When planning on having a cyber or cam session with someone, does it ever seem important to clarify before hand how long it takes you to cum? For example, if it's your first time with someone, and you expect it to maybe take 10-20 minutes of interacting, do you think they should be told that it always takes you 2 hours to cum? I mean not everyone can always be expected to put in that kinda time right? Especially if it's your first time together and they have no idea how long you take....Thoughts??

Cumming is an extra part for me. I don't let myself cum every time I masturbate. So, I never know if I'm going to let myself cum or not. I just enjoy the session as long as I can and see how things go.

I agree with Carlo. It can take more hours sometimes of edging. I don't always have that much time! Playing with the dick and balls is great fun too.

Whenever I have a cam session, it usually means I've been edging for hours and am nearing the end.. I tell the other person this in order to not disapoint, doesn't bother me if they don't want to or can't cum that quick!

I also agree with the other fellas I some times to hold off for a bit, and sometimes I can stroke for hours and not cum at all. holding off can make a big stream of cum the next time I cum.

Yes it does! I amaze myself at the amount of cum.

I personally think it's kinda nice (mainly for first time cyber sessions) to have some discussion of time expectations. I think this is an easy way to eliminate disappointments.

I think it all depends. I can cum in 5 minutes. But, prefer to hold out and keep the good feelings on an edge. Sometimes I can keep that up for days. Usually a week is my limit before the balls start to ache too much.

Never thought about agreeing up front about how long we want to "fool around." Maybe that is a good idea. I'll have to try that next time we cyber. Thanks for the idea.

I can make it last as long as one wants or I can make it pretty quick. All the person has to do is say the word. Although, I have been in situations that have turned me on so much that I don't have that kind of control.

I think it is worth telling the other person how long it takes for you to cum. Too long may be boring and too quick may be disappointing. By being up front, you may be able to tailor the session so that everyone is happy.

Oddly enough- on my own or with my husband it takes me no time at all to come, most of the time. I reach orgasm quickly. But on-line, especially when I am on a microphone sharing hot chat, it takes me much longer. I have to really let loose mentally to be able to get there decently quick. As much as I LOVE to listen, when I am also on the mic- I get a bit of a mental block, and it's harder for me to get there!

Oh- I did not answer it all... I usually ask up front honestly if it is a for sure masturbation chat. I can't come unless he does because his orgasm is what makes me want to come! If I have a half hour to "play," I need to know if it is at least a possibility. But since most of my chat sessions begin as "friendl" and grows from there, it is not a big issue.

hmmm just enjoy the moments

Maybe thats why I dont have any interest in cybersex or camsex. When I masturbate, I prefer to go for a long time, really build up a powerful orgasm. Having to keep typing to someone is distracting.

During sex, I can't last nearly as long as I do by myself, but the orgasms are always as powerful, if not more so.

SecretSecret what an interesting idea. I have never worried about anyone taking too long to cum but more about those that want to hurry. When I cyber I have to allow a minimum of 45 minutes. It's not for me but for my partner on the other end of the cyber. I want him to feel better than if i was there with him in the flesh and blood. So far it seems to work although I have done a few quickies with some special friends.

30 seconds is good !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!