So, serious subject here. My wife of 20 years has come to me and said enough is enough. I don't give her the sex she needs and my half-the-time limp penis (high BP and Diabetes) isn't fulfilling her at all. She laid down an ultimatum that I either let he get a boyfriend or we divorce and she gets one anyway. She said that I am so close to being the perfect husband except never have been in this one area and that I have made her feel undesired and broken her soul. We have had many discussions over the years and I just never have been comfortable with sex although I love it very much. And I masturbate many times a week. Anyway, I am sure I will tell her that it's ok to get her BF but I don't want anything else to change. She said she didn't want anything else to change either, but I'm not sure this will be possible.

I'd say that you gotta invest in your health. My dad was a life-long diabetic, and yet he kept 3 wives sexually satisfied at the same time. There are many things you can do to improve your health, especially high BP. But if you can masturbate many times in a week, you got the potential to invest in being sexually functional and exceptional. You just gotta be willing to go outside the box, maybe possibly even taking a break from masturbating to focus on your health and incresing your sexual capacity. Tantra, herbal regimens, diet change, yoga... you got a lot of options and you should involve her in knowing what you are trying to do.

That's just it. I recently joined a gym and go 4 days every week. She did too. The main reason was for sexual health. I also changed my diet. I'm wondering where the ultimatum came from. I even starting getting semi-good morning wood. I mean I know we've talked about it and tried many things including no masturbation, but nothing worked out too greatly.

I have been trying for years to get my wife to take a hung lover. She says she would enjoy a big cock, but I can't get her to do it. Her sex drive is just not very high.

You're a lucky man! Let her have her lover and enjoy her telling you how he fucks her and makes her cum. If she lets you watch that's even better.

hi what you talking for your high blood pressuer i have 4 blood pressuer tablets and lately have been getting erections at the most embarrasing moments (bumping into a 15 year old school girl with a erection as you head to the doctors is embarsing)
by the way iam also diabetic

@SloStroker- yeah, that's a pure excitement part of it, becoming a cuck, but I need to be some part of it, and I don't know if she is wanting that at all. I may have to slip in some cuckoldry knowledge for her somehow.

@lancslad- I take Lisinopril currently, what are you taking that gives you the spontaneous good boners?

I think that's my wife's problem too. She thinks my cuckold kink is strange and she's not comfortable with it. She has told me if she ever did fuck another guy she wouldn't tell me because, in her words, "That's just weird".

I asked her if she's fucked another guy since we'd been married and she said, "I wouldn't tell you if I did". That pretty much tells me she's already stepped out on me. Might explain why she never touches me sexually. Nothing more than a peck on the lips or holding hands. About once every two or three months she will let me fuck her, but that's usually because she wants me to go down on her.

congrats! I can't remember the last time i had sex with my wife.

Ok, so.... update. She gave me until yesterday to make a decision and like I figured I told her I never wanted to be without her and that if that meant she found a boyfriend just for this one thing that I was fine with it. Well not fine but I would support her in whatever she needs. We had a fabulous intimate making of the love and then she started asking me how she was going to do this. We talked for hours and planned it all out for her to meet her first."candidate". This is great news as this means she does want me to be part of it. Not me being there, and that's ok, but me being a huge part of this part of her new life situation! But everything has moved so fast, from her giving me this ultimatum to her meeting the guy right now as I type this, so I'm stuck in our bathroom a bit sick over it. Excited but sick. Anyway I'll post updates as I really want to help anyone else that is or may find themselves in this situation.

You lucky dog you!

Looking forward to hear how this adventure works out for you two. My wife and I played around for a number of years (not exactly swingers, but definitely promiscuous). Our rule was that we only played with other people when we were both in the room. Only recently did I learn that although I was pretty good a following that rule, she was not. I currently trying to get her to open up and the things that she did without me. And yes, even after all of these years it's still a turn on to watch her eyes twinkle and she recalls this guy or that guy or whatever.

At least all of you HAVE a wife! I've been single my whole goddamn life. And I'm not happy about it. Never found anyone who woud make that committment to me. It's hard going through life knowing that no one has loved be enough to want to marry me.

Damn, Eric. I hate to hear that. I truely honestly hate the hell out of that for you. I never figured I'd marry, back in my younger days, but it just happened. I hope it happens for you too one day!

Also another update. We had codes for tonight. Different one-word codes for keeping her safe and me informed. I was supposed to text her an hour into the date, so I did. She texted me back. I'm ok. Which meant we are getting along good and talking it all out. An hour later I checked on her again. She texted back "doing great". This was code for "this is turning sexual". I replied "ok". Although I wasn't sure how ok I was upon hearing this. Then she texted me back "we are doing ok" and that they were talking. So I don't know if she slipped up and typed the "great" by mistake or if she came up with the "we are talking, is that ok", as a code that meant " yes I'm about to have sex are you sure you are ok? ". So I replied everyone was fine here at home. Which actually isn't 100% honest but I don't want to ruin anything for her. So I'm not gonna text her again for 3 hours. Just to make sure she's ok.

I was the "boyfriend" - the husband vetted me, and his wife and I got on very well - the sex was always great and sometimes he liked to watch. I never interfered in their lives, never made the relationship anything but sex and she did not want anything more. He was OK with it and she was satisfied. We are still "friends" but lead very separate lives.