Ideally someone who can accommodate, which seems to be the big stumbling block.
Someone quite laid back who wants to chill, watch or look at porn & wank. Hopefully someone into mutual wanking.
It would be great if a wank buddy could become a friend I could go the pub with, share a few pints.

Its the continued sexual tension that intrigue me the most. Knowing that you know that we want to hang out, tease, talk a little pervy, reveal some desires, get loose, shed clothes and slowly descend into pure bliss is a blueprint I'd like to see built upon to completion.

I have always wanted a JO buddy. But I am married and live in a smaller population. Anonymity is a problem. I would also like someone who might be ok with mutual masturbation, even a little touching. But not full on sex or affection. It had always been my fantasy to have someone something like me that is not effeminate but might be into jacking off with and for another dude. Watching porn, chatting, and anything else that gets the juices flowing pun intended. But I do not want someone who talks to others about it or anything. That is what would be cool about a married guy with as much to lose. It is also why it is hard enough to find someone to trust with something so secret. Especially if you are married.

Anyway back when CraigsList had personal ads, I used to look at them. Mostly to see what other perverts might be up to. I came across an ad from a guy wanting a JO Buddy. I had seen one or two of these but they always creeped me out. But this one was different. He said he was gay but would prefer a straight man. He was straight acting and had a very public job and discretion was super important. He said he was not looking for sex at all, only a person who would want to stop by and JO with him. He would host and had porn. I liked that he was gay because a straight guy may never want me to jack him a little or vice versa.

I was very intrigued by this. Very. So much so that I sent the guy an email and described myself and what I liked and did not like and why I might be interested. We began exchanging emails. He suggested maybe we meet somewhere to make sure we are compatible. I totally agreed. I suggested a park where I occasionally visit. I told him I could stop by there after work before I went home to the wife. He said that he could make it. Then this dude did the greatest thing. He sent one more email. He told me that in order to save me from potential embarrassment he attached a selfie in case we know each other.

We did. He was the bar manager of my local golf club. A bar where my wife and I go all the time. He has planned dinners with my wife. I knew him well. I started thinking about how awful it could be if he somehow fell out of favor at this place. And somehow mentioned my name. Or had some vendetta to tell my wife. It was too close, too personal. I thanked him and told him that we do indeed know each other fairly well. I told him I appreciated the opportunity to save me embarrassment. I told him that on second thought maybe it was a bad idea and I would never want to jeopardize my or my wifes privacy. He said that he would never tell and had a lot to lose as well. He said if I ever changed my mind to let him know. I told him I would.

So I came close, but it did not happen.

I'd love a lady wank buddy we could have sex too if I was lucky