I think one of the most universal things about guys is that we all need our 'guy time.' That can be anything from escaping reality and our girlfriend or wife for a few hours watching a sports game, playing video games, or relaxing and masturbating behind her back. When a guy says he needs a break from the wife, it doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't love her or wishes he was out of the marriage, but it often means he needs time to himself to relax, unwind, and gather himself before going back to playing the role of partner or husband in the public eye.

I think that is what makes the idea of a jerk buddy so appealing to me is that it connects us with other men who are seeking the same escape for a small amount of time; we need a break from reality and want to share that with someone else who enjoys and appreciates the value in those moments. We understand the need to unwind and masturbate in a way that women can never understand. My wife would certainly be offended that I jerk to porn or that I jerk with other men online, and yet I need that escape to 'recharge' my batteries so to speak.

I am in a complicated situation where I am not conventionally attracted to men, want to have sex with them or make out with them; and yet I love the idea of having a close friend I could masturbate with in the privacy of my finished basement behind my wife's back. I imagine a friend who could come over and we tell her we'll be downstairs and to call down if she needs something as she reads or watches tv, and we take the time and privacy to relax on the sofa down there with a laptop between ourselves sharing porn and masturbating side by side as we shoot our loads; then we go back upstairs to grab a drink as if nothing happened and maintain the outward display of a regular friendship to my wife.

If you can relate to this in any degree, understand where I am coming from, or just want a friend to chat, vent, or masturbate with, hit me up. My kik is xreplicantdreamsx and discord is Replicant#1185 and my skype is SyntheticDreams2077

Well said, you'll find as you grow older a lot of men like me are happy with their marriage but sex has become little or nothing with the wife.
My wife is my friend and she has way too many good qualities to end our marriage because of her diminished sex drive, I love her and need her but a JO bud becomes important because the sex drive remains strong in men as woman tend to lose it.
I have no desire to kiss or have anal sex with another man but I would like to jack and suck his cock after getting to know him. Something I don't think she could ever understand along with my fetish for nylons, panties, fishnets etc.
Sorry if I rambled lol

Great post and I fully agree, we have sexual needs they usually need to be met elsewhere, i actually have a female wank buddy who I talk dirty with and she watches me wank for her, nothing more happens between us but it is such a release that when I get horny I can get on skype with her and release my cum for her

Some of my happiest and most intense sexual memories were those with JO buds in my younger years; one of them became my closest lifelong friend, best man at my wedding. For about a full decade it was a regular event for me and one or more buds to get together, share the thrill of big tit porn together and see and hear each other enjoying our cocks. I miss those years.

I deeply love my wife and in many ways our sex life has only gotten better through the years - she got way more sensual and slutty when she hit 40, I can get her off in less than 2 minutes, and every now and then she still lets me shove ballsdeep down her throat.

And I still want to jerk it with guys. Just the acceptance among men of our male desires, the sound of dirty talk and fantasies, hearing other guys break the "proper" public personalities we have and growl and gasp about how tight that pussy looks, how much we'd want to fuck all 3 of those holes, etc., was a major shaping part of my life and I wish I had it back. Sometimes I fantasize about going further, but really that's all I want.

Taking any break from the judgmental presence of women is a slice of heaven.

I've recently discovered that I'm Bi. Not emotionally, just sexually. I prefer women but I have a cock fetish. Recently had oral sex and enjoyed it. Private message me if you want to cam or just chat.

That is the same way I am. I just want to play with other cocks and swallow sperm. And I would return the favor and let them suck my cock and swallow my sperm.

I fully understand and can relate to your words. Something I could not have explained better. I often browse other sites for opportunities to watch guys masturbate, as I do the same. Thanks for sharing your thoughts....it's comforting.

What a great topic. At 66, I never had the internet in my younger years to find other men with my same feelings. One thing I know is that other men know how it feels to mastubate and suck cock, more so than our wives. For the men that say they don't like anal, never say never. Enjoy that ass. There's a ton of nerve endings there and its hard to beat a prostate massage. Again, it takes a man to experience this.I think this is one reason we enjoy the locker room and saunas so much.

41 MWM married 10 years but with my wife for 24. As like many here, love my wife, but her sex drive has long died after 3 kids. Ive always masturbated alot, but now its all i really get.

Cammed for years, originally on the old yahoo groups but nowadays with mycircle/whereby room visitors, love watching other guys get off on the same things as me, but never been interested in sucking/being sucked/physical interaction with the other guy. Often thought of hooking up with a guy/group of guys to sit, chat shit, watch some porn, jack off together... but whenever you start getting past the first few convos... it always seem to be the other party wants physical aswell. So im quite happy with online only. Who knows, maybe the person group wank will happen in the future.

You took the words right out of my mouth!

So much I think we can all relate to here, especially those of us with menopausal wives who used to have high sex drives but are now pretty much non existent.

I think this is why so many of us like to stroke over pictures of our wives with other guys, as a way of still getting sexual satisfaction from them, and feeling a kind of intimacy with another person at the same time. In addition it is a way of reliving the wild times and good old days that I guess we thought would last forever before we realised the reality of female hormonal changes, I guess in a similar way in which you would relive and reminisce over old sports games or gigs with another guy.

I also have come to recognize as I have gotten older that sexuality is basically a spectrum. Most of us grow up thinking we are basically "straight", as we have no romantic attraction to other men, and don't basically "fancy" them in the way a gay man would, but the reality is the vast majority of us at least love the sight of a proud, erect, engorged cock and heavy balls, and jets of hot semen shooting from it. This is why so many men send dick pics to women, pictures of cocks make us horny, so we assume that it has the same effect on them (it doesn't). In this regard we are all bisexual to some extent, but we live in such a repressed society we are all stupidly embarrassed to admit it, or to be open about the healthiness and benefits of mutual male masturbation.

I am as "feminist" as the next person, but it is a fact that western society now has a preoccupation with female sexual needs, it is oh so open about how great it is for women to masturbate and have multiple orgasms, but any mention of male masturbation and pleasure is unfairly frowned upon and sneered at. This imbalance can only be redressed by being as open and proud as we can about taking pleasure in our own, and each other's, cocks, and our appreciation of our own sexual desires. Most men fantasise about filthy things, most older men fantasise about fucking young (legal age, obvs) women. That is natural it doesn't make us bad people, and women need to recognize that and deal with it.

Hi from Calgary Canada...

I was a active in the gay life style in my youth but always had an interest in being with women, which I did a couple of times. I got into some M-F-M threesomes, these were perfect, best of both worlds! Mid life I met a gal with incredible sexual sparks and was exclusive with her, period.

(She knew I was bi..). As heard from others here, my wifes' sexuality sailed off leaving me frustrated and longing for release.

I'm drawn to slim, partners. Once COVID is under control, am keen to meet for discrete times.

Lastky, having had my prostate removed, no semen or risk of being a Dad, anbd thankfully still have erections!

just someone to get off with and hang out...
or chat here online when both like same topics.
enjoy it myself.