I have had so much of my time wasted by flakes

Agree

I have never chickened out or flaked, but I have never met and played with someone without either doing a public meet first or having put in an extended amount of time to get to know someone.

I would be frustrated to set something up and have someone flake out on me, but since I strictly play with fellow married guys, I understand if they have to cancel and relay that

I've been looking for someone to JO with, but have been afraid I would chicken out myself if the opportunity arose or be scrambling for the door post-cum. Therefore I've made it a decision that I'd prefer to meet someone first in public for coffee, drinks, whatever and see if it clicks before dropping the pants.

Problem is I just need to find someone roughly my age in my area who'd be up for such.