(I'm sure this has been discussed here, but I can't find a thread to bump.)

This is addressed to open, self-acknowledged, bi-sexual men here... Those that live in a social climate where prejudice against you as bisexual is minimal, not really an issue... And, especially towards bisexual men who want to be fathers.

OK, you've broken up with your man or your woman, of what ever length of time... You have left a woman or she has left you, or you have left a man, or he has left you...

It still hurts... But it's been awhile... You are on the rebound... of course you are HORNY!... and you are feeling the need for someone to really relate with... not just to get some action... but to start anew.

Aside from jerking off...

Do you fantasize about men more now that it is over with your lady? Or do you fantasize about women more now that it is over with your man?

Do you hope to get back into something good with the same sex or with the opposite?

If your break-up had anything to do with your ex-partner not wanting to have and raise children, when you are certain that you do... what goes on in your mind for the direction you want to take... a male lover and adoption or a wife who desires to be a mother?

I'd like to hear your thoughts on these questions.

Onan

This is a good question. The replies should make for interesting reading. I am bi, still married and have grown children. So, my input would not be appropriate as I am not on the rebound. If I were, I would most likely be looking or a male with which to commiserate.

Same impulse for me right now, eddy. Got lots of buds for support... looking deeper.

I am bi and on the rebound. My girlfriend and I broke up over a year ago now and i still have not really gotten over it, to be honest.

as you can imagine after so long single i do get very horny and seek out partners for sex only as i'm not ready to find a real partner yet.

I have to admit i do seek out women rather than men unless women are not available then a man is the next best thing but a woman is preferred.

This may be down to my sexual make up, i prefer women over men as a sexual partner. As a direct answer to one of your questions i do masturbate / fantasize about men but only in an abstract way where as i masturbate over percific women.

As for children, when i find myself with a woman with whom children would be a good thing i would have them, but i would never have them in a gay/bi relationship.

hope that answers your questions if ask away

bartleby

hmmmm, interesting. When I've broken up with women, I've gone straight for men, at least while the wounds heal. Then another beautiful woman comes along....

Glad there were a few responses, sure hope for more, from all angles.

Should have also asked... For urban guys, where there are many options:

When feeling randy, but actually hoping to find someone to be involved with:

> Do you find yourself jacking off more?

> Hooking up with men for a anonymous quickie, as it is so available as an option?

or

> Putting yourself out there for no strings female fuck buddies?

Just asking, and hoping that gay and straight guys will stay out of this. The questions are directed to bisexual men only.

Peace, Onan

all of the above, depending on mood and opportunity.

If I'm feeling randy and am not in a relationship, it's much less complicated to be with a guy, for me at least.

I've always kept the bi part of my nature in the closet. Had a very sad break-up with a girl about 4 years ago. After getting over it, I began enjoying brief encounters with an occasional guy. Mostly JO and oral. It was fun to have the thrill without the danger of any emotional issues over a woman. Defensive measures, I suppose, but nevertheless fulfilling and hassle free. Still love to jack thinking back about them.

same here, finished with gf in Jan, got back into porno & the idea of wanking with mates was just a normal part of that.

This is an interesting discussion. I've been divorced about 2 years now after over 20 years of marriage. I've always been on the DL my entire marriage in regards to being Bi.

I already have children so no interest in having anymore kids. I find myself much more interested now in men only after being married for so long. Up to now, the main interest has just been for quick, no strings sex. But I'm finding myself more and more attracted to someone I work with who is currently having a tough time in his own marriage. He also lives out of state but comes into town once a month and we ended up spending alot of time together during his last visit, though only as friends. I just find him so attractive not only physically, but just because of the type of person he is. We had some very indepth conversations when he was here and I feel really close to him. Now that he left to go back home, I'm having really stong feelings of missing him and missing being together. I find myself thinking of him all the time and it's driving me crazy.

He will be back again in a few weeks and we still talk on the phone daily about work but I know my feelings are my own as I have no reason to believe he would be Bi or ever interested in anything more than our friendship. However I guess I'm just really missing having someone in my life and didn't even realize how lonely I am. I also seem to be more interested now in that person being a man rather than a woman. I currently have no desire to be in a relationship with another woman but seem to want a more close relationship with a man besides just friends or quick sex. I want intimacy again.