There are some Java issues right now, but you can figure those out. There are other bigger issues as well. Sometimes it works great sometimes it doesn't.

Anyone know of another equally good place that is more reliable?

Sounds pretty typical of a dialup internet provider to be honest with you. They are not reliable, especially when you are doing things like live real-time chat or trying to stream video. AOL especially has notoriously buggy software.

Most people are able to get on here perfectly fine every time without having to do anything. There are 87 people right now in the chat as I type this.

The people that have a hard time getting in here have something wrong with their computers. Being how this is a sex-related site, I'd guess that most people here look at porn sites online. A lot of those sites can infect your computer with viruses, so some people's computers will get messed up.

Or people just have other issues on the computer, not doing updates, buggy programs running in the background, etc. All of which are out of our control.