I have met up with a few guys for jacking. I always seek out other married men, just my preference. However, once I met up with a guy that I strongly suspected was gay. I don't know why but I was unable to get an erection. (Maybe the chemistry wasn't right because I wasn't gay?) But bless his heart, he told me not to worry and continued to stimulate and jack my flacid penis. I eventually came which I didn't even know was possible without an erection.

Wow thanks for sharing that
He certainly was a much better find than my jack ass
He was married but had said his primary interest was to suck me and swallow sand added mmmm to the end which I think was a turn off
I do not see myself as gay as I am turned on by women and pretty she males but physically not men
I do believe it is a cock curiousness in itself
I absolutely would not mind a gay guy as long as we could relax and play without imposing more in each other than desired
In my case no anal or mouth to mouth kissing
But HJ and BJ no doubt
The threads for local Washington DC area guys have not appeared to produce real meetings though the only successful bud meeting I have had was through here so who knows
And that meeting was great and worth seeking out a repeat
I will not go into the details of that time here though might through a pm from a guy interested in meeting up and wondering what we may do or at least what I have done so far

First of all, those situations can create a lot of anxiety. You were in a new situation, going to a strangers house to explore your sexuality. I lose interest quickly if the chemistry isn't right. Meaning I'm trying to relax a bit and the guy is high on something and can't calm down. Plus if you're not feeling the situation then there goes the excitement.

Too much porn can cause those issues, or antidepressants. Supplements like vitamin d, l-cirtruiline for NO production and ginkgo bilboa helped me out after my dick took significant effort to get hard, and an hour to cum. Not to go on a rant but exercise will help increase your energy levels. I would recommend starting an enlargement routine for your cock as well. No Offense! lol. But the light stretching and jelquing techniques have really helped me out.

Heres a test, next time you see an attractive woman do you have the urge to talk to her or get anxious? I noticed this difference after making some changes and do not need to cum every day. I try to cum once every 2 days for now, then I'll slowly increase the duration. The days I jelq I play with my cock a bit but thats it.

My final piece of advice, its normal to be anxious about these situations. Especially online meet ups. Try gradually getting comfortable with the idea of mutual oral. Go to a sex shop video booth , stroke it with other men at adult theaters, watch bi or certain gay porn to see great cocksucking in a action.

A bit of a rant, I hope this helped.

Thanks for chiming in with advice.
Reference your "test": I never get anxious when I see an attractive woman. No issue talking with them or approaching them in a casual (not trying to pick up) situation. When I was in college I lived in a townhouse with my girlfriend and her four female roommates so that probably contributed to my being comfortable around women. Though I always had a girlfriend in High School as well so it just is not a "thing"
I am generally just a "people person", was in sales for many years in many different situations including contracting with homeowners requiring comfort with people I have never met.
I am not gay. This was more of an experiment to broaden my sexual horizons. Since that event I have had multiple visits to female massage professionals and not had a "plumbing" issue. It still works. Not like 10 years ago but certainly gets hard and cums.
I think like you and others have pointed out I was just unlucky to get such a jerk for the first meeting of this sort.
I don't know of any sex shop video places with that kind of "action". Very few around Northern Virginia and the ones that are here are pretty much just selling toys, supplements and videos. No booths. No interactive spots in the store. Though I am not sure I would be comfortable in that environment which could cause a not-full erection and be just as embarrassing as the meeting I have described.
I just finished JOing for an hour watching porn and finished mainly due to running out of time home alone. I don't think too much porn is causing me performance issues.
I think patience is the key and hoping the right guy and situation will come along and that I will recognize the potential, relax and have fun. If not it just may mean that after all it is just not my thing.
I am exceedingly curious if adding a voyeur woman to the event would make it easier for me as I love looking at women while....well you know. I watched a video of a wife (probably not real wife but fun to imagine) watching a guy giving her hubby a HJ and then BJ and then he reciprocated. I came before they did. Her expression was a decided turn on for me even though she never physically got involved. She was playing with her pussy though.
Your recommended supplements are interesting. I take several supplements including a multi vitamin, Vit D, Fish oil, and some others but have not heard of one or two of your recommendations. I also take medicine for high blood pressure which I have heard can have an effect on erections. I skip taking it on days I am headed to the AMPs. I have also tried a few of the performance enhancing supplements available at the adult shop like Miracle Zen, One More Knight and a few more. They seem to help and I combine them with Cialis on special occassions.

Id love a link to that video you were watching. I think it is easy to get used to porn as a means of sexual relief which throws thinsg off in person. I started with my best friend and that was puberty and his parents having the porn channels lol. But it can be difficult finding a guy online that you're comfortable with. For example I have had fun in my gym locker room by being social, but not obnoxious. Bringing up the hotties in the yoga pants and sharing photos of your wife or ex can help too. Feel free to PM me sometime

PM sent with link. Thanks for the comments and interest enough to give advice as well.
Shame your profile has no pic. Mine does and it is me. Pain in the butt to load an avatar pic. Just trying to get a pic to the exact size JIC requires. Oh well. Profile pic was easy.