Hello,

First post. This is kind of a long story. Sorry about that.


Before marriage me and my wife used to have sex alot and try new different things. But after the marriage the sex slowly died down from her side. And now she is pregnant (3.5 months gone). And I have been surviving by masturbating for the last few months.

I know she is going through a phase of change and sex might not be on her mind. At least that is what I thought. Because when ever I try to eat her out or play with her tits she keeps pushing me away saying that she is feeling like she wants to throw up or has a headache.

She is a stay home wife and we both share the same computer. A few days ago I discovered that the porn files on my PC have been browsed. My wife seems to be the good girl that never watches porn, and she has always disliked me watching it too. So I set up a hidden screenshot recorder and found out that she watches porn when I am away at work.

So after a few days I set up a hidden cam and found out that she watches porn and masturbates while I am not home. Its not a hardcore masturbation... She puts on an underwear and rides a pillow.

Seeing this made me super turned on. But I also felt hurt from neglect at the same time because she was doing this to herself when she knows I have been deprived of sex for months.

Before we got married I was super fit and active. But after marriage and work I have been slacking off. But when the sex slowly started to disappear I started hitting the gym again and got myself back in shape. But this didnt change anything so I gave up on that too. Now that she is pregnant I have been doing most the work around the house as well. I provide, do work around the house, and all that but I dont get the one thing I expect the most from her. Penetration might be difficult for her because she is pregnant, but she wont even jerk me off or give me head....

When we used to have sex I would always take her to the edge before she stops me saying she feels like she's going to pee all over. I even used eat her out randomly for a long time just to make her happy even though she never pulled my dick out randomly and sucked it except when we have sex.

With her body changing, putting on weight and all that I am still attracted to her because this is the woman I fell in love with and married. But she is at home fucking a pillow (probably even now as I type this from work).... I have had the urge to stray but I am not that type of man. I have been very patient, but with this new situation I am lost for words.

I mean I enjoying seeing my wife secretly watching porn and masturbating.... I have been jerking off watching her getting off so many times now... Because that is all I can get from her.... But at the same time I feel lost and neglected...

As far as I know I have two options.

1) Ask her about this and tell her how I feel.
2) Let her have her little secret and keep jerking off to her masturbating.


If I do tell her I feel like she will cry and we might end up arguing and I will end up looking like an asshole.... And if I don't tell her I do not know how long this will go on for... I thought pregnancy makes women horny... And after the baby I doubt things will get any better... And I don't want to ruin her masturbating because I am sure she is enjoying her alone time as much as I enjoy spying on it.


Any helpful advise?

Maybe it's you? I've talked to allot of women and most of them complain that their husbands don't know how to please them. Try asking her if she is satisfied with the sex. Comunication is important for a good marriage.

She may not feel sexy if she's pregnant. My wife has gained a lot of weight over the years and is very uncomfortable about her body. She masturbates regularly, maybe 2 or 3 times a month, but we can go months and not have sex.

Women are very much emotional creatures. She needs you to love her and tell her how beautiful she is. Don't worry about the lack of sex. Jerk off to keep the balls drained bu take care of mama.

Thank you for the reply. I ended up confronting her about her watching porn. I did not truthfully say how I know this because then I end up looking like a perv. Instead I just said I saw the file history and found out. She said she was watching it coz a friend told her watching porn will help her get the sex drive back. After a long chat she said we can watch porn together and try stuff to see if she gets the drive back. But that never happened coz she was too shy.

But one day I joined her in the shower and she grabbed my penis and gave me a handjob. When I finished she asked me to come shower with her every night and she will 'clean' my penis for me. So now I at least get a handjob. Hopefully we can move things up slowly or after the kid we can still have some physical connection going.

Pregnancy plays hell with women, and in different ways. For the first one my wife went through spurts of being horny as hell and we'd have sex every day or two, then a week or two would go by with nothing. 2nd pregnancy has been pretty much nothing with the exception of about 3 weeks of horniness.
My advice would be to take the handjobs and be happy for them, and keep being supportive and communicate and be receptive to both of your needs. Things will slowly get back to a normal after you get settled in with the kid. In the meantime, there's plenty of porn at your fingertips.

Ever think she is shy or embarrassed to likecporn, fuck let it be. even if you enjoyed sex before marriage she may hv gained weight or doesn't like how she looks. I'm more concerned you take screen shots, install cams and confront..Dam...let her have privacy. Why don't you just lay in bed, caress her and when ur need to cum, stroke.

Mother of my sons turned into a sex maniac when she was about 4-5 months preggo. She couldn't get enough. As soon as she started nursing, kaboom. Done. Never had another fuck with her.

Play your cards just right and you might have something very special. Watching hot porn together and masturbating each other. I've always found that extremly hot. Mutual masturbating together is better than sex in my opinion.

I agree. Sex is about pleasing your partner. Masturbation is about pleasing yourself. I love jerking off while I watch my wife cum over and over from her vibrator.

I only confronted her that very first time. After that she been watching and I have just pretended like I do not know whats going in because I let her have her thing. I only record her to help me with my self pleasure.

Thank you for the advice. I do hope things get better with her

You are a lucky man

You didn't mention if you ever jerked off with the wife present either before or now that she is present...I would jerk off with her present, say in bed...might be good to lie and tell her you're fantasizing about her watching since she does look at porn...