Never been caught just 'having a wank' ... both me and my wife know each other masturbates and this is fine.

She will often call me up to 'help' when she masturbates.

When she goes for a night out with her girl friends, I usually get into bed about 9pm and jack off to porn all night and send her pictures and videos (which she shares with her friends), often sending reaction pics and vids in return. Very hot - I usually edge for anything between 3 and 6 hours during these sessions. She then comes home and straight up to bed where I'm waiting with porn on the TV and she's horny as fuck from all the videos and fun with her friends. We have the BEST sex these nights. She's brought a friend back a couple of times too

Honestly I do not understand why anyone would be in a relationship where masturbation is something to "get caught" doing. As we were getting into a long term relationship we had discussions about just about every aspect of life. Masturbation is just a fact of life, everyone does it, even those who say they don't. It is insane to have the expectation that your partner will not masturbate and that "catching" them results in some existential crisis in the relationship.

If couple were open and honest with each other not only would things go much smoother, there would be less stress on both sides and likely more opportunities to expand your experiences together.

Couldn't agree more, my wife might be annoyed that I'd started without her...

Mine would be and was pissed. She thinks its cheating on her

Ah mate that sucks, sorry that you have to deal with that.

We caught each other all the time no big deal. I remember my parents were staying with us for a few weeks. We had a few to many the night before. I had a bad head-ach my wife was horny I left the room sat in the living room. I went back in our bedroom after the aspirin kicked in. She was cover under the sheets she jumped and smile I got on the bed pulled the covers back and she had our dildo in her with her small vibrator on her clit. I said you naughty girl. She said I need relieve. I ended up stroking my cock as I sucked her tits as she orgasm and I shot my load all over her thighs.

Mine was pissed as all get out, and didn't talk to me for 2 days! When she did speak to me it was how the fuck could you jack off, when all you have to is ask for sex! Now 30 years later I don't even get sex when I ask for it!

My wife has caught me several times. She gets pissed if I'm jerking off to porn.

My wife has never caught me jacking off but she does ask frequently to watch. I told her when we were dating that I was a chronic masturbator and she has no problem with it and is turned on by it. I do love jacking off for her while she watches, I'm not complaining!

She got on her knees and swallowed my load.

She wouldnt mind so much. She would either stay and help or watch. The only reason she would be disappointed is if I didnt include her. She would also probably say if you needed to get off why not just tell me. She doesnt care if I watch porn. She will often ask me what Im doing on my phone and I tell her looking at porn. She just shrugs it off like no youre not. Hell she doesnt tell me every time she masturbates. What I really need to do is catch her doing it.