would be cool if there was a secret fraternity of JO buddies, worldwide. We'd have some sort of identifying logo that only we'd know what it meant. Maybe a secret handshake or something.
Sites like this one are great, Bateworld is good too. I'm working on a map you can add yourself to and also check out other guys that are interested in having a JO Buddy.
Here: http://bwhackitt.byethost11.com/jbud/?q=map
So far only a couple are in NJ. The old map had quite a few: http://bwhackitt.byethost11.com/tag/nj/

Was so much easier to find buds or convert the scared ones when we were younger lol.

Check out bwhackit's map. I subscribed and heard from a potential j/o bud within a couple of days, so it works.

You can try bateworld.com They have listings of men traveling to different cities who are looking to hook up while on the road but I imagine that there are guys looking to hook up at home, too. It's an interesting site.

That's awesome!