No mouth contact and no vaginal penetration and no frottage (Penis clitoris rubbing involved) Will give you all my thought's after comment's.

Absolutely cheating.

If she doesn't know about it and it's not already clearly established that you may do such a thing without her knowing it, then yes, it's definitely cheating.

Well, just flip the scenario and see what you think. For instance, would you consider your wife being finger fucked by someone other than you "cheating"? And actually, just posing this question suggests that you probably know the "answer" already. The best I can offer is ... good luck.

If it's with another woman then yes - definitely. If it's from a male friend then I'd say it's debatable.
I've had a male friend for almost 4 years now. He and I get together every 3-4 weeks to jack and suck together. At first I felt like it was cheating but now it's more of "just to old guys getting together to pass the time".
Looking at other husbands in our circle of friends, some of them play golf together, some play cards and others play darts at the pub. I don't enjoy any of those things, but I do love wanking so I've convinced myself it's "okay".

I never asked my wife that question, but she did question my about a trip to a Korean massage and bath house that an other guy was talking about.

My wife said yes.

My wife would say yes.

Of course they are.

I agree 100%. Male bonding can take many different forms.

Easiest way to find out is to ask your wife.

In reality no one else's opinion matters.

This question always amuses me: "Is it cheating?"

The answer is: "What would your wife say?" If she says it is, then it is. And no amount of verbal gymnastics will change that.

This doesn't condemn anyone for doing so -- hell, we've all given into temptation at one time or another -- but it doesn't matter if WE think it isn't cheating.

If you have to ask, it probably is.

When I glanced at the above post I thought he was going to say "If she doesn't know about it, then it's not cheating" which is how I think a lot of guys look at it, lol.

Obviously it's cheating. It's still sex with another person.

I'd have to go with yes but..... that really never stopped me lol. Only ever had hand jobs from a few different guys. I have fucked a couple of prostitutes though and I'm pretty sure that was cheating too. My wife believes that looking at porn is cheating if excites you and she has very dim view of masturbation. So to her anything other than our boring old routine is cheating. Man I sure have cheated a lot with myself for sure