How do I get my wife to watch porn with me? What is the best type to ease them into it? She loves sex but I just want to spice things up a little bit. Any suggestions guys?

Ask her. Tell her you'd like her to watch with you.

If she says no, leave it be. Don't be "That Guy" and force her to do something she doesn't want to do.

Just need to work up my nerves I guess.

Good advice from Rod. If you and your wife don't already have conversations about sex, you might suggest that the two of you start having conversations about sex -- and mention the parts you've been enjoying.

Start with something a little more softcore. I also recommend movies with actresses that are not extremely endowed and bimbo-ish. Stick to natural-type women, so your wife doesn't feel body shamed. Further, she probably won't get turned on seeing a dude like Ron Jeremy doing the fucking. Turn it up a notch with a toy like a vibrating egg that you can rub up and down her leg to tease her while you watch the movie. That little distraction will dull any awkwardness she's feeling towards the movie.

Just tell her that you think it might be fun to watch together. The best thing you can do is LET HER PICK what you watch. You do not want to immediately jump into the deep end with "Tiny teen gangbanged by 72 BBCs while a midget clown jacks off in the background."

You may learn that she is into something or curious about something you may have never guessed

This, 100%

Absolutely. Tell her you are interested and this is something you want to do. Then let her take the lead in finding what content she wants to watch. Encourage her, support her, keep it light and fun, and let her know there are no wrong answers.

If it's something you really want to try, I'd suggest using this as a motivation to increase the fidelity of communication with your wife.

One thing I've found useful and can be a good starting point (even though I thought it was a bunch of hippy crap) is 'The 5 Love Languages'. Word of affirmation - Quality time - Acts of service - Gifts - Physical Touch.

Add those kinds of tools to the way you BOTH communicate (positive, consensual, reciprocal manipulation ) and life becomes so much, well not easier, but you'll spend more of your time together as allies against the world.

So maybe she won't jack you off to porn, but she'll give you a bj while you watch and think you're the best and you REALLY love her because she's a 'Acts of service' kind of lady and you get her a drink and a wet wipe afterwards.

Excellent advice in this thread. The key is open communication, take it slow and let her take the lead on choosing the porn. I did this once with a GF and we made a date out of it after she said that she though that it might be fun to do together. We went to an ABS with a really large porn selection, big variety and just had fun strolling the aisles while she just checked out the titles. I told her that she got to pick 6 titles, her call. That gave her control over the experience and having me with her as she roamed the porn aisles gave her a sense of security, took it from sleazy to naughty couples fun. She grabbed a variety of stuff, clearly she was experimenting and really just wanted to see if she liked different things. We just got naked in the bed and relaxed as she picked a DVD and threw it into the machine. Some she rejected after 10 mins as ""meh". Others she liked and we kind of had a running critics commentary, i.e. she found it mildly interesting. BTW, that commentary is good as it puts you guys on the same "porn team" you are sharing how you see things and what you each like and don't. Finally we hit a couple that got her going. Here it was good having an egg or a butterfly for her. As that really gets her wet have her get into doggy facing the screen and you mount her from behind and slowly fuck her at first, match the rhythm of the actors on screen. In my case her cumming like that watching and feeling it sealed the deal and porn was a part of our sex life whenever we wanted. Enjoy.

Great advice guys. Thanks for all the input.

The question I have is how many married guys have wives who know they watch porn at all, not to mention the vast quantity of porn that we watch. How to we broach the subject when she doesn't even know it's an issue in the first place?

Kind of like asking your wife if she wants to be a heroin addict with you when she doesn't know you've ever even sampled the drug.

After years of being married one day when I was traveling she texted and asked "what are you doing?" so I replied that I was watching porn on the internet. Her reply was "I knew it" and that she is ok with it because she wants me to be happy when I'm away too. That led to a few more conversations about our sexual pasts and even me admitting to her that I've sucked and jacked with guys before too.

Been with my wife for 41 years. On our 4th date without asking her brought her to a adult theater. there were a lot around in the 70's and 80's. She at first was a little shocked. I told her this is me and I am not going to change if she wanted to still date me get use to it. She got into it. We found a adult drive in about a hour from our apartment and went there a lot. Just tell her u like porn she might love it to my wife doses.