I haven't done anything with a guy in 13 years. I had a customer who kept going on and on about how mean his wife was, and how they are never intimate. I took a chance(I've never done this) and asked him if he was into guys at all. He said thanks but no thanks, he wouldn't be unfaithful to his wife. I was embarrassed.

How do you find out if another guy is interested? Any tips?

Him looking at your crotch/ass is a good indicator.

Yeah, the way a guy looks at you can say it all without words. Just look back, at what he's got.

It's always a crap shoot. Things could go horribly wrong when doing it in person. Sometimes you just read the signs wrong, but it could still end up quite embarrassing.

Finding people online is a different story. Setup a free yahoo, hotmail, gmail etc email address that you only use for this purpose or for these type of forums. Then, via email/forums, you can speak freely. Sooner or later you'll have to show your face, but by that point, both of you know what each other is looking for so the potential embarrassment is no longer a concern.

I am an attractive man and to be honest wouldnt know if anyone was hitting on me. I think I am oblivious to it. But at the same time i am too nervous to attempt anything myself in fear I got the wrong idea. I am 44 years old and married with zero in person experience. If anyone would like to communicate message me.

Honestly, it's the most difficult thing for most of us. I'm happily married but when traveling will sometimes play around with another guy. I don't do it more than 5-6 times a year and partly because I don't pick up on the 'signals' I hear so much about. I often end up finding a porn theater/bookstore and stroke and watch others playing. It sort of satisfies my desire to be with other guys and at the same time is safe as I don't participate inn anything other than a circle jerk or something similar.

It could be possible to overcome the gap by somehow getting into a conversation about porn. There's a clear path from watching porn to jacking.