Its me again. Another question now. In the chat room, whats the proper etiquete for starting a converstion?
Do you just share particulars and then launch right into this is what I'm doing? Then do you move on to what you want to do to them or vice versa?
And most importantly is it simply you get me off and if your lucky you too?
I am asking because apperantly I am doing it wrong, haha.
I would really like to chat and about jacking or whatever.
But there are so many variables, the guys that put st8 at the beginning of their screen name. A hint they have certain expectations or limits? And how do you know what they are? Or how do you know what they want,expect or are comfortable with? What if your not comfortable, do you just ignore them. And is every conversation simply going to be about getting a nut?
Not meaning to sound whiney just curious on how to improve the experiance. Thanks

Greetings,
Like any conversation, you beginning with a greeting. From the reply you can begin to sense who they are. If they are wordy, that means they wish to talk. I always feel my way through the first few minutes. "st8" on this site means that they want to masturbate with you, probably have sex; just no kissing. (Kissing appears to be a gay-defining moment." Otherwise, I find the best conversations, if you wish to talk about masturbation, is with married, str8 guys because they have no one else to talk to about this except you, here on line. And, while this conversation develops, you both get to enjoy yourselves.

Great question, and good advice Mark. But, I've come to the conclusion that, however hard you try, there is simply no way to "read" some people. There will always be a surprise.

First of all, I never initiate a private chat. So, the guy has always contacted me first with some sort of greeting. I was recently in the first few minutes of a chat with a guy...about the same age as me....and with no clue about sexual orientation in his screen name. In such a case, I usually assume "str8" until I have some reason to think otherwise. We had exchanged a few comments about masturbation turnons. Then, I casually asked if he was stroking. He says something like "shit dude, I'm str8. Geeeze." And logs off...obviously pissed off.

The dude is in a masturbation chat room talking to a guy. And he proceeds to interpret a simple question (from a guy HE has contacted), about whether or not he is jacking, as a homosexual advance. Couldn't believe it.

So, my final read on him was that he is MUCH too str8 to even be talking with a guy in a sexually oriented chat room. He definitely needs to confine himself to girls, if he can find one.....LOL.

I often start off with a general message:
"Are there any other horny older bicurious guys here?"

and if there are... one usually sends back a private message.

And since us old guys get to the point right away, we're telling each other what to do in about two more sentences.

Have fun!!

Ling... who would sure like to be doing this for real, live, wet and messy!

I have to disagree, str8 means just that. I like to stroke to straight stuff while talking with another guy. No touching, etc etc. It always amazes me how when I say "str8"
in the beginning. It seems to always turn into "i want to stroke you, touch, blow etc etc."

Str8 means str8

Thanks for that definition. So when someone chats with you they'll know.
It seems there are guys like you but others use "str8" in a different meaning.A more maliable "open" meaning, wink wink.
But I understand your point and appreciate it. Thank you for answering my questions.

Interesting topic. I'm certainly no expert, but I have done my share of chatting and can share some insights.

When I chat, what I'm looking for is often different, but I'm usually accommodating to whoever would like to chat with me. Sometimes I just want to talk about jerking off -- experiences, styles, techniques, frequency. I get very turned on just by learning about what the other person likes to do and how they do it. Other times, if I'm especially horny, I like to get into more hard-core cybersex or role playing; this can be tedious with the wrong partner, if you find yourself playing along with scenarios you're not interested in or their chatting style doesn't jibe with yours. (I'm more narratively and descriptively inclined, so seeing "oh baby" and "fuck yeah" typed ten times successively doesn't interest me much.)

Sometimes I'll get into chats that hit the ground running: "Are you hard?" "Yes." "Let's do this." Other times, it begins more casually. Again, I don't mind either approach; it depends on your compatibility with the person you're chatting with.

"Str8" doesn't always mean straight -- not for everybody anyway. I am a gay man and have had several "str8" chatters initiate conversations that result in pretty hard-core sex talk -- sucking, fucking, and the like. But then there are those "str8" posters not interested in even chatting with someone gay. As soon as I disclose that I'm gay, a select few will sign off immediately. Others are open to chatting but nothing that involves touching. Many are more curious than they let on. It depends on who you're chatting with. I usually wait to feel someone out, and if I notice them putting out sexual overtones, I'll test the waters, if I'm interested in something more intense.

What it comes down to is that there are as many different ways to chat as there are people to chat with. I don't think there is a right or wrong way, per se. As far as I'm concerned, as long as you're polite, considerate, and respectful of boundaries, you'll do fine. Sometimes a conversation will hit an impasse (like if someone wants to phone or cam and the other just wants to chat online), but if so, you shouldn't take it personally. In general, everybody in the chatroom is there because they're horny, so initiate a conversation and see what happens.

-Hello
-How are you?
-ASL (then give yours)
-What are you into?
-gay bi str8?
-Size, cut uncut?

That's usually how I do it before I slip my cock out and jerk on cam

I'm more along these lines, always use str8 in my name in the chat. I'm pretty upfront about not being interested in sucking or sex w another guy. I'd jack a buddy off though.

It's kind of like fishing, throw a line out like "Looking to chat privately about such and such, IM me if interested". You'll get a few replies and based on what they have to say you can decide ifyou want to continue. I also use my sign in name which has my profile so those who know can see what I like, who I am etc so they don't waste their time; many times this doesn't work but that's ok, I'll let them know.

I'm new to all this! Would love to chat and (maybe) JO on camera to celebs, porn, stories. Where do I start?