I have kind of a problem...I have been noted by girlfriends that I have a certain flaw; I don't make porn-esque sounds when I cum. I have watched porn for as long as I can remember and I have always thought the moaning was a little melodramatic. During sex I have never felt the need to make the sounds, to assure the lady I was serious and not make a big deal out of it. I have always believed her pleasure, for me, is more important than my own. So during my orgasm I keep fucking and let her enjoy her own orgasm, afterwards I get the question; "did you cum?"..."yeah...about 5 minutes ago" and they're dissapointed they never noticed. So I tought myself to fake a real orgasm. But now when I have sex it's like playing a role. I prefer the "gentlemans shouldertap"..."excuse me, you might want to prepare your mouth for something that might happen really soon". Grunting and moaning just isn't my thing.....why should I have to fake a real orgasm? It's just fun, right? Am I alone in this? Do women expect the grunting because they watch porn? Do all other men overact their orgasm?

Well not that I'v been with THAT MANY guys over time, but I'v always thought it was a turn on hearing a guy moaning when he cums... I wouldn't want him to fake it though if he's not one to naturally do that, rather forcing the sound. I'd want him to be a natural moaner I guess is what I'm saying. LoL

But the thing is; when women don't hear a guy moan, they think they're doing something wrong. The fact is, there's little you can do wrong with a cock! I enjoy fucking just like anybody....but I have to admit to fake an orgasm here and there. Are there any guys who have faked an orgasm? I know there are....I have had girlfriends who wanted to see the condom, we'd be fucking for hours and she loved it, that would be enough for me, I'd grunt.....but she wanted proof that I came.....

I've never needed a guy moaning my name or saying yes yes over and over...but I agree with FireFly that a moan or groan is a turn on.

think about it from there veiw. u no when ur pleasing a girl they moan and make all sorts of noises, its a small conformation ur doing ur job properly. if they just lay there silent during their orgasm u would be a little perplexed and dissapointed. u not making any sound probably gives them no gratification that they made u cum

I understand that...but I like having fun during sex....so when my partner of myself cum we are having so much fun it's usually greeted by a laugh or a giggle...or a silly face even; "had fun honey??"

I am a natural moaner do want references?

For me, silence is a problem lol. Moanings hot. Even if u have to fake it a little so its known its better. If people are mentioned it to you, then you need to fix up about it.

When watching porn, all that over exaggerated moaning makes me laugh. As a matter of fact, the last time I jacked with a bud, I couldn't help but giggle.

I too am a silent orgasmer. I feel the pleasure, but its not so intense that I must SiiiiiiiiiiiiiinG!

More verbal until I get close to and while having my orgasm - then some moaning as I cum. More subtle than loud. But from my physical responses leading up to and particularly during orgasm... it's very obvious that I am thoroughly enjoying the experience and orgasm. I have no idea how a guy can stay still when having an orgasm - it's so totally consuming from head to toes.

My orgasms are loud, and always have been. Even when I was a young kid, I usually let out a scream. My orgasms were extremely intense back then (I'd often nearly pass out). They're still very intense, and I am often right on the verge of orgasm for a couple minutes or more - even when I'm not trying to edge. I am not over-reacting. The feelings shoot through my entire body & down my legs. My body has always stiffened & convulsed uncontrollably when I orgasm. The first few times I masturbated, I nearly fell out of bed because of this.

I consider it a good thing. Most of my female partners over the years have told me that I am much, much 'more into it' than other guys they've been with - and that they think it's hot. Sometimes, my moans as I hover on the edge act as a trigger that sends them over the edge. Also, hearing my partner moan as she is about to have an intense orgasm often triggers mine.

Simultaneous orgasms are so, so hot!!!

you cant on every place be loud........
silent its sometimes better

I usually make some noise, but not a overly loud, soft moaning as we are doing it maybe some grunting a little louder when I cum. Sometimes we talk during sex, which is also fun. But there are times when we don't want to be heard (i.e. at relatives house for the holidays or afraid to wake up the kid) and we have to do it in complete silence. Not being able to make a peep is sometimes a turn on also, just because it is so difficult to do. I have to hold my breath when I cum to keep completely quiet.