How do you go about bringing up the subject of masturbation? I have a couple of friends my age I wouldn't mind talking with and maybe doing more.

I've never started a conversation that way but in my 20s I had a co-worker who would make passing references to masturbation. One night we were driving home together, and he just randomly says, "My penis hurts." After we laughed about that, he sort of blushed, and then made vague references to what it feels like to wake up with a boner. We both were laughing, but we also both got really hard, to the point where we each had a hand in our lap to hide our boners.

We ended up talking in depth about things that felt good, like ball massaging and nipple play. Somehow, amazingly, we didn't end up jacking off together! But it was a good 45-minute car ride talking about our cocks and masturbation. (I beat off hard when I got home, four times!)

Funny enough I talk more about masturbation with my female friends than my male friends. It's not that common, but the subject arises a little now and then and they can casually mention they bought a new vibrator or stuff like that.

I am curious but would not even think of mentioning it to a guy. If u 2 watch some porn that might get the conversation going in that direction.

It has always been difficult for me to talk to guys about this subject. I do find it easier to talk to women about it. My wife and I often discuss it. Usually she tells me to do it and leave her alone. If guys openly discussed jerking off, it probably would be easier to find a JO buddy which I really wish I had.

It is the same for me. I think women expect guys to be wanking a lot and it is normal. Guys, however, think admitting to being a frequent masturbator is a weakness and displays a lack of sexual attraction to women.

I one admitted to a woman - she asked me- that I wanked at least three times a day. She didnt seem phased by it at all.

I'd probably only mention it in an off hand, jokey way..

in my experience when we were younger, masturbation was all we talked about. this lasted into my teens and early 20's.
then we started getting girlfriends and wifes and it became taboo. Like Wanker78 stated some sees it as a weakness when you are older.
my wank buddy from my teens and 20's can hardly look me in the eyes when we meet up. we never talk about those days. its like it never happened.
To try and bring up the topic now is impossible.

funny enough my wife and I can openly discuss my masturbation and she has no problem. in fact she is very supportive even though she does not even to pretend to understand this need in guys. married or otherwise. she accepts the fact that I do it, that our son does it and most other men in the world.

I'd like a friend where this sort of conversation was usual, leading masturbating together, enjoying porn and perv chats too. I can't see it happening ever with any of my existing friends though - be too awkward, risk of spoiling a friendship etc. I chat with men online about the idea, sometimes we are obviously looking for similar things - but then they usually live 2 hours drive away. But, I keep on trying, and you never know.

I agree, if you admit you masturbate, some other males will think you are weak and "don't get pussy" and the only way you can relieve yourself is to masturbate .

Nearly all males do it, but are embarrassed to admit it to other guys. Easier to admit to a woman I think.

I have had a couple of buddies that we talked about it. One guys wife quit having sex when they were about 50 and his had been doing it since, mid 60's now.

Last year I had a biopsy for prostate cancer ( which came back all clear)
At my checkup afterwards, without any prompting I started telling the doctor how I was surprised by how much blood was in my ejaculate the first time I cum after the biopsy and how it took 2 weeks of frequent wanking to get rid of the blood completely.
He was a fairly young doctor and seemed genuinely pleased with my being so open about masturbating. He made a joke about it being a good excuse for looking at porn.

I'm lucky that I met my best mate jamie 1st yr in high school (im 2 and we just "clicked" and could chat about anything including what/ when we wanked. Have met other lads who I can chat to about wanking with, but always start by making a joke of it with each other.

I think it's one of those things you just have to get at tangentially and gauge reaction. A passing joke is the tried and true method.

Theres definitely a subtle artform to it and unlike a great pair of nuts, it does not simply roll off the tongue. Ive been successful in the past but only on rare occasions. Just gotta feel out your quarry and if the vibes dont seem to be receptive just break off the chase.

for years with close buds and the now and again work colleague the topic of masturbation is something I"ve been comfortable with. All of my professional career has been in areas where sexuality and conversations of things related to sex are part of things we address and deal with on a regular basis. Jackin off is just one of them... totally comfortable about it in any setting where its appropriate.