I am 61, and have been straight my entire life. However, three or four years ago, I began having all sorts of thoughts about m2m sex play. As I got into the internet, I was amazed and excited to find there were all sorts of older, married guys with the same situation. What puzzles me is why it happens to so many older guys so late in life.


Has anyone seen any definitive studies or research into this? I overheard a lady comment in a bar a few years ago something about guys turning gay as they got old, but I gave it no thought at the time.

I am still very attracted to women, but now find that cocks and male asses catch my attention constantly.

Any comments from all you smart people out there?

It really is hard to explain. I believe I was always interested in men since I was a teenager but I do agree that since the internet and the easy access, I have been more bold with men. I believe this is a feeling that you may have had for sometime however it was hidden. I am 45 years old and if tempted would be with a man in a heart beat.

Thanks for the feedback....

I suppose it could have been suppressed inside me for many years, just based on the horrible stigma that "gay" has had in the past. I am certainly not out of the closet with my interests, but I definitely have become comfortable with myself regarding my m2m fantasies.

Surely there has been some scholarly examination of this...anyone else?

I am now 66 and although I had several experiences with other boys growing up, I eventually married and have had a wonderful life with my wife for 43 years. As has already been mentioned by EddieR, the advent of the Internet surely has opened my apparently natural inclinations to seek out other like minded men.

I have been a member of the Silver Daddies web site for over 2 yrs and last year met up with a fellow that I had met on-line. We had a great time together (he is divorced) and if I had not been caught by my wife (a long story - - she knows me too well after 43 yrs) I'm sure that there would have been a return engagement.

So now I have to be content to chat with like minded guys here in the JackInChat chat room.

(slowhand1947 - - please feel free to contact me directly to discuss this subject in more detail.)

I have to go along with the common thread in this thread. All 3 of you mentioned your curiousities being fed with the introduction of the internet. I did not have a pc till after I married. With the internet , I have been able to open up anonimously, and have found my desires changeing over the years. I am now turned on by many things I would never have DREAMED of. To this point I have kept my fantasies , fantasies. But as time goes by, I am becomeing more and more consumed by my curiousities. I do not want to blame my desires on the internet, but it has been an enabler. I am wondering if most older men who have leaned this way can link it to internet access.

I can't make any great claims to being smart, but what you described is quite like what happened to me. All through my youth I was terribly uneasy seeing another man's penis. But, I also knew I had a very strong oral fixation fetish. (although I didn't know what to call it then) These two items were obviously connected and made things a bit unpleasant for me at the time. I was a virgin until my nineteenth birthday and I went through most of my early sexual mis-education during the barbaric era when homosexuality was virtually synonymous with AIDS. The thought of touching another guy intimately made me gag; literally. As a result, I was borderline homophobic for most of my life. I was civil regarding homosexuals, but that was all until about 2 years ago. When the following occured, I'd already been doing a lot of earnest soul searching about my personal beliefs. I am in poor health and have a lot of time for what really smart people call "introspective thought". I just call it going through my baggage.
Obviously, I had lots of net porn time as well. One night I happened to come across a video clip of two nice looking twenty-something guys pleasuring together. I'd already read about circle jerks and was very into the concept. The thought of a group of guys all massaging their erections together was such a turn on for me. Additionally, the idea of masturbating to relieve stress had become popular on the net. This all impacted me quite well. Anyway, in the vid these guys were just masturbating together, talking and encouraging each other as if they did it all the time. It seemed the most natural thing in the world. As I let myself get used to this thought, I began stirring down below and became fully erect. I watched, my mouse hand ready to click it off, as they began giving each other oral sex. Again, it seemed a totally natural thing. I changed a lot in those few seconds. I wasn't watching two gay guys, I was watching two entities giving and receiving pleasure. Over the next few months, watching other vids and reading various things on line, I gradually accepted that I was bisexual. Deciding to indulge it took another month or two.
I'm lucky in that my wife has been fully supportive in this. I've been experimenting with various toys and have declared myself a full bisexual. No actual contact with a guy yet, but I enjoy vids of guys of all ages and skin colors. My apologies if I've gone too far with my answer, but it seemed like what you were asking.

Thanks to everyone for their input, and hopefully many more of us will add their thoughts and experiences. Good point above about the internet being an "enabler" to allow us to really open up to ourselves through anonymous surfing, chat, etc.

So far, I have not had the nerve to act on my curiosity, but I feel that I am getting ever closer to finally taking that step. I just hope that I can find a guy very similar to myself as to age, temperment, interests, etc., that is safe, sane, clean and discreet.

Those of us that are 55 or older come from a generation that usually did not experiment with our sexuality so we want to know how it feels. As a reault most of us straight guys are just curious and some are willing to try to see how it feels.

I am probably ready to try some m2m sex for real, but I'm not sure how best to go about it. I know I don't have any friends that have sent me any sort of positive vibe, so I can't take that chance and come across as gay. I hav chatted frequently with other guys bot here and other chat rooms, and some have sounded like they would be perfect buddies, only they are 2000 miles away! I have also had some unpleasant surprises doing this, so I am still gun shy with meeting on the internet. We don't have many adult stores/booths in this area, and the clubs and spas seem to be pretty pricey...plus there is no way my wife would believe I would join a gym....lol.

It sure would be nice if there were some sort of safe, "natural" way to meet other like-minded fellas.

I had some of my earliest sexual experiences with another boy, a neighbor. He first told me about jacking off, and we did it together for a couple of years, into high school. But the fear of getting caught (I think my parents suspected) caused me to not go there again for a long time. Now that I'm in my 60s, I think about that a lot - how much fun it was to stroke him off, and vice versa. We never sucked, but I wish now I had tried it. I'm happily married and wouldn't want to risk that, but the idea is sure tempting, and the internet has helped both relieve the tension and make me realize that there are many others like me out there. Doug - how did your wife react???

It's not just you 55+ guys,even though I was into masturbation since about age 10 the thought of sex with a guy never entered my mind. Even the odd "comparing" with friends was rare,private and only with the most trusted friend or 2. It wasn't til my mid 30's that being naked with another guy was even considered. The woman I was seeing at the time had several gay friends and suggested letting one of them give me a blowjob and still I refused. It wasn't til several months after we broke up that the following occured and woke up my curiosity. My usual friday afterwork routine was deposit pay, stop at porn shop,jack off a couple times then go home. Well one day I stopped,went in the booth and started strokin. My ex's suggestion kept popping in my head,so I don't know if the lock was broke or I subconsciously forgot, but a few minutes into it the door opened and a guy looked at me then my cock and walked in. Without saying a word he got down sucked me off wiped his chin then left.It was such a turn on and it got me wanting more.I went from jacking off there to finding a JO bud,then learning to give oral.The whole time and even now not one part of it felt unnatural.I think inside we all enjoy both sexes it's just a matter of seeing it and acting on it. I have to say once I got started,I wished I'd started sooner.

I've been bi since my teenage yrs. To me it's the best of both worlds to have sex with males and females. A lot of guys are curious but are afraid to act on their desires for one reason or another. I don't know of any "good" way to act on the desire to have sex with a guy for the first time. I know this isn't much help for you, but maybe go to the chat room and maybe talk to other people about it.

I had my first m2m sex in February of this year. After alot of thinking and looking at photos and videos of guys enjoying each other, I decided to give it a try. If it was not fun, then I would not do it again. WOW. There is nothing like grabbing another guys hard cock. After some mutual masturbation, I actually sucked. That was fabulous, ready to do it again. I met this guy on craigslist.org. We swapped several emails then talked on the phone before we met in person. Once I felt comfortable with the guy, that's when the cocks came out and cum started to fly. Give it one try and see what you think.

thanks to everyone for their posts...I hope to chat with each of you some time in the chatroom or yim. I will have a good amount of private time this weekend [wife will be out of town], so if anyone has the opportunity, maybe we can set something up. I really love it when I can arrange some cyber time in advance...the anticipation is always exciting!

Wandering back to the original theme, I would love to see if there has been any serious research into this. Wouldn't it be great to turn in to 60 Minutes some Sunday evening and see Andy Rooney sitting there, saying "...did you ever wonder why older guys start thinking about cocks?" LOL

SOLOinIL,

Where are you located? I am in Missouri, west of St. Louis