There's no "angle" to the question. I'm just asking cuz I truly don't understand, and I just want to hear the responses... But I don't get how a supposedly "str8" guy can be interested and/or sexually aroused by another guy and still call themselves str8. It seems to me that's the definition of gay or bi is to be sexually aroused by the act with or thought of another guy's dick. I get the basic curiosity thing. I'd be curious to look once, just to find out. But once that curiosity was satisfied, that would be the end of it. Otherwise no str8 guy would even be on this site looking at other guys dicks. Truly...there's no value judgement here. People can and should do whatever they want. I simply want to understand.

You are assuming the focus of the sexual interest.

Oftentimes it is not the other man, but rather the str8 porn/girls they are looking at. Some guys find it a powerful sexual enhancement to share that kind of bond with a buddy while you dog on the same bitch. (Pardon my crassness.)

This isn’t a new concept. An ancient Norse saying goes, "A true friend will share his mead, his spear and his woman."

If our ancestors were saying that nearly a thousand years ago, than you better believe that for many of us it neigh-on genetically programmed.



According to the American Psychiatric Association, the definition of sexual orientation is a little more complex. To quote, in part:

“Sexual orientation is different from sexual behavior because it refers to feelings and self-concept. Individuals may or may not express their sexual orientation in their behaviors.” (Full quote here.)

You will find that a lot of men don’t see masturbation as a sex act. They are not romantically attracted to their buddy. They are sharing something uniquely male that we all enjoy, and, frankly, is just a lot more fun when shared. It is easier to find another guy to share it with than a girl. So, many do, and have no issue or question about the nature of their sexual orientation.

That is the distinction I have personally observed being made time and again.



Perhaps for you. But clearly that isn’t the maxim for all.



Honestly? I don’t know. Maybe some men see the sexually stimulated penis of another man and take on a vicarious sexual thrill themselves. Lord knows there is a heck of a lot of horny dick in str8 porn for that very reason. It does not mean the str8 men watching it are any less str8.

Maybe those who’ve realized this vicarious thrill for what it is have dropped the pretence of needing a woman in the picture all the time to simply enjoy it. If anything, I think this signifies a far greater degree of maturity and understanding of their heterosexual orientation.

That said, perhaps others are what Kinsey would have called a 1 or 2 on his famous scale of sexual orientation. (0 = totally str8 while 6=totally gay.) On this scale, a 1 would be a str8 man who, nonetheless, has the capacity to rarely become sexually stimulated by another male but typically in a non-romantic sense. The further you go toward 6, the greater the ability to feel romantic attraction and sexual desire, until you are as twirly as a party dress.

In the end, I don’t really think it matters. If a man self-identifies as heterosexual, than I am not one to question or argue it. To me, doing so would be just as bad as all the ultra-religious types that assert they know what being ‘gay’ is better than gay people do.

So if you’re str8 and you like jackin’ dick with a buddy, go for it. That’s all I have to say.

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Im str8, but get turned on when i know people are watching, and to be honest, its a lot easier to find guys to cam with instead of girls

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Who really cares?! I would say I'm straight, because I've only ever shagged girls. I like wankin with guys and seein the odd cock or too. That might make me bi instead but I tend not to put labels on things. I just like sex! And surely that's all that really matters!

BudB8, that was a beautiful response, thank you.

Yea, who the hell cares? gets my dick hard, a-okay by me.

Some really are straight that will get off with another guy, but not many.

Not trying to be an ass but it's true.

If you are romantically attracted to the same sex, then to me, that defines gay/bi. For example, if you get a giddy when you hold another guys hand, or when they say "Hi" to you....then you are romantically attracted.

If you are like me, you just want to cum. I don't care if it's a man or a woman. When I'm with a guy, I do enjoy the "taboo" of it. I enjoy sucking his cock and swallowing his load because it makes my own orgasm more intense. Just the thought of sucking a hard cock and how "dirty" it is make me incredibly horny. One I cum, I have no more interest. I don't want to cuddle or have pillow talk.

I simply enjoy sex. All kinds of sex. Putting limits on myself seems silly to me.

First, let me second Ben's compliment to BudB8's reply. Very thorough, and accurate.

For my own answer, as I frequently say, I find that the simple terms "straight," "bi" and "gay" don't adequately reflect the complexity of human sexuality. Taking myself for example, although I can appreciate a good looking body of either gender, and enjoyed some experimentation with my roommate in college, using those three labels only, I still consider myself "straight" as my interest in a sustained, committed relationship is with women only (specifically, my wife).

Personally, I find that the Kinsey scale more accurately reflects the combinations of human sexuality than three simple labels. On that Kinsey scale, I'd put myself at about a 1 (or, more realistically, a 1.5).

GREAT response Budb8-and this is is a good question -I look at chattn -jackn n stuff with another str8 dude as just a sexual energy thing. Honestly -if the Internet and chats didn't exist -I'd prob NEVER have those types of conversations with another guy. I've shot sum amazing loads chattn with other guys and It's not like I'm gonna go out n jump some guys bones but -its way hot to try this stuff out in a safe anonymous place. Plus It's hot having another buddy to relate to during a "dry spell". JACK ON dudes




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Great responses BudB8 and tent-n-boxers25! Totally agree!

I don't think anyone's going to do better than BudB8's answer and it's probably for the best it's at the top.

I can only offer up my own perspective.

My experiences chatting, camming, mic and in real life consist of one thing besides myself... A bud who only wants to fuck pussy, likes pussy porn and is open to sharing that pussy with another woman, another man or a group. The bud, like me, also wants nothing beyond that. If it's just him and I then it's about watching and talking about porn while doing what we do alone-- jerking our own dick to porn-- but together. If it's a group sex experience he won't want to do anything outside of some fleeting contact-- dp/double bj-- during fucking the woman.

It's about being open with nudity, jerking off and our sexual interests. Actually, that's not true. It's not just about being open because there are things I'm not open to. It's about sharing similar sexual interests while owning up to what we do alone (jerking) and being who we are naturally (hence the nudity).

I like group sex (in porn and life). I'm open to buds into mfm, gangbangs, les, orgy. I'm not interested in male on male kissing, oral, jerking or fucking. Not me doing it to him. Not him doing it to me. Not in porno. Does this make me bi?

Forgetting my own specifics, how many guys, especially today, get hard and cum to porn with at least one cock in it? Does this make them bi? Forget all that "I imagine it's mine," or "I look at everything else around the cock," BS. It's not a virtual reality simulator. It's a video of another man fucking a girl.

Sure, some guy out there might not ever watch porn or only watch solo-female or les porn. And sure, I guess he could say "Ew, you're gay 'cause you look at cock." But that's an uptight, prudish, close minded, know-it-all and, frankly, dick thing to say.

I'm also not confused. My specifics in life and on this site are non-negotiable. I pretty much go out of my way to establish whether we're similar immediately upon chatting w/ someone. I've found that any time I'm chatting with someone who's not similar to me then nobody ends up getting what they want.

I mean, what's the least gay/bi act 2 men can do that would define it as bi? Be hard and naked together? Then I'm bi. Touching each other? Then I'm not. Oral? Then I'm definitely not.

I'm not fully clear on the Kinsey scale but my interests consist of sharing a woman and doing what we do alone (jerking our own dick to porn) but together. What does that make me? A 2.5 out of 6? But, forget Kinsey... is my interest bi? Bi-ish? Maybe. Straight-ish? Sure. The way I see it, I'd be a huge disappointment to some bi or gay guy looking for a good time. Ha.

I don't want to jerk, suck, fuck, date, or marry a man. I do want to enjoy jerking myself, porno and women together. What does that make me?

Thoughts? Original poster, have any thoughts on the responses so far?

Interesting. Totally gay here, but had rather jerk off with straight guys online, with no expectations of more than jerking together.