hey 23 year old straight but curious about mutual jerking... think i should try it with a random bud from clist or a friend?? i dont want to mess up a friendship with jerking so im really considering a bud off of craigslist.. i would like to hear stories or experiences

it takes through a while to sift through the people playing games and there will be a few people that do not understand that you are only looking for a jo bud and might try to do more when you are together. try to clear that confusion up ahead of time and be specific with your wants and needs.

good luck

I've been putting ads on CL... I agree with tampauncut. Make it clear what you want and what your limits are up front, and then repeat them in your initial contact email (it seems like a lot of responders don't read the whole ad). I have not had any luck closing a deal yet, seems like everyone real on CL wants the other guy to host, I have to stay on the DL so no way that I can. It also seems like everyone wants an instant meetup, while I am more looking to set up a play date.

I have found recently that I get a lot more sincere people responding to a Looking For JO Buddy ad when I post in "Men Seeking Men" than when I post in "Casual Encounters".

I'd be hesitant to risk it with a friend. At the most, maybe bring it up once as a 'joke', and and if their reaction is anything other than totally wanting to do it, I'd find someone else.

I've met with a guy on CL, and it was a good time. We were up front about just wanting to get naked and edge to some porn for a while and maybe stroke each other, and that's what we did. Who knows, maybe you'll end up good friends afterward.

It does crack me up seeing some of the ads on CL, though. Like the ones where a guy is like "my front door is open, it's dark inside, and I'm naked on my bed with my ass in the air. Come get it!". Doesn't get more sketchy than that!

yeah i've met with a guy from CL before it was fun and we still meet every now and then. just make sure to be very specific about what you wanna do and get to know the other person before meeting up.

While it has been several years, all of my same-sex encounters started through Craigslist. I wouldn't risk approaching the subject with a friend unless you know they would be down for it. If they aren't you not only run the risk of damaging a friendship, but you also run the risk of him outing you to other friends.

For me, I always posted an ad myself instead of wasting time looking through and responding to other ads only to find out that we weren't really on the same page. By posting an ad yourself you can spell out exactly what you are looking for, what you look like, when you'd like to meet, and if you can host or not. Keep your ad relatively short, because as someone else already pointed out, a lot of people won't read the whole thing. Also include a pic because people are more likely to click an ad if it says there's a pic.

My last piece of advice is that once you've decided to meet up with someone to arrange to meet up in a public place first like a bar, coffee shop, or grocery store parking lot. Meeting in public before traveling to someone's house makes things a little bit more secure and allows and easy avenue to back out if one of you in uncomfortable.

i think its better to look for someone through a website like bateworld, craigslist is the shadiest of places to be quite honest. Although i met my first jacking buddy on there....but you may have to be patient, it takes time.