Wtf?
She does both maybe once a year and pisses me off it's not more. Like really pissed. I told her I do a lot for her that I hate and if it means that much to me she do it more, but instead she gets pissed at me. Am I way off?

No, from what you've said here, this seems reasonable. But you need to realize she probably won't change. So you've got some options:

1. Do nothing, stay pissed about it. Bitch to random strangers on the internet.
2. Leave her.
3. Don't leave, but find someone else who will do those things.

Same with my wife. Didnt you know a wedding ring shuts that part of her brain off and thus her ability to perform those acts.

Forgive the unsolicited advice, but it might be your approach. Telling her that you do stuff for her that you 'hate' is confrontational and may lessen her enjoyment of those things.

If you've tried the softly-softly approach (seduction, gentle talks) and nothing has worked, a strategy that has worked for a few friends of mine is to suggest adding a party (or two) to the bedroom. Your wife may not want to give BJs, but you might find someone else who enjoys it. And if you're curious, consider a bi male, who will gladly fuck your wife and suck you off (maybe at the same time!). My two cents.

I love her so much and hard part is she is so hot, makes it harder to not do doggy..she has the perfect ass.
Crazy thing is, she says I should just be happy we have sex and I should shut up about it.
If she liked me licking her ass, id do it. I do all the romantic shit she likes, flowers, formals and hang out with her damn parents

guess you never heard of the annual christmas or birthday blowjob
get used to it, cause even those 'gifts' will disappear
which is why you're here

It seems a common problem, my wife wants sex occasionally but I do all the work she just lays there. She thinks guys just want to get off instead of a prolonged session of petting kissing sacking and stroking

Yea seems over time it all goes away .

Yep

I'm 37 wife is nearly 38

Work and kids are more important for her now so it's all over for me

I can't be bothered having an affair so it's just porn and here from now on for me

I have never heard of a woman that won't do doggie style as a position. That's odd. What is her reasoning?

So no sex at all??? F that!!

I hate that kind of women, it's like an act of necrophilia to have sex with them. That's why I like women, who like to look sexy and wears trashy clothes, there are great in bed.

"It's inpersonable"
"Don't want you to see my asshole"
"I'm immature"

I mean what the fuck??? I would do almost anything if it made her happy, you know, really pisses me off. When we dated, blow jobs with swallowing and even anal a few times, so to go to nothing like that pisses me off

She claims tired all the time since we have 4 kids.

I do take test shots so maybe I'm super horny. My libido 100x more than hers.

I'm stopping the testosterone maybe that's what's driving my anger?

I'm on Test shots too, for a year and a half but have had no problems with anger. Stop the shots and it sounds like you'll still want more sex that she does.

Just remember the old joke about the one thing a woman knows on her wedding day --- she's given her last blow job. Years ago I thought that was funny, now I know it's much closer to fact.

wife is super hot. I get a few bjs a year and sex once or twice a week... doggy is still her fav. of course i'd like more bjs, but take the good with the bad.