Yep. Have to agree.

I miss a lot about my last relationship, but I have to agree on your point that I am now only accountable for myself and my actions. I have no partner that can change my life for me. There is a lot of relief in that alone, sexually or otherwise. I've always said that when you enter a relationship, you are no longer 100% yourself, neither is your partner. You do things that will affect them, and vice versa, where as being single, it's all on your head and your head alone. You can make or break your partner, just as they can you. When it comes to one person wanting something that the other doesn't, that's where the problems start. You are no longer fully in control of your life. Be careful!

First off, over half of all marriages end in divorce. So blaming alternative lifestyles for divorce is a weak argument. If one person leaves the relationship for another person, it's not because of sex, it's because they didn't honor their commitment to their spouse. It's an integrity thing.

I dated a girl years back who cheated on me. When I caught her I asked her why and she told me, "I just wanted to see what it was like with him. It was exciting to be desired by another man". Ok, I get it. She didn't love him and she said he was much "bigger" than me and she enjoyed that aspect. So she was getting from him something I could not give her.

This started a thing that went on for 4 more years. She had "dates" with many men, including many of my friends. It was "sport fucking" to her. She loved teasing and flirting with them and ultimately getting fucked by them. She would come to my place after her "date" and tell me about it as I ate her fresh fucked pussy then deposited a load of my own. It was very exciting and my stomach would be in knots until she got home and told me those two words. "it happened". That meant she fucked him. Sometimes she didn't. Sometimes she just sucked them off. She did tell me that most men suck in bed and are boring. They pump for a few minutes and cum. I was surprised to hear how bad some men are at sex.

The bad part, and why we didn't get married, is the big down side. The risks. She ended up pregnant. But who's was it? We narrowed it down to three, myself and two others. One of the men was black, so when the baby was born we knew who's it was. I was relieved to not have to care for a baby at 20yo, but very sad as she married the other man and ended up having another baby with him. They were married for 11 years before they split up. She was still wild and willing, but her husband was very traditional and very jealous. He was foreign and from a country where women were treated as second class citizens. She eventually left him, but I was already married.

She re-married a man she'd been friend with since high school and knew he was into alternative lifestyles. They were active swingers for years. They are in their mid-40's now, and grandparents, and aren't active in the lifestyle anymore. But they have a good strong marriage. She did have a fuck buddy for a little while and her husband was fine with it. She tells me he's all but lost his sex drive and suffers from erectile disfunction.

So enjoy sex any way you can enjoy it with whoever you can enjoy it with. It's such a beautiful thing. Sex is wonderful. Why do some folks want to make it so taboo?

Cool story and outlook. Yeah, I agree with the whole 'taboo' thing. It's sex. It's the reason we're all here, it's a basic human instinct, desire and need: just like eating and sleeping. I also agree with your comment on the divorce rate: if it's gonna happen, it's gonna happen. Good input.