At one time , my wife and I , had a play set of handcuffs . And she used to cuff my hands , behind my back . I would then lay down on the bed , while she would jerk and suck my cock . It was very hot for me , not being in control .

Same here, wife liked to tie me up and have her way with me. Sometimes only her & sometimes with a friend of hers. She has brought other women or men into our bed while i was tied up.

that sounds really hot, maybe i need to trade mine in for another lol

That has GOT to be hot, whether you like it done to you by a woman or a man. Letting her take control and make you wait to cum has to be extra erotic too.