Any one have this prob?

Yes, that's happened to me now and again. I think many men like the idea and when they're horny they really want to try wanking with another man but as soon as they make an appointment and they don't happen to be horny their fears take over (maybe I'm gay, what would my wife/friends say etc.) and they don't show. I've even done it once or twice myself just cos I was too nervous to meet a man I didn't know. What I usually do now is meet first for a beer or coffee then you can check each other out and when it comes to wanking together you don't have as many inhibitions.

Yes...many MANY times.
I always suggest a public meet for coffee...beer... to give us a chance to get to know each other and give the guy a chance to relax while with me.
Usually two or three meet ups are needed to go the next step for first timers.
But...just getting them to show the first time is the biggest hurdle.

i have never done it mainly because i think jerking is all i would want to do and they might want to do more. I could handle jerking each other but that is as far as i could go.

I do understand that and just as I would with anyone...male or female...I fully respect their limits.
As I said in my earlier post...I always meet up
..chat...get to know the other person...set boundaries.
Most of the guys I've been with we only jacked and maybe frotted with.
I'm definitely not into anal play and have never sucked a guy unless he's asked.

Also with this is in today's society nothing seems private. The guy can record you with a phone or hidden camera. This is my concern with meet ups. I had a guy jerk me off once but the meeting was by chance and he had no way to set up anything before hand so I went for it.

I'm starting to look for a guy to jack with, hopefully I dont encounter much of this. Some is to be expected, the fantasy turning into reality can freak some people out

I always like to meet up with a guy in a public place and make sure that he's cool with j/o only, because I'm really unlikely to move beyond that point on the first meetup. Even if a guy is willing to restrict himself to j/o, if he really wants a lot more from the situation, he will end up disappointed and it will probably be the last time for us. If the guy is on my wave length then I don't worry about the privacy issue. I do enough camming that I might already be out there on the internet somewhere, and anyone who is looking on sites where jackoff videos are posted is probably a masturbator himself.

I have never been a "no-show" but, have been stood up a few times. It is a numbers game. If you do not get discouraged, you will finally connect.

I always meet in public for coffee to check each other out, and talk about what we like, etc.

Very common problem. I think the problem is people being horny and in the moment and then once they cum they don't wanna do it and disappear.

My biggest problem is getting the time to do, but also finding someone I can trust. I don't understand what the problem is in chatting and getting to know each other a little first, especially if you're a celeb/porn wanker. Get to know each others tastes etc and then it can be a lot better. Having a coffee/beer in person too before the meet is also a good idea as it helps break the ice, but so many won't commit to that idea.