I just read at BuddyBate that Yahoo Groups is closing down completely this month.

As a younger man looking for information and local communities of jerkers it was one of my first experiences with the bator community and it showed me that there were so many men out there all over who just liked enjoying their masturbation together.

I don't know when I stopped using it but it was probably ten or more years ago.

I suppose it's sad to see another community site out there disappear, there are probably thousands of men who still get email notifications and communicate using it, because it's familiar to them.

Anyone else ever use it?

I wouldn't say I'm a chronic masturbator. I go through stages. I can jack off two or three times a day in summer, but that's not every day. I know a couple of guys who are self-confessed chronic masturbators and it's good having them "on hand" I know I can probably text one of them at any time and we'll be meeting up to rub dicks within the hour

Less into porn than I used to be I think too much of it is the same now. I like MMF threesomes where the guys make contact though, that's still super hot.

I'm more into reading jackoff stories now. It was hard to find good bator stories of guys enjoying their dicks together but I started reading all the stories at the http://patreon.com/buddybate and they always make me shoot huge loads.

I can't say I've really thought about it much, I just like playing with them and don't care if a guy calls it his penis, cock, dick, boner, stiffy... whatever as long as we can rub them

Met up with a guy last year who was really into docking. Tried it a few times with wank mates over the years but wasn't really successful because their foreskins were pretty tight and mine isn't the biggest or stretchiest but the guy I met last summer has a really stretchy and loose foreskin and he could totally cover the head of my cock with it. Felt great!

GraysAnatomy said:
Docking is a special form of frotting.

Met a couple of guys from here over the years, and a couple of guys from BuddyBate. There are a lot of guys who back out and just seem to be into the fantasy of it but if you stick with it you can find a lot of guys.

It's good to find guys for regular wanks too because a lot of them have other guys they meet with and you can trade buddies and build a local network.

You're not alone in wanting this. There are a lot of men out there who appreciate this kind of male friendship and there are certainly a lot of older men who would love to have a younger friend to mentor and share that with, too.

I would recommend maybe seeking some masturbation groups, there's probably at least one in your area. Or you could just try to create one yourself. Once you have a few guys together enjoying their strokes it's easy to form friendships from that.

In my experience, while a quick no-strings fap with a stranger at the urinals is fun, it's more rewarding to have a long-term friendship where you can enjoy it together routinely.

I mostly work from home already so I'm used to it, but it's going to be interesting to see how others do. I know from experience that it can be very easy to get distracted by porn and a good long stroke.

I do love a good outdoor wank. I have a buddy in London I'm visiting in April and he has a very secluded patio area at the back with a hot tub. Looking forward to spending a couple of days enjoying some wanks out there with a few friends.

Also have a couple places nearby but the weather needs to be a little warmer before I'll head out to any of those to see who's around.

It's not true to say that men aren't open about it, I know a lot of men who are and attitudes have definitely changed a lot in the last twenty years. It seems to me, from my experience at least, guys are more open with their sexuality these days and more inclined to admit they like sharing their jerking with others.

As you rightly say, it's just another form of bonding and there are a lot of men who don't have a problem with shyness or prudishness, they'll happily get it out and share a stroke with a buddy to some good porn if the opportunity is there.

That doesn't mean every guy is gonna be down to frot or swap hands, but I think most guys are open to at least enjoying porn together and dealing with their own dick and there's nothing wrong with doing that.

I would say it's a healthy part of a male friendship, those who do share masturbation together tend to have stronger friendships, from my experience.

Currently have three wank mates I meet up with regularly. Get to the London Jack Off club occasionally too but it can be hard to get tickets. Should be easier now they've added another night every month.