What is the one reason why you do not jerk-off with a buddy in person?

Is it location? Nerves? Trust? STD? Wife? or something else?

I really want to, although there is the thought of std's, and having to find a place to do it. Also keeping it secret, and trust. But then I want to do more than jerk off. Like be a btm!!!

Some guys are keen to meet but I just can't take them seriously enough to take that kind of risk. I need to know that he's a real person who wears shoes and pays taxes, and that won't happen if he just spazzes about his dick 24/7.

Good question!

All of the above, to some extent. Have gotten to know a couple guys on here as regular chat buds, once even had arrangements to meet up because I knew based on chat/emails that we would have the same expectations. But, he didn't show up, no reason given, never got in touch again- so that even moved me farther back from trying to meet up with someone again.

It's mostly discretion- wife can never find out. STD's go along with that- if it is just JO/mutual which is all I want, that should be fine.

There is a nerves component to it too- what if the guy wants more than I do despite being clear about it before? What if it is weird after we cum? I'm a chubby guy and clear about that but what if we meet and that's a problem?

I travel a lot for work and post in the business travel thread sometimes- so maybe someday....

Nerves, trust, STD in that order.

My partner would disapprove.

I don't do it because I can't find anyone who can host. I'd love a bud to jack and suck with.

Yeah so would mine.

I'm a chubby guy, self confidence issues.

Side note, if anyone in Ohio (Cincinnati) is okay with this drop me a line!

I'd have to say it's a combination of a lot of things... but boundaries seems to be the main issue. With all the STDs out there, all I'm really interested in doing is jacking with a bud, but most want to take it much further than that. While I have had a lot of fun in my younger years doing many things, I am at the point that all I'd really be comfortable doing is watching each other, trading comments about what we like, maybe lending a hand (pretty safe there). Unfortunately many guys want oral/anal as well and I don't, and I haven't found someone that can limit it to just jacking/mutual jacking. Obviously trust/nerves/wife play into this as well... but not as much as boundaries for me.

I'd love to get with a guy. I have done it before and found it intoxicating. So much so that I'm absolutely sure that I could not just JO with a buddy. I wouldn't stop there and his cock would be in my mouth before you could say STD. If I knew someone who was also married and absolutely STD-free then I'd make him a happy man. There are guys nearby on Manhunt that I'm sure would like to meet up but my fear is holding me back.

Simple - never had the opportunity!

I have no interest in seeing cock. I have no interest in sharing my porn with someone IRL. I am private, I am entirely staight, and that is that.

I would really like to but have not found anyone that wants to do it with me

Finding a jo bud is hard. I'm hoping I could get a friend of mine to jo with me but how can I ask? I would if I could be 100% sure he wouldnt tell anyone if his answer was no.