My wife and I have had all the kids we plan to have and now it's time for me to get a vasectomy. I'm having it done this Friday.

Ever since the birth of our second child last year, my wife has been increasingly paranoid about sex because she does NOT want to get pregnant again. I can't say I blame her, she just got a new job and our financial situation is finally improving somewhat, so an unexpected pregnancy would really be disastrous at this time. Unfortunately, that also means it's much harder to get her in the mood. Between work, kids and her paranoia, sex is virtually non-existant right now.

She's indicated about how much more relaxed and willing she'll be once I have it done which naturally excites me. I see the possibility for a return to the kind of sex we used to have when we were dating and newly married.

So I'm wondering, has a vasectomy enhanced your sex life? Have you found your wife/girlfriend with a renewed interest in sex once the possibility of pregnancy is taken out of the equation?

The question is open to women as well as men. I'm curious to hear all points of view.

It has helped im the fact that we can be sporadic. No need to look for a condom and stop everything while i fumble with it it. No pills for her to remember every day.

Not a big change, but convenient and one less thing to worry about.

I had it done long ago and it really hasn't changed much of anything for me, except (as noted above) you no longer have to worry about other measures . . . except to protect against STDs if you don't know your 'partner' all that well, etc . . . hehe . . .

but with your wife/girlfriend you can be totally spontaneous with no worries - go with the flow??? LOL

When they tell you to start wearing a jock strap for a couple weeks IMMEDIETLY after surgury, they mean it... unless of course you REALLY are into pain!

One more thing... my doctor had a really bad joke that only he could tell. After the first snip he said "there, now you're half vassed!"

you will be fine

I had a V 20+ years ago (in my early 20s) and I think it made my sexlife a little better in that I never had to worry about pregnacy. My wifes (1st and current) don't have to use birth control, so that's a benefit. (in a related: my 1st wife was not happy about having to go on birth control when we broke up. HAHA) I have never had any side effects either, if that helps.

Peace,
James

After my vasectomy the sex with my wife dropped. In fact we no longer have sex.

The benefit of the vasectomy is that that I did not need to wear a condom with the woman I started seeing over a year ago.

And the woman I am now seeing is thrilled that I don't have to wear a condom when we do have sex.

Then the ex should get herself fixed. Know of a couple who both were fixed due to open marriage, a lot out there where both are done I am sure

I'm sure it makes a vas deferens!

That's awesome I wish I could find s guy who either already had one wouldn't mind getting one or just doesn't want children at all would make life so much easier

my wife and i both had surgeries after our last child more than 20 years ago. we are swingers and when playing within our group makes things so much easier. my wife likes to have cum in her pussy and esp likes it eaten after. that is so much easier now. we have also introduced a few younger couples to the lifestyle and with us both taken care of that is much more open with us too.

i had mind done several years ago because at the time i was seriously thinking about getting married and due to epilepsy and various medical issues she was taking several med's per day so i really thought the concept of her getting pregnant would be a bad idea so i made the decision to have the vasectomy things did not work out with that girl but i still think i made the right choice and if any thing i have been more relaxed and comfortable knowing that there will not be any unplanned gifts 9 months after a date that i would be responsible 4

one word you don't want to hear during the procedure==Whoop's..or the nurse is really upset with her boyfriend/husband for stepping out on her

Had my vasectomy done 2 years ago. Made a slight improvement in terms of frequency of sex with the wife at first. However, soon after, it tailed right off to nearly nothing. Glad I did it as when we do have the infrequent sex, the ooops factor is gone. Although being so rare now, I wonder why it was really necessary at all in the first place.