My marriage made a major turn to the better this weekend. My wife and I started fucking again after a six+ year layoff. We fucked most of the day Friday (Happy New Year) and again last night for a three hours. This morning she said "hands off"...she was too sore to get going again. I told her I wanted to have some "me time" before I took my morning shower to jack off and cum. I have never told my wife I was going to do a solo jack off. She just smiled at me and said "good idea...have fun" then left the bedroom and shut the door to give me some privacy. So while she was downstairs cooking breakfast, I was in our bedroom (not hiding in the bathroom) jacking as hard as I can and squirting cum all over myself. I cleaned up, took my shower, and went downstairs for breakfast. She just smiled at my while drinking her morning coffee...you know that "how was it" kind of smile...and I said "that was fun, I feel great".

Now the question is can I keep doing this? I loved it. Are any of you mature married guys jacking off by yourself in the comfort of your own bedroom with your wife's blessing? How has it affected your regular sex?

Happy New Year to all of my fellow masturbators.

Yes, for the past 22 years!
Wife is 100% menopausal and 100% supportive of my need for sexual release. She know all about the porn and my activities usually in this "computer room".

If she stumbles in while I am in mid stroke she just smiles, sometimes makes reference to being "busy", and retreats.

I make NO attempts to hide any of it.

Nope.....she doesn't have to know every friggin thing.....lol.....

Happy New Years

Does she know I jack off - YES, At the moment - NO

Yes, and it's a helluva a lot more fun when she helps!

Yes and she doesn't mind as it's usually to her pics & videos

Oh yes. From our very first "date" I have been masturbating in front of her.

After 27 some odd years, I still do it in front of her (and for her) In fact this morning she watched me use the Hitachi Magic Wand on myself. I love to masturbate for her, and luckily she like to watch.

It took me a few years into the marriage to get her to masturbate for me though, but now she does it freely.

Its' real nice to have an open masturbation relationship.

So, I'm curious -- what changed for you two where you went from no sex for 6 years to fucking like bunnies? Very nice that you are fucking again.

I say you try some masturbation while she is watching you. It's fun!

yes she does know. I told her I do

She most certainly does. We often joke about how much time I spend stroking and she fully supports it. She never discourages me from doing so and will sometimes encourage me to "watch more porn" if she thinks she's not putting out enough or to give me ideas to use with her. On the flip side, yesterday morning in bed I noticed when I woke up that she was rubbing her pussy. I reached over to help out and she pushed my hand away. Without speaking a word she just kept on working on her lips and clit until she had a nice little orgasm, right there. That's how we roll.

Intimacy always has to be her idea. The less she feels pressured, the more she will like and want it.


Yes, although in our case it's more because we travel for work. But we masturbate when we're horny at home too, and the other isn't in the mood to have intercourse or give oral to the other. Sometimes we join in or just watch or leave each other be.

Your best move would be to ask her.
- Do you want to know, so you can leave me be?
- Would you prefer not to know?
- Would you like to watch?
- Would you like to even tease me?

Ask her what she wants, and you can never go wrong at least if you have good communication in your marriage.

Most wives want:

1) Comfort, which includes the fact that you're never going to leave them

2) For their husbands to be pleasured, but not at their expense or irresponsibly (and especially not bringing home a STD)

To my wife, it's important to her that I never be with another woman. She doesn't mind lust, especially now that she understands I'm lusting for women who look like her or have her features (she knows I live for DDF Network). She also knows I'm not in my 20s any more, and don't have the impulse to have sex at least twice a day -- full, 45+ minute sex -- so her sex drive is now higher than mine.

She's masturbating more than me and using my face, appendages and cock, more than I'm using her mouth, tits and pussy. But eventually I suspect, into her 50s, she'll slow down too

But my wife does lets me fondle her all she wants when she's watching TV, literally lusting for her body, big tits, wide hips, any time I want. She likes to jack me, while I feel her up, and she even uses my Flashlight on me when I want to penetrate but she's sore or really doesn't want my helmet and girth in her.

It's really all about finding out what is compatible with her. I think you sound like you already have great communication with her. So instead of asking us, as if any relationship is "normal," definitely have this conversation with her. And let her know you won't judge her ... period, no matter what she says. You might disagree, but don't let that stop the communication, she needs to feel you will never judge her for her desires.

Some of my wife's are really odd, although I'm working on fulfilling them as she's becoming more and more open with me with her deepest lusts.

It must be great to have a relationship where your wife knows you regularly jack off and doesn't mind you doing it and using the internet to stimulate yourself.
My wife is so prudish I cant ever see her even discussing it so I have to conduct my masturbation in private and secretly.
I wish I could do it openly even if it were behind a closed door but with the knowledge that she knows what I am doing - that would make it more exciting.

Fuck no.

Very interesting post, profvolup.

In my case I had been single for quite a while before I met my wife. I can't remember how the conversation came up but very early in the relationship I explained that I loved to have sex with her and that I would do so anytime she wanted and that at any time she didn't I was used to taking care of myself.

As far as I can see it has worked out very well. Her horniness varies a lot with where she is in her cycle from being very horny and up for it multiple times a day to completely losing interest. By comparison I normally cum every day, more if I am especially turned on.

So, on any given day, if she's up for sex we'll do that, sometimes more than once. If she's not I'll wank and I don't have to hide what I am doing. I can use the bed which is where I find it most comfortable. Sometimes she will give me privacy, sometimes she will cuddle me while I do it, sometimes she'll help and sometimes it turns into sex.

I don't think this detracts from our sex life. We still have a sex-life and it is infinitely preferable to me bitching about her not putting out and her feeling under pressure.

Well..if she doesn't take care of it..she has no problem with me doing the work...after all..she does get what she wants..so why not ?? Take a look at her..http://jodelight.tumblr.com/

She might know, but i don't really care!