It is having to find someone who can accomodate, and at the time you want - without wife around, when your super horny and not working!
It is good when you find someone who is into the same stuff or similar and even better when it finally happens!

I agree with you. I only want a J/O bud, something different than doing it by yourself.
I think most older guys on here are here because our wife's or girlfriends not interested in any sexual activity

yup, what he said. I figured out a few years ago that regardless the gender the hand or mouth on my cock, it feels the same...GOOD! Sure, I'd rather fuck a pussy but a hand or mouth feels the same.....I still shoot a load

I dunno...ask THEM!

First and foremost would be being found out. Nerves, thinking about what happens after you cum and the fun is over. Also a little self conscious about my cock it has pretty good curve to the left lol.

Yup great at the time but as soon as you cum party over not purposely just the way I know I would react

You said it all, I agree

I don't have a buddy that I'd care to jack off with or suck. I prefer to find them elsewhere.

I had a few jack buddies when I was young. Was never attracted to guys at all, so it was not a turn on to watch them, but after being taught that masturbating was bad and I shouldn't do it and having to be secretive about doing it once I realized I could never stop doing it and not understanding how such a wonderful thing could be so bad or wrong, it was just kind of a freedom and validation to know I was not the only one who enjoyed jacking off and it was something to do when we were bored and horny. Kind of a secret support group when you were afraid to discuss, much less admit to masturbation with most of your friends or anyone else for fear of being made fun of or told on.
It was also experimenting. Wanting to be with a girl and kind playing around, guessing and figuring out how you should/would do things with a girl. Usually we'd just jack ourselves off and maybe talk about what it will be like when we finally got to fuck a girl, but there were a few times we jacked each other off and I had sucked a couple of cocks, although not to completion.
I had masturbated with about three different girls back around that time as well One who hung out with me and one of my buds in the country. We were bored and decided to go jack off and I said it would be nice if we had a girl to join us and he said we'd make a stop on the way and sure enough a girl we both knew agreed to go play in the barn with us. We all watched each other masturbate. Great times.
A few years passed since I had jacked with a buddy and I wound up dating a girl for a couple of years who loved putting her hand down my pants when we went to the movies and I reciprocated. after we dated and masturbated each other regularly for a couple of years, we finally had sex. Her first time and mine. After that I have never been interested in jacking off or anything else with guys. I do, however, do webcam shows for money, and of course it's all men who like to watch and pay to see me jack off, with the occasional real female now and then. I don't mind it and when I first started camming, I was not sure how I was going to feel knowing it would be mostly guys watching and jacking off to me, but as soon as the first customer took me private, the thought that someone thought I looked good enough (dressed as a woman) to want to pay to watch me jack off became a turn on to me, so it worked out. I don't cam, jack off or sexually interact with men outside of camming for money. Not sure why it's a turn on for me unless it's the money. Getting paid to do what I love to do anyway....jack off. lol Maybe that's it.
I have always jacked off in front of and with most of my girlfriends I've had and especially with my ex-wife, but I also have a few female friends who are masturbation buddys. We're really just friends, we hang out as friends and do things friends do and we don't have actual sex, but we masturbate together in person, over the phone, webcamming or sexting.
Although I am not really into watching guys or jacking with them, I may watch a jack video every now and then if I run across one that catches my attention for some reason while I am searching porn videos, but one time when a guy jacking off does turn me on, for whatever reason, is when it is a mutual masturbation video with a guy and a girl. Maybe because I have always enjoyed and have been turned on by mutual masturbation with women, I love watching other couples masturbating together. I always have loved watching women masturbate and it has always turned me on when a woman watches me while I jack off in front of her and she is into it.