I am in an erotic hetero relationship and until recently, all my sexual experience has been with women.
Recently, my partner was away and I went to an adult video lounge and ended up masturbating with a guy - we were watching hetero porn, lusting after and discussing the beautiful female bodies. We had no penetration, sucking or mutual masturbation (he told me he was also hetero). However, I found this experience intensely erotic – two apparently hetero guys standing in front of each other, pants down, showing each other their huge cocks and thrusting and masturbating towards each other.
My female partner also has same sex tendencies – we sometimes watch and masturbate together to porn. She makes lots of erotic remarks about the females and whenever there is lesbian sex she becomes extremely horny masturbateing herself to orgasm. Our fucking afterwards is superb.
I want to suggest to my partner that we each separately explore same sex-relationships to enhance our sexuality.
To help me, I would like bisexual males and females to answer the following question:
“What are the major erotic pleasures and differences of have sex with your same sex partners as compared with having sex with your hetero partners.”

My wife and I are both bisexual. Although our same sex opportunities are limited, we both have some contacts with same sex partners.

Of course the essential difference is that our married sex involves love and mutual intimacy. Relations with a same sex partner are purely about the sex, and nothing more. It's about finding raw pleasure using the techniques that are only available with another person of the same gender.

We can do the obvious things. My partner has a cock. I can give him blowjobs, and we both have cocks for the 69. He can butt fuck me and I can butt fuck him. But eroticism is more than the sexual "plumbing." With my wife, there is real sexual intimacy. With a male partner, the sex is harder and rougher. It's about the feeling in my cock....and the physical appearance of a male sexual partner. For me, it's all good. But the married sex is actually the best.

Rodger - I liked your reply - it seems to sum up very well the differences you feel and echoes my feelings when masturbating as a hetero with that guy. I can see what you say about the raw sex aspect - although it was only solo masturbating, that is what I felt at the time and I could separate doing that very erotic act with a guy, from the love, sex and intemacy with my female partner.

Do you tell you wife when you are going to go with a guy, and/or do you talk about it afterwards and what you did? Likewise does she tell you of her female encounters?




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My wife and I are very open about our experiences with same sex partners. We both know when the other is going to be with another sex partner, and we talk very openly about our experiences. We have a very open arrangement, and sometimes incorporate threesomes or a swapping arrangement with another man or woman, or another couple. When watching porn, we're both turned on to know that she likes women and I like guys.

Thanks. Obviously you are very lucky to have a wonderful open relationship and incredible opportunities for diversified sex activities.

Would appreciate any other comments on the message board topic from other bisexuals (males and females)

Is your wife aware you have same sex interest? Seems she is into it but asking her point blank....kind of a "I noticed you seem to get on more when......" Is that something you think about? Could you see yourself trying?.....might lead to opening your door.....and yes Rodger - YOU are VERY lucky