Hi Guys, I am curious as to how many of you have chickened out from a meet and cut off all contact or another reason. I have tried to arrange several meets and then they just cut off all contact. One guy flaked out twice with a poor excuse the first time then blanked me the second. I have had two successful meets with one guy I found on here which were great fun. I had one awkward arrangement when I was traveling for work and it turned out I worked with the person I was arranging to meet, we didn't meet, sure we both worked it out and nothing has been said since. Let me know your experiences.

I have lost count on how many guys guys have backed out on getting together with me even after sending me pics of their cocks. No reason given just zero contact after expressing interest.

It happens, lots of cam friends who for what ever reason dont or wont take the next step i have had friends who i have jacked lots with who suddenly just disappear. I never push the issue

I have never arranged a meeting and not shown...

But there have been some where we were talking about meeting up and then looking at other posts of theirs I changed my mind.

I hate to admit it, but I have flaked out on several hookups. All of them just didn't seem right, even though the emails/chats seemed to go good. I found out that all but one of those meetings the other guy flaked out too, so there's that.

I've known guys who would go to a porn store or theater and play with other guys, but can't bring themselves to meet up for one-on-one with another guy. Guess it's the anonymity thing...

I believe it nerves. Try meeting for a coffee or a drink. You both need a comfort level before the pants come off. The more you cam together will help as well

Thats how my first buddy meet happened. I'm happy to do that but people aren't. I invite direct to my place happy for them to say no lets meet elsewhere first.

It's pretty common. I don't tend to look for new guys to bate with now because I have a pretty good scene of guys to stroke with and a few of them bring new guys along now and then. I found it was easier when there was less pressure. Meeting up just for a pint or something usually helps, turn the conversation to it slowly. Sometimes they'll decide there and then to get it out for a wank and other guys will get in touch again later.

The last guy I met up with I found at BuddyBate. He was nervous at the start and we had a pint first. Then he got in touch again a week later and we went for another drink and once we started properly chatting about it he was ready to go and have a wank.

We're good mates now. We work out together, go to the pub, have a wank... he wasn't sure about frotting or making any physical contact at first but after a few wanks he was down for swapping dicks. I got him interested in frotting and edging

So, I would recommend making it about friendship first. Most guys are probably looking for a good buddy instead of a one-off wank and they're not used to this scene. A lot of guys have a lot of weird hang ups about it all and breaking the ice by becoming mates first and not making it all about the wank definitely helps.

ive had a couple of guys let me down at the last minute, with a knicker share and wank arranged

allen648. I agree 100% with what your saying here. I always arrange to meet a guy at a "Neutral" public place for a coffee and a face to face chat. Gives both of you a chance to see the other guy and have a good chat about what you are looking for and what mutual likes or dislikes you may have. Of course people don't always turn up for these meeting either (Personally, I always specify that I will wait for 15 minutes past the agreed meeting time and then leave) but when they do I have found that it gives you a chance to just chat and size each other up.

Arranged one with a guy i met online, booked hotel, travelled, then he text me 3:15 (3:00 was meet) saying he was sorry but lost her nerve

It has never occurred to me to want to hook-up with another guy and meet so we could jerk off together.

I gave up thinking about meeting up from here as most lads from Liverpool I have no interest in meeting anyway but am always cautious if I did look to meet as I don't want to waste another guys time which is why meeting from a distance is never a great idea in case you do have 2nd thoughts.

Meet a bud regulary now and that is cool. Doubt it get better than that and this is only why am single too.

Just keep at and don't be a flake

Surrey / SW London ... wont let you down !