How is calling bi men essentially in denial gay men "respect"? besides that, the reason they probably contact you is that more often than not, men who claim to be straight and want to do sexual acts with other men are (unsurprisingly) not straight. They probably think you're DL and not doing it out of like, malice or whatever.

Why do straight men not respect gay men and flaunt their straightness?

Well, there are a few bits of context missing that prevent anyone from really answering your question, and something else of note, as well.

For one thing, we don't know what you're posting beyond "seeking straight men." The context and content of those posts can make a difference. They could be responding because what you're looking for sounds fun to them, regardless of their own orientation.

We also don't know what sort of replies they're giving you, beyond you saying that the respondents are gay or bi. Are they saying that it sounds good to them, and you're dismissing them because their profiles say they're gay or bi and assume they're out to "convert" you? Or are they saying they want to go beyond what you're looking for (assuming your posts say what you're looking for and make your boundaries clear)?

Then there's what's noteworthy: You express upset at the "lack of respect," while characterizing bisexual men as "a gay man that would fuck a pussy, only if there is no cock to suck or another mans ass to fuck." Speaking as one, myself, I can't begin to tell you how wrong you are. It's possible to enjoy both, for different reasons, under different circumstances, just as it's possible to have fluctuating preferences for one over the other based on one's tastes/mood at the time, just like - to draw a very crude analogy - I might want a burger for dinner one night, and chicken another. When I want that burger, it's not because "there's no chicken to eat," it's because the burger is what I'm hungry for at that particular time. Your dismissal of bi men as nothing more than gay men who will have sex with any sort of hole out of desperation demonstrates a lack of respect on your own part.

So, rather than, "Bi Guy's so desprate that for some reason you think I'd turn and start loving cock more than pussy? Or want to give another man a facial, or jerk him off???? I don't look at a guy, and get turned on. Why cant you respect that? I think it's more of a challenge compition kind of thing. You Bi Guy's are trying to convince confused guy's so you can turn them," maybe - as mentioned earlier - those bi guys think that joining you in what you're looking for just simply sounds fun to them...you want to have some chicken, and so do they.

Are you talking about in here in JC proper, our out there in the JC chatrooms?

I simply placed an Ad. Seeking another Man "Straight" Who is aroused by the naked female body. One gentleman, responded by wanting me to cum in his face, why he chose to respond at all is beyond me? I guess he can't read. Or likes the Idea, of just being a jerk. I did get proper responses as well, but after initial contact did not respond. In my time on this JC site, and my history talking with Bi Men, they are more aroused by men then women.

I love how aggressively insecure a lot guys are on sites like this. It's just so funny.

I basically respect everyone's sexuality live and let live but why would a straight man want to masturbate with or suck another man off theirs nothing wrong with been bisexual but I think if your interested in mens genetalia that you should admit that you are bisexual to yourself

BRAVO!!

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I am a month away from being 80 years old. I grew up in New York City. When I was eleven years old, just getting involved with jacking myself, I discovered there were men who frequented the mensrooms on the subway system in order to jack off. For a good fifteen years those rooms, which were on every subway station, were my main places for jacking with others.

Occasionally one saw mutual jacking, and sometimes some guy would suck another, but mostly it was just standing at or near a urinal, jacking and looking at another guy doing the same. Never ever did I see guys kissing, or even hugging. In fact, usually there was not a word spoken.

In my early years I assumed all those guys were gay (meaning they had emotional feelings toward men) and simply hiding it, as they very probably had families. I came to realize that was my naivete. They simply liked jacking with like-minded men, and that was the place to do it.

When porn became legally available (starting with Lady Chatterley's Lover) it was all straight porn. To this day I can still get turned on by straight porn, and can happily jerk off to it, though my emotional pulls are to men.

In my middle years I had a few straight friends who would come over to my place and watch porn on DVDs. We would sit side by side and jack off, occasionally looking at each others dicks, and often timing our cumming to be at the same time. They were nice guys, and I enjoyed doing what we did, but I felt no emotional attraction to them.

So, to get back to the main question, I think if one wants to watch straight porn and j/o with another guy, that is what one should mention in a request. If two guys enjoy jacking together, what difference is it what they do in their off time? One doesn't have to discuss religion, or politics, or home life, just get on with having a good time.

Sexuality is very much a spectrum. Nobody but you has the right to tell you what you do or don't like, or what you feel like you identify as.

I think it's much more than a simple gay/bi/straight dynamic, as well. I've known women that identify as bi because they still like cock, but they really only emotionally resonate with other women, and date and have sex with women almost exclusively.

In that vein, I think it's perfectly acceptable to call yourself bi even if you only really find yourself enjoying cocks, and not find any other part of a man sexually appealing. Everyone has their own spectrum of things that get them going.

That's my take on it too. I've definitely run into enough bi/gay guys whose thing seems to start a chat with a straight guy, then want see just how far they can push things. It's annoying and gets old fast. However, I'm assuming that it's really just a small number of guys that actually do this, but you never see the ones that don't contact you.

Well said!

Now there are some great points. Thanks Goy's.