A lot of people here, myself included, are in sexless relationships. For me, unenjoyable "duty sex" is probably available, but I hate that, so I masturbate.
Note: IF YOU WERE IN A SEXLESS RELATIONHSIP LIKE THIS, BUT NO LONGER ARE, I INVITE YOU TO RESPOND FROM THAT PERSPECTIVE
Im curious to know the situation people find themselves in , and what, if any agreements are in place between you?
ARE YOU RESPONDING ABOUT A CURRENT RELATIONSHIP OR PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP?
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What defines best the degree of Sexlessness?
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1. Very occasional sex, but completely insufficient for my needs.
2. Occasional Duty/Pity sex, if requested
3. No penetrative sex, but relief assistance, such as hand jobs given
4. No assistance given, but you masturbate openly, partner watches.
5. No sexual interaction of any kind
Other/Comments:
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What, if any, arrangements do you have with your partner?
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1. You have a sexual relationship with another individual(s) and They know.
2. You get transactional sexual relief, such as prostitutes or happy ending massage and they know
3. You have real world masturbation friends and they know
4. They know you play online, directly with other people, pay sites, etc.
5. They know you surf porn and masturbate
6. They dont know or wouldnt approve of your masturbation
Other/Comments:
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What is the degree of your partners knowledge/Understanding?
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1. They understand that this is a problem, you discussed this, and they give permission for what you are doing in the previous section
2. They have *hinted* that what you do is ok. You are given "Space" to do what you need.
3. Its a complete dont ask/ dont tell situation. Suspicions may exist but everything is done in secret
4. They are clueless as to how big a deal this is. You masturbate completely in secret
5. They know what you do, and openly dissaprove.
Other/Comments:
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How does this affect your relationship?
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1. We have made this work. While there is little or no sexual content to our relationship, we are happy together
2. Generally we are ok, but occasionally this leads tho tensions
3. We are just together. We don't really have a relationship
4. We are about to, or will split
5. I would like to split, but can't/ won't.
Other/Comments:
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Other information
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1. How long have you been in this relationship?
2. When is the last time you had sex with your partner?
3. When is the last time your partner assisted/witnessed your orgasm?
4. Are there any extenuating circumstances behind this problem? (Medical, infidelity, etc)
5. Was your sexual relationship good/great at any time?
6. Was there a trigger? (Example, post kids, menopause, etc)
Any other thoughts/questions you may have
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Masturbation... It's something that I like to do after I masturbate.
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What defines best the degree of Sexlessness?
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Married 30 years and no sex at all for last 12 years.
I have always preffered to masturbate than fuck.
While I enjoy eating pussy I prefer to wank myself to orgasm.
I had many affairs and one night stands in the past but I always come back to wanking...
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What, if any, arrangements do you have with your partner?
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What is the degree of your partners knowledge/Understanding?
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Married 30 years and no sex at all for last 12 years.
I have always preffered to masturbate than fuck.
While I enjoy eating pussy I prefer to wank myself to orgasm.
I had many affairs and one night stands in the past but I always come back to wanking...
wonderspooge said:
A lot of people here, myself included, are in sexless relationships. For me, unenjoyable "duty sex" is probably available, but I hate that, so I masturbate.
Im curious to know the situation people find themselves in , and what, if any agreements are in place between you?
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What defines best the degree of Sexlessness?
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1. Very occasional sex, but completely insufficient for my needs.
2. Occasional Duty/Pity sex, if requested
3. No penetrative sex, but relief assistance, such as hand jobs given
4. No assistance given, but you masturbate openly, partner watches.
5. No sexual interaction of any kind [X]
Other/Comments:
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What, if any, arrangements do you have with your partner?
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1. You have a sexual relationship with another individual(s) and They know.
2. You get transactional sexual relief, such as prostitutes or happy ending massage and they know
3. You have real world masturbation friends and they know
4. They know you play online, directly with other people, pay sites, etc.
5. They know you surf porn and masturbate [X]
6. They dont know or wouldnt approve of your masturbation
Other/Comments: She knows I masturbate a lot, knows about porn, but not that I Cam, that I am an exhibitionist, masturbate outside a lot,
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What is the degree of your partners knowledge/Understanding?
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1. They understand that this is a problem, you discussed this, and they give permission for what you are doing in the previous section
2. They have *hinted* that what you do is ok. You are given "Space" to do what you need. [X]
3. Its a complete dont ask/ dont tell situation. Suspicions may exist but everything is done in secret [X]
4. They are clueless as to how big a deal this is. You masturbate completely in secret
5. They know what you do, and openly dissaprove.
Other/Comments: Im between these options. There have been hints, but not a frank conversation to completely flesh out what the rules of engagment might be. I believe that my, say, getting massages would be OK, but the illegality is what would concern her
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How does this affect your relationship?
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1. We have made this work. While there is little or no sexual content to our relationship, we are happy together [X]
2. Generally we are ok, but occasionally this leads tho tensions
3. We are just together. We don't really have a relationship
4. We are about to, or will split
5. I would like to split, but can't/ won't.
Other/Comments: Ill admit, Im not sure that this will sustain, at the very least, We need to get exact rules of engagement. We are about to become empty nesters, and we'r will need to figure ourselves out more.
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1. How long have you been in this relationship? 24 Years
2. When is the last time you had sex with your partner?
Perhaps 5 years ago
3. When is the last time your partner assisted/witnessed your orgasm?
Perhaps 2 years ago
4. Are there any extenuating circumstances behind this problem? (Medical, infidelity, etc)
There was a period of depression on her part
5. Was your sexual relationship good/great at any time?
It was OK, but we'r have always been completely mismatched from a sexual appetite point of view
6. Was there a trigger? (Example, post kids, menopause, etc)
After kids, she really lost interest, and I got a lot more out of great masturbation than mediocre sex
Any other thoughts/questions you may have
Im curious about this topic, would live to know people's situations. Writing this down has made me think
A lot of people here, myself included, are in sexless relationships. For me, unenjoyable "duty sex" is probably available, but I hate that, so I masturbate.
Im curious to know the situation people find themselves in , and what, if any agreements are in place between you?
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What defines best the degree of Sexlessness?
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1. Very occasional sex, but completely insufficient for my needs.
2. Occasional Duty/Pity sex, if requested
3. No penetrative sex, but relief assistance, such as hand jobs given
4. No assistance given, but you masturbate openly, partner watches.
5. No sexual interaction of any kind [X]
Other/Comments:
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What, if any, arrangements do you have with your partner?
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1. You have a sexual relationship with another individual(s) and They know.
2. You get transactional sexual relief, such as prostitutes or happy ending massage and they know
3. You have real world masturbation friends and they know
4. They know you play online, directly with other people, pay sites, etc.
5. They know you surf porn and masturbate [X]
6. They dont know or wouldnt approve of your masturbation
Other/Comments: She knows I masturbate a lot, knows about porn, but not that I Cam, that I am an exhibitionist, masturbate outside a lot,
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What is the degree of your partners knowledge/Understanding?
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1. They understand that this is a problem, you discussed this, and they give permission for what you are doing in the previous section
2. They have *hinted* that what you do is ok. You are given "Space" to do what you need. [X]
3. Its a complete dont ask/ dont tell situation. Suspicions may exist but everything is done in secret [X]
4. They are clueless as to how big a deal this is. You masturbate completely in secret
5. They know what you do, and openly dissaprove.
Other/Comments: Im between these options. There have been hints, but not a frank conversation to completely flesh out what the rules of engagment might be. I believe that my, say, getting massages would be OK, but the illegality is what would concern her
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How does this affect your relationship?
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1. We have made this work. While there is little or no sexual content to our relationship, we are happy together [X]
2. Generally we are ok, but occasionally this leads tho tensions
3. We are just together. We don't really have a relationship
4. We are about to, or will split
5. I would like to split, but can't/ won't.
Other/Comments: Ill admit, Im not sure that this will sustain, at the very least, We need to get exact rules of engagement. We are about to become empty nesters, and we'r will need to figure ourselves out more.
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Other information
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1. How long have you been in this relationship? 24 Years
2. When is the last time you had sex with your partner?
Perhaps 5 years ago
3. When is the last time your partner assisted/witnessed your orgasm?
Perhaps 2 years ago
4. Are there any extenuating circumstances behind this problem? (Medical, infidelity, etc)
There was a period of depression on her part
5. Was your sexual relationship good/great at any time?
It was OK, but we'r have always been completely mismatched from a sexual appetite point of view
6. Was there a trigger? (Example, post kids, menopause, etc)
After kids, she really lost interest, and I got a lot more out of great masturbation than mediocre sex
Any other thoughts/questions you may have
Im curious about this topic, would live to know people's situations. Writing this down has made me think
Masturbation... It's something that I like to do after I masturbate.
rodsmith
680 posts since 2006-02-02
59 year old heterosexual male from Orange County NY ny hudson valley New York
680 posts since 2006-02-02
59 year old heterosexual male from Orange County NY ny hudson valley New York
wonderspooge said:
A lot of people here, myself included, are in sexless relationships. For me, unenjoyable "duty sex" is probably available, but I hate that, so I masturbate.
Note: IF YOU WERE IN A SEXLESS RELATIONHSIP LIKE THIS, BUT NO LONGER ARE, I INVITE YOU TO RESPOND FROM THAT PERSPECTIVE
Im curious to know the situation people find themselves in , and what, if any agreements are in place between you?
ARE YOU RESPONDING ABOUT A CURRENT RELATIONSHIP OR PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP?
current
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What defines best the degree of Sexlessness?
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1. Very occasional sex, but completely insufficient for my needs.
2. Occasional Duty/Pity sex, if requested
3. No penetrative sex, but relief assistance, such as hand jobs given
4. No assistance given, but you masturbate openly, partner watches.
5. No sexual interaction of any kind
Other/Comments:
number 5
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What, if any, arrangements do you have with your partner?
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1. You have a sexual relationship with another individual(s) and They know.
2. You get transactional sexual relief, such as prostitutes or happy ending massage and they know
3. You have real world masturbation friends and they know
4. They know you play online, directly with other people, pay sites, etc.
5. They know you surf porn and masturbate
6. They dont know or wouldnt approve of your masturbation
Other/Comments:
number 6
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What is the degree of your partners knowledge/Understanding?
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1. They understand that this is a problem, you discussed this, and they give permission for what you are doing in the previous section
2. They have *hinted* that what you do is ok. You are given "Space" to do what you need.
3. Its a complete dont ask/ dont tell situation. Suspicions may exist but everything is done in secret
4. They are clueless as to how big a deal this is. You masturbate completely in secret
5. They know what you do, and openly dissaprove.
Other/Comments:
number 4
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How does this affect your relationship?
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1. We have made this work. While there is little or no sexual content to our relationship, we are happy together
2. Generally we are ok, but occasionally this leads tho tensions
3. We are just together. We don't really have a relationship
4. We are about to, or will split
5. I would like to split, but can't/ won't.
Other/Comments:
number 3
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Other information
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1. How long have you been in this relationship?
over ten years
2. When is the last time you had sex with your partner?
don't remember
3. When is the last time your partner assisted/witnessed your orgasm?
don't remember
4. Are there any extenuating circumstances behind this problem? (Medical, infidelity, etc)
She has to get me hard and she won't do it.
5. Was your sexual relationship good/great at any time?
yes, before and after kids
6. Was there a trigger? (Example, post kids, menopause, etc)
Any other thoughts/questions you may have
A lot of people here, myself included, are in sexless relationships. For me, unenjoyable "duty sex" is probably available, but I hate that, so I masturbate.
Note: IF YOU WERE IN A SEXLESS RELATIONHSIP LIKE THIS, BUT NO LONGER ARE, I INVITE YOU TO RESPOND FROM THAT PERSPECTIVE
Im curious to know the situation people find themselves in , and what, if any agreements are in place between you?
ARE YOU RESPONDING ABOUT A CURRENT RELATIONSHIP OR PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP?
current
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What defines best the degree of Sexlessness?
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1. Very occasional sex, but completely insufficient for my needs.
2. Occasional Duty/Pity sex, if requested
3. No penetrative sex, but relief assistance, such as hand jobs given
4. No assistance given, but you masturbate openly, partner watches.
5. No sexual interaction of any kind
Other/Comments:
number 5
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What, if any, arrangements do you have with your partner?
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1. You have a sexual relationship with another individual(s) and They know.
2. You get transactional sexual relief, such as prostitutes or happy ending massage and they know
3. You have real world masturbation friends and they know
4. They know you play online, directly with other people, pay sites, etc.
5. They know you surf porn and masturbate
6. They dont know or wouldnt approve of your masturbation
Other/Comments:
number 6
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What is the degree of your partners knowledge/Understanding?
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1. They understand that this is a problem, you discussed this, and they give permission for what you are doing in the previous section
2. They have *hinted* that what you do is ok. You are given "Space" to do what you need.
3. Its a complete dont ask/ dont tell situation. Suspicions may exist but everything is done in secret
4. They are clueless as to how big a deal this is. You masturbate completely in secret
5. They know what you do, and openly dissaprove.
Other/Comments:
number 4
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How does this affect your relationship?
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1. We have made this work. While there is little or no sexual content to our relationship, we are happy together
2. Generally we are ok, but occasionally this leads tho tensions
3. We are just together. We don't really have a relationship
4. We are about to, or will split
5. I would like to split, but can't/ won't.
Other/Comments:
number 3
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Other information
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1. How long have you been in this relationship?
over ten years
2. When is the last time you had sex with your partner?
don't remember
3. When is the last time your partner assisted/witnessed your orgasm?
don't remember
4. Are there any extenuating circumstances behind this problem? (Medical, infidelity, etc)
She has to get me hard and she won't do it.
5. Was your sexual relationship good/great at any time?
yes, before and after kids
6. Was there a trigger? (Example, post kids, menopause, etc)
Any other thoughts/questions you may have
I hope to hear from other guys in the same situation. I wish we could start a local Sexless Anonymous so that all the men could become jo buddies.
I was in a sexless relationship but now we are having sex again, frequently. Didn't see any questions that address this situation.
No sex here for over 20 years out of a 40 year relationship. Masturbate all the time when alone.
Been together since 1994 great at the start nothing at all for the last 10 years at least
all of the above
str8 mwm
We are pasted sexless turning the corner to loveless. He is to stupid to see what he had.
TennKen said:
I was in a sexless relationship but now we are having sex again, frequently. Didn't see any questions that address this situation.
I was in a sexless relationship but now we are having sex again, frequently. Didn't see any questions that address this situation.
That's very interesting. Are you taking about the same partner? I.e you guys were sexless, then fixed it, or are you taking about 2 seperate relationships?
If the first, would love to hear your story. How did you get back to having sex?
Masturbation... It's something that I like to do after I masturbate.
What defines best the degree of Sexlessness?
5. No sexual interaction of any kind
What, if any, arrangements do you
5. They know you surf porn and masturbatehave with your partner?
What is the degree of your partners knowledge/Understanding?
3. Its a complete dont ask/ dont tell situation. Suspicions may exist but everything is done in secret
How does this affect your relationship?
2. Generally we are ok, but occasionally this leads tho tensions
1. How long have you been in this relationship? 35 years
2. When is the last time you had sex with your partner? at least 10 years ago
3. When is the last time your partner assisted/witnessed your orgasm? at least 10 years ago
4. Are there any extenuating circumstances behind this problem? No
5. Was your sexual relationship good/great at any time? No
6. Was there a trigger? No
5. No sexual interaction of any kind
What, if any, arrangements do you
5. They know you surf porn and masturbatehave with your partner?
What is the degree of your partners knowledge/Understanding?
3. Its a complete dont ask/ dont tell situation. Suspicions may exist but everything is done in secret
How does this affect your relationship?
2. Generally we are ok, but occasionally this leads tho tensions
1. How long have you been in this relationship? 35 years
2. When is the last time you had sex with your partner? at least 10 years ago
3. When is the last time your partner assisted/witnessed your orgasm? at least 10 years ago
4. Are there any extenuating circumstances behind this problem? No
5. Was your sexual relationship good/great at any time? No
6. Was there a trigger? No
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ARE YOU RESPONDING ABOUT A CURRENT RELATIONSHIP OR PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP? Current relationship
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What defines best the degree of Sexlessness?
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1. Very occasional sex, but completely insufficient for my needs. [x]
2. Occasional Duty/Pity sex, if requested
3. No penetrative sex, but relief assistance, such as hand jobs given
4. No assistance given, but you masturbate openly, partner watches.
5. No sexual interaction of any kind
Other/Comments:
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What, if any, arrangements do you have with your partner?
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1. You have a sexual relationship with another individual(s) and They know.
2. You get transactional sexual relief, such as prostitutes or happy ending massage and they know
3. You have real world masturbation friends and they know
4. They know you play online, directly with other people, pay sites, etc.
5. They know you surf porn and masturbate [x]
6. They dont know or wouldnt approve of your masturbation
Other/Comments:
5 probably closest, but realistically she doesn't know that I need more, and have used both prostitutes and affairs to get some satisfaction.
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What is the degree of your partners knowledge/Understanding?
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1. They understand that this is a problem, you discussed this, and they give permission for what you are doing in the previous section
2. They have *hinted* that what you do is ok. You are given "Space" to do what you need.
3. Its a complete dont ask/ dont tell situation. Suspicions may exist but everything is done in secret [x]
4. They are clueless as to how big a deal this is. You masturbate completely in secret
5. They know what you do, and openly dissaprove.
Other/Comments:
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How does this affect your relationship?
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1. We have made this work. While there is little or no sexual content to our relationship, we are happy together [x]
2. Generally we are ok, but occasionally this leads tho tensions
3. We are just together. We don't really have a relationship
4. We are about to, or will split
5. I would like to split, but can't/ won't.
Other/Comments:
When we do have sex, it's fucking great. But it's really only 3 or 4 times a year.
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Other information
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1. How long have you been in this relationship? 20 years
2. When is the last time you had sex with your partner? 10 days ago (first time this year)
3. When is the last time your partner assisted/witnessed your orgasm?
4. Are there any extenuating circumstances behind this problem? (Medical, infidelity, etc) nope
5. Was your sexual relationship good/great at any time? it was fine at the start, but never super frequent
6. Was there a trigger? (Example, post kids, menopause, etc) kids, work, and the passage of time
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What defines best the degree of Sexlessness?
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1. Very occasional sex, but completely insufficient for my needs. [x]
2. Occasional Duty/Pity sex, if requested
3. No penetrative sex, but relief assistance, such as hand jobs given
4. No assistance given, but you masturbate openly, partner watches.
5. No sexual interaction of any kind
Other/Comments:
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What, if any, arrangements do you have with your partner?
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1. You have a sexual relationship with another individual(s) and They know.
2. You get transactional sexual relief, such as prostitutes or happy ending massage and they know
3. You have real world masturbation friends and they know
4. They know you play online, directly with other people, pay sites, etc.
5. They know you surf porn and masturbate [x]
6. They dont know or wouldnt approve of your masturbation
Other/Comments:
5 probably closest, but realistically she doesn't know that I need more, and have used both prostitutes and affairs to get some satisfaction.
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What is the degree of your partners knowledge/Understanding?
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1. They understand that this is a problem, you discussed this, and they give permission for what you are doing in the previous section
2. They have *hinted* that what you do is ok. You are given "Space" to do what you need.
3. Its a complete dont ask/ dont tell situation. Suspicions may exist but everything is done in secret [x]
4. They are clueless as to how big a deal this is. You masturbate completely in secret
5. They know what you do, and openly dissaprove.
Other/Comments:
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How does this affect your relationship?
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1. We have made this work. While there is little or no sexual content to our relationship, we are happy together [x]
2. Generally we are ok, but occasionally this leads tho tensions
3. We are just together. We don't really have a relationship
4. We are about to, or will split
5. I would like to split, but can't/ won't.
Other/Comments:
When we do have sex, it's fucking great. But it's really only 3 or 4 times a year.
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Other information
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1. How long have you been in this relationship? 20 years
2. When is the last time you had sex with your partner? 10 days ago (first time this year)
3. When is the last time your partner assisted/witnessed your orgasm?
4. Are there any extenuating circumstances behind this problem? (Medical, infidelity, etc) nope
5. Was your sexual relationship good/great at any time? it was fine at the start, but never super frequent
6. Was there a trigger? (Example, post kids, menopause, etc) kids, work, and the passage of time
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What defines best the degree of Sexlessness?
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2. Occasional Duty/Pity sex, if requested
Other/Comments:
I often don't get it even when requested. I have to guilt my wife into fucking me. It can take days or weeks.
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What, if any, arrangements do you have with your partner?
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5. They know you surf porn and masturbate
Other/Comments:
Wife knows I surf porn and masturbate, but she doesn't know I often cam and also meet up with others (mostly men) to play
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What is the degree of your partners knowledge/Understanding?
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1. They understand that this is a problem, you discussed this, and they give permission for what you are doing in the previous section
Other/Comments:
Wife completely admits she doesn't want sex and that she has no desire to do anything with anyone. She condones my masturbation, but not hooking up with others.
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How does this affect your relationship?
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3. We are just together. We don't really have a relationship
Other/Comments:
Wife has nothing to do with me in any capacity. I am just the worker bee who brings home the paycheck and pays for her lifestyle.
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Other information
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1. How long have you been in this relationship? 25 years
2. When is the last time you had sex with your partner? 3 weeks ago (rare!)
3. When is the last time your partner assisted/witnessed your orgasm? Yesterday, she was in bed while I masturbated
4. Are there any extenuating circumstances behind this problem? (Medical, infidelity, etc) No
5. Was your sexual relationship good/great at any time? Yes...first 5 years or so
6. Was there a trigger? (Example, post kids, menopause, etc) Got MUCH worse after kid
What defines best the degree of Sexlessness?
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2. Occasional Duty/Pity sex, if requested
Other/Comments:
I often don't get it even when requested. I have to guilt my wife into fucking me. It can take days or weeks.
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What, if any, arrangements do you have with your partner?
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5. They know you surf porn and masturbate
Other/Comments:
Wife knows I surf porn and masturbate, but she doesn't know I often cam and also meet up with others (mostly men) to play
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What is the degree of your partners knowledge/Understanding?
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1. They understand that this is a problem, you discussed this, and they give permission for what you are doing in the previous section
Other/Comments:
Wife completely admits she doesn't want sex and that she has no desire to do anything with anyone. She condones my masturbation, but not hooking up with others.
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How does this affect your relationship?
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3. We are just together. We don't really have a relationship
Other/Comments:
Wife has nothing to do with me in any capacity. I am just the worker bee who brings home the paycheck and pays for her lifestyle.
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Other information
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1. How long have you been in this relationship? 25 years
2. When is the last time you had sex with your partner? 3 weeks ago (rare!)
3. When is the last time your partner assisted/witnessed your orgasm? Yesterday, she was in bed while I masturbated
4. Are there any extenuating circumstances behind this problem? (Medical, infidelity, etc) No
5. Was your sexual relationship good/great at any time? Yes...first 5 years or so
6. Was there a trigger? (Example, post kids, menopause, etc) Got MUCH worse after kid
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wonderspooge said:
A lot of people here, myself included, are in sexless relationships. For me, unenjoyable "duty sex" is probably available, but I hate that, so I masturbate.
Note: IF YOU WERE IN A SEXLESS RELATIONHSIP LIKE THIS, BUT NO LONGER ARE, I INVITE YOU TO RESPOND FROM THAT PERSPECTIVE
Im curious to know the situation people find themselves in , and what, if any agreements are in place between you?
ARE YOU RESPONDING ABOUT A CURRENT RELATIONSHIP OR PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP? Current
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What defines best the degree of Sexlessness?
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1. Very occasional sex, but completely insufficient for my needs.
2. Occasional Duty/Pity sex, if requested. X
3. No penetrative sex, but relief assistance, such as hand jobs given X
4. No assistance given, but you masturbate openly, partner watches.
5. No sexual interaction of any kind
Other/Comments:
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What, if any, arrangements do you have with your partner?
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1. You have a sexual relationship with another individual(s) and They know.
2. You get transactional sexual relief, such as prostitutes or happy ending massage and they know
3. You have real world masturbation friends and they know
4. They know you play online, directly with other people, pay sites, etc.
5. They know you surf porn and masturbate X
6. They dont know or wouldnt approve of your masturbation
Other/Comments:
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What is the degree of your partners knowledge/Understanding?
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1. They understand that this is a problem, you discussed this, and they give permission for what you are doing in the previous section X
2. They have *hinted* that what you do is ok. You are given "Space" to do what you need. X
3. Its a complete dont ask/ dont tell situation. Suspicions may exist but everything is done in secret X
4. They are clueless as to how big a deal this is. You masturbate completely in secret
5. They know what you do, and openly dissaprove.
Other/Comments:
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How does this affect your relationship?
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1. We have made this work. While there is little or no sexual content to our relationship, we are happy together
2. Generally we are ok, but occasionally this leads tho tensions X
3. We are just together. We don't really have a relationship
4. We are about to, or will split
5. I would like to split, but can't/ won't.
Other/Comments:
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Other information
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1. How long have you been in this relationship? 51 years
2. When is the last time you had sex with your partner? About a week ago
3. When is the last time your partner assisted/witnessed your orgasm? About a week ago
4. Are there any extenuating circumstances behind this problem? (Medical, infidelity, etc)
5. Was your sexual relationship good/great at any time? Yes
6. Was there a trigger? (Example, post kids, menopause, etc) no
Any other thoughts/questions you may have
we have sex about 3 times a month which is me getting a BJ and me getting my wife off with a vibrating egg. I JO 2/3 times a week and she knows it. She even was too busy to have sex one month that she told me to take care of my problem 3 times. A lot of people here, myself included, are in sexless relationships. For me, unenjoyable "duty sex" is probably available, but I hate that, so I masturbate.
Note: IF YOU WERE IN A SEXLESS RELATIONHSIP LIKE THIS, BUT NO LONGER ARE, I INVITE YOU TO RESPOND FROM THAT PERSPECTIVE
Im curious to know the situation people find themselves in , and what, if any agreements are in place between you?
ARE YOU RESPONDING ABOUT A CURRENT RELATIONSHIP OR PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP? Current
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What defines best the degree of Sexlessness?
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1. Very occasional sex, but completely insufficient for my needs.
2. Occasional Duty/Pity sex, if requested. X
3. No penetrative sex, but relief assistance, such as hand jobs given X
4. No assistance given, but you masturbate openly, partner watches.
5. No sexual interaction of any kind
Other/Comments:
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What, if any, arrangements do you have with your partner?
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1. You have a sexual relationship with another individual(s) and They know.
2. You get transactional sexual relief, such as prostitutes or happy ending massage and they know
3. You have real world masturbation friends and they know
4. They know you play online, directly with other people, pay sites, etc.
5. They know you surf porn and masturbate X
6. They dont know or wouldnt approve of your masturbation
Other/Comments:
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What is the degree of your partners knowledge/Understanding?
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1. They understand that this is a problem, you discussed this, and they give permission for what you are doing in the previous section X
2. They have *hinted* that what you do is ok. You are given "Space" to do what you need. X
3. Its a complete dont ask/ dont tell situation. Suspicions may exist but everything is done in secret X
4. They are clueless as to how big a deal this is. You masturbate completely in secret
5. They know what you do, and openly dissaprove.
Other/Comments:
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How does this affect your relationship?
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1. We have made this work. While there is little or no sexual content to our relationship, we are happy together
2. Generally we are ok, but occasionally this leads tho tensions X
3. We are just together. We don't really have a relationship
4. We are about to, or will split
5. I would like to split, but can't/ won't.
Other/Comments:
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Other information
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1. How long have you been in this relationship? 51 years
2. When is the last time you had sex with your partner? About a week ago
3. When is the last time your partner assisted/witnessed your orgasm? About a week ago
4. Are there any extenuating circumstances behind this problem? (Medical, infidelity, etc)
5. Was your sexual relationship good/great at any time? Yes
6. Was there a trigger? (Example, post kids, menopause, etc) no
Any other thoughts/questions you may have
Love to JO to porn
ARE YOU RESPONDING ABOUT A CURRENT RELATIONSHIP OR PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP?
CURRENT
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What defines best the degree of Sexlessness?
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1. Very occasional sex, but completely insufficient for my needs.
2. Occasional Duty/Pity sex, if requested
3. No penetrative sex, but relief assistance, such as hand jobs given
4. No assistance given, but you masturbate openly, partner watches.
5. No sexual interaction of any kind XXX
Other/Comments:
NIL libido or interest since menopause, near 26 years
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What, if any, arrangements do you have with your partner?
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1. You have a sexual relationship with another individual(s) and They know.
2. You get transactional sexual relief, such as prostitutes or happy ending massage and they know
3. You have real world masturbation friends and they know
4. They know you play online, directly with other people, pay sites, etc.
5. They know you surf porn and masturbate XXX
6. They dont know or wouldnt approve of your masturbation
Other/Comments:
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What is the degree of your partners knowledge/Understanding?
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1. They understand that this is a problem, you discussed this, and they give permission for what you are doing in the previous section XXXX
2. They have *hinted* that what you do is ok. You are given "Space" to do what you need.
3. Its a complete dont ask/ dont tell situation. Suspicions may exist but everything is done in secret
4. They are clueless as to how big a deal this is. You masturbate completely in secret
5. They know what you do, and openly dissaprove.
Other/Comments:
We made a deal after menopause, no sex and it was OK to masturbate as often as needed
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How does this affect your relationship?
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1. We have made this work. While there is little or no sexual content to our relationship, we are happy together XXX
2. Generally we are ok, but occasionally this leads tho tensions
3. We are just together. We don't really have a relationship
4. We are about to, or will split
5. I would like to split, but can't/ won't.
Other/Comments:
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Other information
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1. How long have you been in this relationship? near 60 years
2. When is the last time you had sex with your partner?
Near 26 years
3. When is the last time your partner assisted/witnessed your orgasm?
She catches me often and I do not stop stroking. Sometimes watches out of curiosity
4. Are there any extenuating circumstances behind this problem? (Medical, infidelity, etc)
5. Was your sexual relationship good/great at any time?
Yes, VERY up to menopause.
6. Was there a trigger? (Example, post kids, menopause, etc)
Any other thoughts/questions you may have
Do not miss a fuck now and turning very slightly bi-curious. Very happy to keep pulling myself off until death.
CURRENT
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What defines best the degree of Sexlessness?
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1. Very occasional sex, but completely insufficient for my needs.
2. Occasional Duty/Pity sex, if requested
3. No penetrative sex, but relief assistance, such as hand jobs given
4. No assistance given, but you masturbate openly, partner watches.
5. No sexual interaction of any kind XXX
Other/Comments:
NIL libido or interest since menopause, near 26 years
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What, if any, arrangements do you have with your partner?
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1. You have a sexual relationship with another individual(s) and They know.
2. You get transactional sexual relief, such as prostitutes or happy ending massage and they know
3. You have real world masturbation friends and they know
4. They know you play online, directly with other people, pay sites, etc.
5. They know you surf porn and masturbate XXX
6. They dont know or wouldnt approve of your masturbation
Other/Comments:
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What is the degree of your partners knowledge/Understanding?
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1. They understand that this is a problem, you discussed this, and they give permission for what you are doing in the previous section XXXX
2. They have *hinted* that what you do is ok. You are given "Space" to do what you need.
3. Its a complete dont ask/ dont tell situation. Suspicions may exist but everything is done in secret
4. They are clueless as to how big a deal this is. You masturbate completely in secret
5. They know what you do, and openly dissaprove.
Other/Comments:
We made a deal after menopause, no sex and it was OK to masturbate as often as needed
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How does this affect your relationship?
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1. We have made this work. While there is little or no sexual content to our relationship, we are happy together XXX
2. Generally we are ok, but occasionally this leads tho tensions
3. We are just together. We don't really have a relationship
4. We are about to, or will split
5. I would like to split, but can't/ won't.
Other/Comments:
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Other information
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1. How long have you been in this relationship? near 60 years
2. When is the last time you had sex with your partner?
Near 26 years
3. When is the last time your partner assisted/witnessed your orgasm?
She catches me often and I do not stop stroking. Sometimes watches out of curiosity
4. Are there any extenuating circumstances behind this problem? (Medical, infidelity, etc)
5. Was your sexual relationship good/great at any time?
Yes, VERY up to menopause.
6. Was there a trigger? (Example, post kids, menopause, etc)
Any other thoughts/questions you may have
Do not miss a fuck now and turning very slightly bi-curious. Very happy to keep pulling myself off until death.
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