Hi ladies,

I'm bringing my question over to you from the thread "cum shots" on the "For Him" board.

Along with many other guys, I, too, love to give a woman an intense facial. But I've only had one partner who enjoyed this and would ask me for it. Almost all others are of the "Ewwww! Cum is nasty!" or "Not on _my_ face!!!" variety. A couple I never even asked them because I knew the answer without asking.

How do you feel about male ejaculation as a part of sex play, esp. facials? Have you ever discussed this with a female friend? (I've heard some gals are very comfortable talking about very explicit topics with some friends Things that would make us guys blush, and we'd rarely if ever talk about with another guy.)

Or is this just a learned/"brainwashed" response that comes from us guys watching too much porn???

You've been brainwashed.

I don't see the purpose. I find it demeaning to the woman.

Which is precisely why I love it!

I've had this "kink" since I was young. It was only about 5 years ago that I realized this is probably a dominant trait/fetish. I'm not really into S&M and not turned on by B&D _at_all_.

But I agree with you, Anna, in that wanting to ejaculate on a woman's face is almost certainly a desire to make her submit, to control her, or perhaps even to humiliate her. So I suppose I must be at least latently dominant.

The things you can learn about yourself that you never imagined....

Yep. And I find that incredibly erotic. Essential, in fact - to me anyway. Being dominated, controlled and 'humiliated' by being ejaculated on, used as a sex object by my man who (before the nay-sayers jump in with 'women's rights blah blah), treats me like a princess in everyday life.

I have a very good self-esteem, am confident and assertive and command respect professionaly. That bit was for anyone who may think I am a poor downtrodden mouse. I am not. But, sexually, I need to be dominated, treated like a whore. Which is what I have with my man and I've never been more satisfied.

I don't really mind it either as long as I know the guy doesn't really think I'm some worthless,dirty, scuzzy, tramp, whore or something. I think it's just part of the excitement and the game really of having sex and besides it all washes off pretty easily. I'm going to know the guy pretty good too and know that he's not really there to simply humiliate me. I can see how a guy would think that's exciting and I think it is too. I think it feels pretty darned nice really! I definitely don't want someone hurting me but having cum shot wherever on me is pretty much of a turn on... not that I'd want any old body squirting his cum all over me, no way. Whether it's dominance thing or not I don't know and actually I don't care if he's thinking that at that moment, but if it is for that few seconds he's squirting his cum well that's great! Really don't we girls have a certain donination above the guys just being able to pick and choose who we're attracted to enough to 'allow' them to be more intimate with us? I think so in all honesty. Guys will flirt yet I know I'm not going to lead a guy on flirting back if I'm not attracted to him and would let him or even want him to do things with me that I don't want him to do to me. If I like a guy enough to want to have sex with him, more than likely I'll allow him to cum on me wherever he wants... as long as I can easily get cleaned up again when I need to or when I want to. Geesh, it's just cum.

I think it's a very personal issue. I have had gf's who loved to be covered in cum...and others who made clear that they didn't. In a relationship it's part of the game to figure out what your partner likes and dislikes. To simply assume that everybody likes to be cummed on is rediculous. It's a very easy preference to figure out. You have time enough to figure out what the other wants. I personally enjoy seeing myself ejaculate and like even more to see the reaction of the lady in question, but if she's not into it...no big deal either....

Interesting question. I have no idea why I am the way I am, but come does not bother me at all. I kind of like to be messy~ sex IS messy. It's all about bodily fluids... With that being said, to WANT a man to shoot on my face, I have to trust and love him- shooting come on my face puts me in a very vulnerable place. It puts me in a passive position, and I am not very passive. BUT- it can be a huge turn on with the right man! Yes, it *seems* demeaning to women, but I think that is all part of the allure of a facial- I mean, in "real life" I'm a "housewife" kind of gal, but in some of my fantasies I am a little come slut *lol* So, there is a time and a place for a facial. I would not want it all the time, no, because it is one of those "naughty session" kinks.

From my other posts it is obvious that I love it when a man has his cock in his hand. Since this is all part of the facial (I want him stroking when he comes on my face, not me stroking him) I really do dig it. I like it when he is right on the edge, stroking so fast and hard- me on my knees in front of him (or over him if on the bed) with my face close to his hand on his erection. I like it if his hand brushes and bumps my face a bit as he strokes- major turn on. To look him in the eye, knowing I will soon feel the heat of his ejaculation on my face, yeah- it's a turn on- just writing about it turns me on *lol* It plays a major role in my fantasies.

My husband has a harder time with it than I do. The only time he has actually given me a facial is when I was fairly tipsy. He climbs on top of me and strokes over my face, but at the very end he can't do it. I'll get him there sooner or later!

Whenever I'm cumming, there isn't a lot of thought going on at the moment.

Interestingly, my second wife wanted me to pull out and shoot on her belly, or... We both loved to see men cum, so I had no problem doing it at all. It had nothing to do with demeaning behavior, just our way of finishing our love making and I only came on her tummy, butt and pussy depending on what we were doing when I was cumin.

I don't think Anna meant that cumming on a woman in general was demeaning but that cumming on her face was. I agree with her if that's what she did mean. I don't mind a man cumming on my belly, pussy, or even breasts but don't get near my face or you could be missing a piece of your anatomy; but then I have control issues.

I want, no need , hot loads of cum on my face it gets me so hot to think a guy is standing over me and unloading his seed on me and its getting him so hot seeing it splash my face n hair n in my happily open mouth. there is nothing better in this world yummmm love being a cumslut, cumdump

oh jen i love your post you got me tingling for you. also i went to your site and jacked to your pic. lots of kisses to you babe and I did some stroking just for you.

I just think facials are pointless. I'd much rather have the guy keep his cock in me and fill me up. There's nothing better than feeling that warm juice fill my pussy. Really. I also like a guy to stay in me after he cums so I can squeeze his cock with my pussy and give him aftershocks.

Now how'z all that supposed to happen if he's pullin' it out and cummin' anywhere else???

The procreation urge is to shoot into the vagina and hold that throbbin' dick in that nice warm lovely place. Gives pregnancy a chance to happen. Pullin' out at the last stroke (to shoot elsewhere) IMHO makes the activity into pure entertainment/pleasure, rather than a pleasure rooted in a biofunction.
The dominance urge goes for the face.