I am sure my wife knows, but does not like it, because it takes away from her, but as we got older sex is less craved in my wife and she does not like giving blow jobs ,can not stand the taste of pre cum or cum

Same with my wife. You're 34? I'm over 65 and it never changes.
So, do what you need to do.

I'm 46, married for 20 years. My cute wife both knows, and masturbates too. We love sharing fantasies, both have toys (dildos and fleshlights). She also leaves her dirty panties around for me to cum in.

[quote=sureshoot]I see quite a few husbands try to keep their JO from their wives like me to avoid the disproval of the wife. I envy the husbands whose wife is a part of their jacking off. The next time my catches me in the act I'll ask her if she wants to finish the job.[/quote
She has not caught me lately so I can not ask her to finish the job. On the other hand, her hand has gotten tried the last 2 times she was giving me a HJ and I had to finish the job. She did not seem interested in me jerking my cock because she just was busy kissing me instead of watching what I was doing.

I'm a 56y/o mwm...my wife absolutely knows. We talked about it before we were married and she admitted that she also masturbated. Occasionally we will watch each other as well. Nothing more erotic that a lady letting you watch her masturbate.